Neva Barno, EdD, CMPC

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Neva Barno, EdD, CMPC

Helping athletes master their mental game.

11/17/2025

A Coast Guard instructor who trains pilots in the Cessna 172 reached out and said,
“My students know what to do — they just fall apart when the pressure hits. I need something I can use tomorrow.”

So I made this guide.

Because flying isn’t just technical skill.
It’s managing stress in a tiny, loud aircraft while making decisions that matter.

The cockpit is one of the most mentally demanding environments you can train in.
And yes — mental skills can make or break performance.

If you want the same guide I sent him, DM me “PILOT.” I’ll send it your way.

And if you need a quick, customized guide for your athletes, your team, or a specific high-pressure situation — I can create those too. Just reach out. ✈️

10/11/2025

No one walks alone. 💜
This year’s NAMIWalks Coastal Virginia raised over $37,000 for mental health support and advocacy.
A new yearly tradition to honor my mom — and to keep walking for those who can’t.

08/29/2025

It’s hard to believe we’re approaching one year since my mom passed away. 💙 In the months that followed, I poured my grief into action—and with the incredible support of friends and family, we raised $7,665 for NAMI in her honor.

This year, I’m continuing that mission by leading the Barno Walking Team at the NAMI Walk in Virginia Beach on October 11th. I walk in memory of my mom, but this team is open to anyone—whether you’re honoring someone you love, walking for your own journey, or simply showing support.

If you’re local, I’d love for you to join me in person. And if not, you can still be part of this by making a donation from afar. Every step—and every gift—is for awareness, for hope, and for change. 👟💙 https://www.namiwalks.org/teams/78388

06/05/2025

Not all “tough love” is love.
Some athletes aren’t just recovering from injury or burnout.
They’re healing from their coach.

The coach who yelled more than they taught.
Who used fear to get results.
Who confused control with leadership.
Who made athletes question their worth—not just their skills.

“Tough love” is only love if it’s rooted in respect, trust, and care.
Without that? It’s just toughness. And sometimes, it’s trauma.

Athletes who internalize that kind of coaching don’t just leave with a better jump shot or faster time.
They leave with self-doubt. Anxiety. Perfectionism.
A belief that they’ll never be enough unless they earn love through performance.

We don’t talk about it enough:
You can love your sport and still be healing from the person who was supposed to guide you through it.

If this is you—you’re not weak.
You’re not being dramatic.
You’re doing the work to break a pattern that never should have been normalized.

Let’s stop calling it “tough love” when it’s just emotional harm in a tracksuit.

Athletes deserve coaches who push them and protect them.
Who hold them accountable and care for their mental wellbeing.

It’s not soft. It’s what real leadership looks like.

06/04/2025

Too often, athletes are praised for pushing through pain, pressure, or exhaustion.

But here’s the truth:
“Push through” is what your brain does when it feels like it has no other option.

It’s not sustainable—and it’s not strength.

Real mental skills?
They don’t ignore stress or override your needs.
They give you the awareness, tools, and capacity to respond with intention.

Here’s what we should be teaching athletes instead:

✅ Self-awareness – Know what your body and brain are telling you
✅ Emotional regulation – Stay steady under pressure without shutting down
✅ Focus & refocus – Lock in on what matters, even after mistakes
✅ Rest & recovery – Understand that performance includes recharge
✅ Values-based effort – Work hard for something meaningful, not from fear
✅ Grit with grace – Perseverance that includes boundaries, not burnout

Pushing through might get you one more rep.
Mental skills help you show up over and over again—and stay healthy doing it.

You deserve more than just survival.
You deserve tools to thrive.

05/24/2025

Your job demands sharpness, speed, and control under pressure. But burnout creeps in when you ignore recovery.

Here’s the shift:
✅ Plan rest like a mission
✅ Respect it like PT
✅ Use mindfulness to recognize when your system needs to reset

Rest = Performance. Recovery = Readiness.
Train smart. Recover smarter.

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05/15/2025

In tactical environments, reactions can be fast—but not always effective.
When stress spikes—after a bad call, a mistake, or a trigger—your instinct is to react immediately.

But mindfulness gives you a tactical edge.
Instead of reacting, take one deep breath.
That pause creates space to choose your next move with clarity and control.

⚡️Reacting is automatic.
🧠Responding is intentional.
In the pause, you lead.

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05/13/2025

In high-pressure environments—whether it’s a mission, drill, or training evolution—where you place your eyes impacts how your brain responds.

Before movement or action, find one small detail to lock in on:
→ A patch.
→ A grip point.
→ A target.

This sharpens your attention, calms your nervous system, and keeps you locked into the present.

Focus starts with vision.
And vision starts with awareness.

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05/12/2025

Your mind will wander—it’s part of being human (and an athlete). The key is learning how to refocus without judgment.

Whether it’s school, a mistake, or the noise in the crowd, try this:
→ Silently say: “That’s a thought, not my focus.”
Then bring your attention back to what’s in front of you.

This is mindfulness:
Notice. Name. Refocus.
The more you practice, the faster your brain learns to stay in the moment.

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05/09/2025

When you start overthinking an entire game, race, or workout, your stress goes up—and performance goes down.

Mindfulness helps you bring it back to the present moment.
Just this sprint.
Just this drill.
Just this rep.

The more you focus on now, the more consistent—and calm—you become.

Next time you feel pressure creeping in, repeat:
“Just this rep.”

It’s a simple cue with powerful results.

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05/07/2025

Mindfulness means being intentional with your thoughts, actions, and energy.
One of the simplest ways to shift your mindset is to smile—yes, really.

Research shows that even a fake smile can lower stress and help you focus.
Before your next practice, lift, or game, take a breath and smile.

This small act sends a message to your brain:
“I’m calm. I’m confident. I’m in control.”

Athletes like Usain Bolt do this to stay relaxed under pressure. You can too.

Give it a try and notice how it shifts your awareness, mood, and performance.

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05/05/2025

Mindfulness isn’t just breathing or meditation—it’s being aware of how your body and mind feel in the moment, and choosing tools that help you respond with intention.

Music is one of those tools.

Feeling anxious before a game?
→ Try slow, steady beats to calm your breathing and heart rate.

Feeling flat or unmotivated?
→ Use upbeat, energizing tracks to lift your mood and sharpen your focus.

The key is to listen on purpose. Use music not to distract yourself, but to tune in—to how you’re feeling and what you need.

Mindfulness = choosing with awareness.

What’s your go-to pre-game song that gets you in the zone?
Comment below and tag a teammate!

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