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08/24/2025

This is so true and something many do not realize will happen. Anger must be dealt with in a constructive way, or it will come out in a destructive way and possibly in an explosion after building up over time. Learn ways to express your feelings in a healthy way, learn to release them, and then move forward. Anger is part of every day life. Figure out what works for you and do it. Avoidance is not the answer. . .

08/13/2025

It is a gift to ourselves to let things go. The gift is being able to move forward without the baggage and energy it takes holding onto things. Letting things go does not mean forgetting. It means accepting what happened, knowing that you cannot change the past, and doing the most healthy thing for yourself. That means learning how to accept what happened. This can be the biggest challenge of all. Enter therapy, punch pillows, talk to a friend, journal, take a bath. Do whatever it takes to help you let it go and then truly let it go and move forward more freely.

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07/25/2025

So many people are averse to conflict. Unfortunately, conflict is part of life. We all must learn the skills to communicate effectively and constructively. When something bothers us in a relationship, learn to talk about it calmly. Open up to your loved one, and work on improving the relationship. Without being able to express yourself openly, the relationship will not be able to grow. Little things can mushroom into something bigger. Anger, frustration, and resentment grow and fester unless they are resolved in some way. Discussing issues with your significant other is the first step. Then learning from our mistakes and changing our behavior becomes critical. At some point, if the feelings are not expressed, they will come out in a way that is not constructive or healthy. Work on talking issues through as they come up. If you need help in learning these skills and/or learning how to communicate in a healthy way, reach out. It is always a strength to seek out help when it is needed. .

07/02/2025

Everyone is different and reacts in their own special way to events in their lives. Different does not have to be bad or wrong. There is no one way of coping with the challenging times that happen in all of our lives. Try to understand that others may behave in ways that you would not. It is their way of coping. Judgment can come both verbally and non-verbally. Be aware of what you are communicating to others. Try to truly be there for others and stop judging! .

Let's be there for one another 💜

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06/13/2025

There are times when we all need to accept reality. Try as we might, we are not able to change what is. True wisdom comes from knowing when we have the power to change things and when we can accept that no matter what we do, we cannot change what is, what will be, or what has happened. . .

Life becomes lighter the moment we realize this simple truth: we are not in control of everything. Storms will come. People will leave. Plans will fall apart. And no matter how hard we try, we can't control everything around us. But we can control how we respond.

Suffering often begins when we resist reality—when we cling to what “should be” instead of accepting what is. We replay past mistakes, stress over uncontrollable outcomes, and exhaust ourselves trying to fix things that aren’t ours to fix.

But peace doesn’t come from control. It comes from clarity.
Clarity to know the difference between what we can change, and what we must accept.
Your mindset? You can control that.
Your actions? You can control that.
Other people’s choices, the past, the weather, fate? You can’t.

So instead of fighting reality, work with it. Adapt. Grow. Let go.
Stop pouring energy into battles that aren’t yours.
Choose peace over control.
Acceptance over resistance.
Growth over perfection.

When you do, you'll discover that life doesn’t need to be perfect to be beautiful—it just needs to be real. 💫

05/22/2025

No other person holds the key to your happiness. The person in charge of that is you. Remember that you are in charge of your own life. The only person you can change is you. If there are aspects of your life that you would like to be different, make the changes. Realize there are things you can change, things you cannot change, and things that you will need to accept. If you are in an unhappy relationship, make changes to the things you say and do. Seek out help to learn new skills and/or better ways of communicating. Think long and hard about if this is a relationship that is healthy and constructive for you. Do not expect the other person to change, unless s/he wants to change and is willing to do the work. Figure out what your goals and needs are and have the courage to move forward in whatever way is best for you. . .

true happiness comes from within rather than relying on external factors or people to create it for us. Here’s a deeper look at what it means:

1. **Self-Reliance in Happiness** – When you take responsibility for your happiness, you empower yourself. You recognize that your thoughts, choices, and actions shape your emotional well-being, rather than depending on others to fill that role.

2. **The Danger of External Expectations** – If you rely on others—whether a partner, friend, or society—to make you happy, you set yourself up for disappointment. People are imperfect, and circumstances change. No one can meet all your emotional needs 100% of the time.

3. **Inner Fulfillment vs. External Validation** – Seeking happiness from others often leads to a cycle of dependency. Instead of finding joy in self-growth, purpose, and gratitude, you might constantly chase approval, love, or material success, which can be fleeting and unsatisfying.

4. **Empowerment Through Self-Awareness** – When you accept that happiness is your responsibility, you start making choices that align with your well-being—engaging in activities that fulfill you, cultivating positive mindsets, and building resilience against life’s challenges.

5. **Healthier Relationships** – When you're responsible for your own happiness, you bring a sense of wholeness into relationships. Instead of burdening others with the expectation of making you happy, you share joy with them, leading to stronger, more fulfilling connections.

In essence, happiness is an inside job. Others can enhance your joy, but they should not be the source of it. True contentment comes from self-acceptance, growth, and the ability to find peace within yourself.

04/23/2025

Some may be afraid to be alone, others may feel they are being left behind as family members and friends get married. It is better be alone than marry the wrong individual. Think long and hard when looking for and finding a partner. Make sure you can communicate constructively and that you can both truly listen and hear what the other is saying. Respect and trust are part of all healthy relationships. Do not settle for less than you deserve, and we all deserve the very best. . .

04/12/2025

There are times when enough is enough. Only you can make that decision. Some will say-I am staying in this marriage for the children, others will fear what will happen financially in a divorce, or say -I love him/her. There are times when love is not enough. It will be challenging for everyone, including the children, and the finances will work out in one way or another. We all need to know when it is time to move on in spite of how challenging it will be. Life is too short to be miserable and unhappy., with no hope for the future. Think about all of your choices, and also think of yourself and what is best for you moving forward. Ask the hard questions, listen to your heart. You will know what is right for you. Then move forward. . .

03/31/2025

This is an important lesson to learn no matter how old one is. Feelings are part of life, and we all must learn constructive ways of coping with them. However behaviors are actions-verbal as well as physical- that we choose to take. Behaviors can be constructive or destructive. Take a pause before taking an action you might regret in the future. .

03/24/2025

I will always miss you…
It’s not easy living with this huge sense of missing, but I do it - I don’t have a choice.
~Beautiful Ramblings

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03/10/2025

It is so important to take care of ourselves and equally important to be good role models for our children. Our children watch us, imitate us, and grow up learning to be like us. Teach them the importance of valuing yourself. Teach them about respect, trust, loyalty, and patience. Remember actions speak louder than words. Do as you say, and say as you do. Children have one childhood and one set of parents. Help them grow up learning the values that are important to you and in peaceful environments. . .

They are not just watching us - they are reflecting us. Our energy, our emotions, our unspoken struggles all echo in them. When we find balance, they find peace. When we heal, they THRIVE. ❤️

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02/17/2025

Apologizing is more than words. Words are important, however there is more. After apologizing, you must change the things that you say and do. Learn from your mistakes, become a better person, and have the strength to admit you are not perfect. .