Dr. Amanda Brees

01/10/2026

There’s a version of “true love” that isn’t love at all.

It’s obsession and attachment disguised as romance. 🥀

It’s being hyper-fixated on finding the one while quietly believing something is inherently wrong with you.

Always on the apps.
Always self-analyzing.
Always trying to heal your way out of the fear that if you were “better,” love would finally stay.

Relationships turn into cycles of intensity and collapse.

Obsessed, then avoidant.
Hopeful, then resentful.
Never fully okay alone. Never settled together.

Not because you’re broken — but because you’re trying to regulate fear through romance. 😮‍💨

So you fix people.
You love potential.
You confuse chemistry with safety.
You call anxiety passion.

And no amount of self-help inside relationships ever resolves it, because the fear isn’t about the partner.

It’s about abandonment — of self. 💔

Eventually, something shifts.

You get done fixing.
Done chasing.
Done abandoning yourself to feel chosen. 🔥

You begin accepting people for who they are.

And in that acceptance, you finally accept yourself. 🤍

Your focus turns toward your God attachment instead of constant relational monitoring.
You learn how to be content inside relationship and outside of it. 🙏

Your life expands.

The energy you once spent obsessing, managing, and performing gets poured into your calling, your creativity, your life’s work. ✨

This isn’t independence.

It’s interdependence.

The ability to love without disappearing.
To desire partnership without needing it to survive. 🌿

That’s real magnetism.

Wholeness.

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01/09/2026

🤍 Trauma-centered. Not relationally fixated.

Complex trauma does not live only in the mind.

It lives in the body.
In the nervous system.
In the places where feeling had to shut down so life could continue.

For many women, the womb becomes the primary holding place for unresolved trauma.
Heartbreak that never had space.
Betrayal that could not be named.
Abandonment that had to be normalized to survive.

This is not pathology.
It is adaptation.

Feminine shamanic and Christian mystical traditions never asked people to bypass suffering.
They understood healing as descent, surrender, and release.
Death before resurrection.
Truth before peace.

This work is not about fixing relationships.
It is about restoring the body after years of fragmentation.

When trauma releases, something simple returns.
Capacity.
Presence.
Choice.

You stop organizing your life around survival responses.
You stop bracing for impact.
You stop living from old wounds.

This is the foundation of Anointed.
Not self improvement.
Not spiritual performance.
But embodied liberation from complex trauma.

Follow for teachings on trauma release, nervous system healing, and embodied spiritual maturity rooted in ancient wisdom.

01/06/2026

Biggest lie in the relationship industry 🙋🏼‍♀️

That staying is the definition of success.

Especially in the church, we’re surrounded by people touting “healthy” marriages —
while the data shows Christian marriages divorce at similar rates as secular ones.

Yikes.

More often than not, people don’t stay because it’s best for the couple or the children.
They stay because of pride.
Fear of cost.
Fear of being wrong.
Fear of starting over.

I’m not a dating coach.
I’m a relationship trauma coach.

And the courage I’ve had to practice — again and again — has been the courage to leave the toxic tango, stop generational cycles, and set a different example for my children.

Not because I gave up on love.
But because I refuse to.

When you’ve lived with attachment trauma, love can look like:
🤍 choosing what’s unavailable because it feels familiar
🕊 calling anxiety “chemistry”
🌹 over-giving so you won’t be abandoned
🔥 confusing intensity with safety

Here’s the truth no one celebrates enough:
Staying too long isn’t success.
Having the courage to finally let go — after you’ve tried, hoped, prayed, and stayed — often is.

You are not broken.
You are patterned.

Comment MAGNETIZE and I’ll send you the Kickstart Workshop link.

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01/06/2026

let’s talk attachment + somatics.

because attachment isn’t just about relationships.
it’s about how safe your body feels in the world.

if your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, no amount of “good communication” will fix that.

i’m currently in advanced polyvagal training, which is the foundation of somatic psychotherapy and trauma-informed healing.
this work explains why the body reacts before the mind ever catches up.

and honestly, this isn’t new.
yoga therapy and ancient healing traditions have been working with the nervous system long before psychology gave it language.

here’s what this looks like in real life:

💚 ventral vagal
you feel grounded, present, connected.
you can hold boundaries without abandoning yourself.
this is where trust and intimacy live.

