Vonda "Vondie" Lozano, Ph.D., Marriage and Family Therapist

06/26/2025

the best book EVER for overachievers! 😍

05/20/2025

it all comes down to love 🥰

Dr. Robert Waldinger is Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, Director of the Center for Psychodynamic Therapy and Research at Massachusetts Gen...

01/25/2025

Yes yes yes! 😃

01/22/2025

We get hardwired to accept bad behavior. Instead of realizing we deserve to be treated with love kindness and respect. 🙏🏼

The scars of your past may have taught you to cling to those who dim your light, fearing the darkness of being alone. But as you heal, like the moon finding her fullness after a long eclipse, you understand that the real fear lies not in losing others, but in losing the essence of who you are. You are the wildflower that grows fiercely, untamed by the winds of others’ expectations. Protect your roots, nurture your own soil, and never let anyone make you forget the power you hold within.🐢

True healing begins with the bravery to prioritize yourself, refusing to let the fear of losing others dictate your worth. The real question is: will you continue to betray your own peace to keep others comfortable, or will you rise fiercely and embrace the untamed freedom of living authentically?

Tara Isis Gerris

01/18/2025

Heroes among us. 🙏🏼

01/13/2025

Ahhh yes… 🥰

Restoration... 🙏

01/10/2025

That's how good therapy works. 💜

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08/27/2024

OMG! Have I mentioned my Otter obsession???
Sea otter's partner is trapped and needs help... I know it's reddit, but worth it. Be sure to watch to the end! It's all about LOVE. 💜🦦😍

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08/15/2024

Love this. Go to your center first... 💙

And go to your center first,
before you go anywhere else.
—MB

05/18/2024

I shared this in a group where someone asked - What's the biggest cause of Divorce? I got NO REPLIES. 🤔

"I'm a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. I'ts sad because most of the conflict has to do with stuff we're not even aware of. Usually we trigger each other's stuff from childhood. But people blame the other person instead of finding out what's really bothering them - the partner does something (usually unintentionally) that hurts the other person that reminds them of how they were hurt growing up. And then they overreact.

When couples learn how to recognize and heal those old family-of-origin wounds they're not so easiily triggered. Plus when you know what your partner's vulnerable areas are the last thing you want to do is make them feel worse. Intead you want to take care of each other. And if you're both willing to do the work and want it to work, it usually can. Not always, but most of the time. At least that's been my experience working with couples."

05/02/2024

Just finished Anthony Bordain book with interviews from people who knew and loved him. SO SAD. An addict trying to fill himself up with work. And then love. But when that failed him he gave up. Also sounds like some mental illness - bipolar?

Everyone wishes he would have reached out or that they could have reached him before it was too late... Makes you want to hug your loved ones and hold them tight... for sure. We all really do need each other. It's our OXYGEN. 🫶🏼💟🙏🏻

04/30/2024

REAL LOVE is actually very "codependent." The difference is - you're both doing it. You're both caring for each other. It's not just one person giving and one person taking.