04/08/2026
So—this is something I’ve never shared before…
but for whatever reason, right now feels like the time when what I’ve experienced will be most relevant for you.
In 2018, I supported a client through one of the most difficult decisions of her life—leaving her husband after discovering years of infidelity.
I held space for her to choose herself.
Even when it was painful.
Even when it felt impossible.
What I didn’t know…
was how deeply that decision would impact my own life.
After she left, her husband directed a great deal of anger and rage toward me.
For years, he went to great lengths to try to harm me—hiring people to follow me, involving others, and sending waves of negativity in my direction.
At times, it felt unsettling.
At times, overwhelming.
And for a long time…
I carried this.
Even though it’s the experience itself has over for several years.
……..
Recently, something nudged me to give myself space to truly sit with this experience.
Not to analyze it.
Not to fix it.
Just to be with what was still there.
And in that space, something softened.
I began to see how much I had been holding—
how deeply I felt a sense of powerlessness in that situation.
A part of me believed someone else could take something from me…
could hurt me…
simply because I chose to shine.
………
From that awareness, something shifted.
I found myself ready—
ready to let go.
To release the years of pain I had been carrying.
To forgive.
Not because what happened was okay…
but because I no longer desire to hold it in my body, my heart, or my life.
……….
What this experience has shown me is this:
When we hold onto the past, it doesn’t stay there.
It lives within us… shaping how we feel, how we respond, how we see ourselves.
Without realizing it, we continue to experience it in the present.
Freedom isn’t found in changing what happened.
It’s found in how we meet it now.
Everything—even the “bad things”—happen for a positive purpose.
………
There was a time I tried to reclaim my power through anger… through defending myself… through pushing back.
But that only kept me connected to the very thing I was trying to move beyond.
What I’ve come to understand is this:
My power was never in “trying” to defend myself or prove I was stronger. To blame the other person.
To wish it never happened.
My power has always been in my perspective.
In the meaning I choose to make of the experience.
And in the way I see it now.
In my understanding of Who I AM at my core.
………
So today, I feel gratitude.
For what it revealed.
For what it asked of me.
For the way it guided me back to true myself.
Because it showed me something I will carry with me always:
My soul choose that experience for a powerful purpose, and I know without a shadow of a doubt that I AM never given something by chance..
I have been wanting to know for a long time that no one has the authority to take something from me… to hurt me…
unless I assign them that role.
And that…
Well that is true power.
…..
And to you—the ex-husband:
Thank you.
For helping me learn how to have true power.
I forgive you.
I really do.
I see now that your actions came from a place of fear, pain, and not knowing how to be with what you were feeling.
Hurt people, hurt people.
I no longer need to carry that.
I send you compassion.
I send you love.
And I truly wish you a life free from that kind of suffering.
…..
So… I want to ask all of you:
Is there something in your life you’re still holding onto?
Can you bring unconditional presence to it?
Can you ask yourself:
Am I ready to be free… or am I still trying to be right?
Because the moment you choose presence in the face of pain..
You gain freedom…
everything begins to open.
And the lesson you were meant to learn from that experience become so clear.
And peace returns.
Not because it was ever missing but because you allowed it to emerge.
Xoxo
Elizabeth
Ps: The below pic, is a throw back from 2018, and wow, I can’t believe this me held all this..
… Sending unconditional love to this verison of me.. 😘
