09/11/2025
I’ve coached a large number of people over the last decade and something I see play out very routinely is this.
Goals like this:
-“abs”
-5 lbs lighter
-2 pants sizes smaller
-“weighing what I weighed in college”
Pale massively in comparison to goals like this:
-I want to get back into my old hobbies
-I want to be able to walk around the theme park all day with my family
-I want to feel better about myself
Those that chase numbers-based (often times) vanity goals are effective in getting us started and taking action, but often times don’t create the feeling we thought they would, once achieved.
Most people feel better well before abs or their old college weight, by way of committing to doing something that requires constant effort, and continuing to follow through.
When you set goals, don’t do it blindly.
Our goals should solve problems.
What problem will abs solve for you?
What problem with weighing what you weighed in college solve for you?
High likelihood you want to feel better, see yourself in a more positive light, and increase your self confidence. All of which will happen organically during the process of showing up for yourself, consistently.
The happiest clients I’ve had are the ones that go from watching life play out and feeling like they’re sitting on the sidelines, to reclaiming their health and getting back into DOING things in their life that they couldn’t do before.
My favorite goals to see listed out from new clients involve things they want to get back to doing, because they physical changes we earn accompanied by their growing self-belief often make those things possible far sooner than they realized.
And those things last, and stay important to them, whereas abs, not ‘worth it’ for most people.