⚡ sympathetic
your body goes into urgency.
anxiety, overthinking, fixing, pushing for answers, needing resolution now.
your system thinks speed equals safety.

🧊 dorsal vagal
shutdown, collapse, numbness, pulling away.
or staying quiet and appeasing just to keep the peace.
this is incredibly common after complex trauma and codependency.

most survivors cycle between sympathetic and dorsal for years.
healing isn’t about trying harder or explaining better.

it’s about restoring enough safety to come back to ventral.

this week, i felt betrayal in my body before i could explain it away.
old me would’ve fawned. stayed. fixed. minimized.

instead, i paused.
noticed the state i was in.
and chose regulation before response.

that’s attachment healing.
not a mindset. not a script.
a lived, embodied skill.

if you’re done people-pleasing your way through life and ready to feel safe inside yourself again, you’re in the right place.

→ comment magnetize for the link to my kickstart workshop.

01/05/2026

Hi, I’m Dr. Amanda Brees.

I’m a pastoral counselor, yoga therapist, and biblical naturopath.

I help:
🤍 Christian mystics
🌿 maha moms who want to heal differently
🕊 trauma survivors ready to untangle toxic love patterns

This work is for women who are done over-spiritualizing pain
and done pathologizing their faith.

We heal the roots.
The body.
The nervous system.
The attachment wounds.

Holistically.

If this resonates, take a look around and follow along.

→ Follow for more insight on healing codependency, trauma, and faith-centered wellness.

traumarecovery faithandhealing

01/05/2026

👉 Top mistakes I see in trauma recovery...

1. Leaving God out of the recovery picture

The dating advice world is overly focused on psychology and self help without embracing the Divine as THE solution that is missing in anxious attachment.

Regardless of what you name the Creator, this AA approach of appealing to that higher power is the medicine 90% of the dating world is missing.

God-attachment is missing ingredient.

We need to learn to trust ourselves, others and SPIRIT.

Having faith in the journey itself is half the battle.

2. Not letting their partners be exactly who they are.

This is especially the case with codependents and love addicts (preaching to the choir here)...

We can't trust a person we don't accept. We must let them be who they are...

With toxic tangos, the bait is to try and fix the people we love.

We run with an unconscious desire to be chosen when the medicine is to finally chose ourselves and stop abandoning ourselves to someone else's addiction or chaos.

No longer judging them, blaming them, or pointing fingers...

Just radically accepting the truth of what they are capable of and moving on in surrender to that reality.

3. Not forgiving the past

Again, guilty as charged on this one.

For years, I was told I needed to forgive my daughter's father.

I tried.

I didn't know what else to do or say to let it go...

Until finally, I turned it over to God and said, "Look. I'm done holding onto this. I don't know exactly how to forgive him, but I am ready to. Please help me do that."

Interestingly, it didn't take more than a few weeks to shift out of a five year dating hiatus back into the flow of relating.

I had drifted into love avoidance.

I hadn't got 'right' in the past, so I thought I was stuck.

Wrong.

I was exactly on my path.

Nothing inherently wrong with me.

No one to blame.

Just radical surrender to the will of God and the flow of life...

Did this story end by 'arriving' at some pedestal marriage I could point to and waive in society's face as 'evidence' that I was final healed and should therefore be listened to?

Nope.

It looked like leaving an addicted partner instead of marrying one again.

10/20/2025

10/05/2025

👉I'll never forget the first time I tried dating again after spending five years reconciling with my own battle journey of codependency recovery.

My friend later told me that the date she set me up with had looked me up online. He was understandably confused. "She's a dating/relationship coach, but she's single?"

This dear friend chimed back seamlessly, "I think she means relationship TRAUMA."

Exactly. 🎤

This experience of re-emerging into the dating year after overcoming my struggle with serial monogamy taught me something vital: my calling was not to be another dating coach in a world swimming with dating advice.

