01/09/2026
i recently learned about something called the starting over theory, and it knocked the wind out of me in the best way.
the theory is simple:
every time your life asks you to begin again â in your creativity, your marriage, your career, your identity â it isnât proof that you âfailed.â
itâs proof that your soul is evolving faster than your old life can hold.
starting over doesnât mean you lost the plot.
it means you outgrew it.
no one tells you this part.
no one tells you that the version of you who walked away wasnât the quitter â she was the one brave enough to say,
âthis chapter has nothing left for me, and iâm willing to bet my life on the next one.â
no one tells you how terrifying it feels when the familiarity collapses.
how naked it feels to not know what comes after the ending.
how lonely it can be to reinvent when everyone else thinks they already know who you are.
but hereâs what the starting over theory teaches:
your biggest breakthroughs donât happen in the chapter thatâs working.
they happen in the space between the collapse and the rebirthâŚ
the blank page, the quiet room, the moment your ego whispers âdonât do itâ and your intuition says âgo.â
starting over is spiritual.
itâs identity alchemy.
itâs dismantling the version of you who survived
so you can become the version of you who thrives.
so if youâre in your starting over era â
if something ended, if a door closed, if youâre grieving a life you thought you wanted â
i hope you remember this:
your new life needs space.
your new timeline needs permission.
your new identity needs you to believe she exists before anyone else recognizes her.
and she does exist.
sheâs already walking toward you.
letâs start over together. đŤ Stone.Healing