03/12/2024                                                                            
                                    
                                                                            
                                            Let’s talk about boundaries. This seems like an ever repeating lesson for me but I hope that now I’ve got it. 
Having come out of a three week non-stop role as a caretaker which sent me in a burn-out spiraling and coming down with a virus at the end. My body desperately needed help, I desperately needed help during that challenging time but I  kept on pushing and pushing and pushing my boundaries and my limits until my body gave up and said: I can take no more. So, sitting at the Dr’s office now waiting for my daughter, I’m reminiscing on what I could have done differently, where I could have set or reinforced  boundaries so that I would not have had this burn out experience in the end. For the body is wise and the body knows when it can go no more. The problem is not listening to your body. Not listening creates a spiraling effect, creates trauma and all that spirals out and manifests into a physical illness. That is the only way for our 
body to get our attention and to tell us that we must slow down for the physical instrument that our body is to be able to safely handle the load without causing us harm. 
 So what could I have done differently?                                     1. Set up and reinforce strong boundaries. It is ok to say NO. 2. Ask for help from those around you. It is OK to ask others, including your guests for help.                                                    3. Looking ahead and seeing if you have any overlapping events or scheduling conflicts, not hoping that everything will sort itself out but rather raising your voice and asking for the schedules to be rearranged or adequate help be provided during those moments so that you don’t feel like you are drowning and completely emptying your glass.                      So, as I’m writing this, I’m writing this memo to myself and all others out there who resonate with it, for the lessons in setting up boundaries and limits have been shoved right at my face. Yes, Universe, I understand and yes, Universe, I promise to speak up and take better care of my body. Amen.