My calling is (and always has been) to help Christian mystics, MAHA moms and trauma survivors heal their broken hearts in the wake of complex and family trauma (aka: heartbreak).

So, what do I believe that most coaches fail to address?

⚡Your relationship status simply doesn't matter.

You can do years of inner healing work and therapy, but still not have the courage to leave a toxic tango.

Or you can be hiding from love spending too many years single thinking something is inherently wrong with you.

That's where I come in.

Instead of fixating on outward manifestations of love as partners, we focus on dealing with our end of the toxic tango.

We turn the tendency to fix others (codependency) into the calling it was always meant to become (healing others).

💫 If that's not odd enough?

We also use a toolbox of Christian contemplative methods to catalyze root cause transformation...

So that you can finally come home to yourself and find (TRUE) soulmate love.

That may or may not have anything to do with a manifest partner.

Sound interesting?

Click the link in my bio to download my free roadmap!

Blessings!
Dr. Amanda

03/24/2025

✨ Kriya Yoga isn’t about religion—it's about experiencing direct union with the Divine. ✨

According to the teachings of Yogananda and Self-Realization Fellowship, meditation is the doorway to profound spiritual awakening. Jesus and Krishna symbolize universal guides who illuminate the path, bridging East and West.

Yoga is a sacred, interfaith journey accessible to everyone. It's spiritual technology, as universal as prayer and fasting, facilitating a deep, personal connection with God—free from dogma yet deeply devotional.

This isn't about secularizing yoga but recognizing its essence as a spiritual union available through common grace. Just like having hands and feet, spiritual union is humanity's birthright.

Ready to deepen your connection with the Divine and step into your sacred journey?

→ DM me MASTERCLASS to get started! 🤍🕊🌹

03/24/2025

Your relationship to God mirrors the blueprint of your earliest bonds—your attachment to caregivers. 🤍

Attachment theory isn't just psychology—it's sacred science. It reveals how your original love template shapes your ability to connect deeply with others, yourself, and the Divine.

Yoga, meaning “union” with God, is the original relational science—an interface of meditation guiding you into enlightenment and alignment with the image of God.

Modern practitioners must humbly acknowledge yoga’s cultural roots in India, recognizing four paths leading to union:

🌹 Bhakti Yoga – the yoga of devotion.
📖 Jnana Yoga – the yoga of sacred knowledge.
🕊️ Karma Yoga – the yoga of selfless service.
🔥 Raja Yoga – the yoga of meditation and inner mastery.

This holistic view creates true intimacy—not just human connection, but divine communion. Healing your attachment wounds heals your relationship with God.

→ Follow for more educational insights on overcoming complex trauma and cultivating divine intimacy through yoga and relationship healing.

03/12/2025

I Was Doing ALL The Things… So Why Wasn’t My Ministry Growing?!

I was exhausted. I was hustling. I was doing everything—posting, networking, praying, offering my services for way less than they were worth… and still? My holistic ministry was stuck at $1k months.

I thought maybe I just wasn’t “meant” to succeed. Maybe I wasn’t spiritual enough, maybe I wasn’t business-savvy enough, maybe I just wasn’t enough.

But in 45 days, I went from scraping by… to my first $25K month.
💥 Without selling my soul to hustle culture.
💥 Without sacrificing my health or my presence as a mother.
💥 Without working 24/7 or “waiting on God” with no action plan.

The shift?

I stopped treating my ministry like a passion project and started treating it like a divinely aligned mission.

✔️ I stopped trying to help everyone and got CLEAR on who I’m called to serve.
✔️ I raised my standards, my prices, and my belief in the work I do and got COACHING to grow where I was struggling
✔️ I started speaking to my audience like a LEADER, not like I was begging them to buy.
✔️ I put systems in place that let my business flow without working 12-hour days.

🔥 I healed my relationship with money, ministry, and success—and now my students are doing the same.

If you’re spinning your wheels, pouring your heart out, but still not seeing the breakthrough you KNOW is possible, let me show you how to create a thriving, sustainable holistic ministry.

👉 Drop ANOINTED in the comments, and I’ll send you the next steps.

It’s time for your calling to match your income, impact, and ease. Let’s do this. 🚀🔥