09/19/2020
SUGGESTIONS FROM AFTER THE LAST ELECTION
C. Rick Ellis, a Virginia Beach clinical psychologist, said he's seen both ends of the spectrum at Spectrum Psychological and Neurotherapy Services in Virginia Beach: "It was like putting a magnifying glass on people's emotions."
And those emotions were not limited to patients. A fellow therapist spent election night crying.
His advice?
"Get out and do something physical, like chopping some wood," he said. (I also said a lot of other things)
People who feel they lost need to move through anger and denial and blame.
"If you don't like the way things are going, do something to improve things locally," Ellis said. "What can you do in your sphere of influence to make things better?"
Volunteer in your community, advocate for a local issue you support or join a local group working for change you think is important. Or just do a simple act of generosity, like opening a door for someone or making a donation.
Those whose candidate won should try not to gloat.
"People need to recognize we're all one country, and we need to work together," Ellis said. "We need to make sure we are sending out good messages for our children. That we have differences of opinions. That we respect each other. We don't gloat when we win, or rub it in. We don't blame or point fingers when we lose. We need to get back to sanity."
Also, recognize you are not alone.
Election stress is a real thing, whether you win or you lose. Some tips to help you through a polarizing event: Unplug. Go outside. Take a deep breath. Remember to take the long view. Do something positive to move your favorite cause forward.