Carrie Cochran, MFT

Carrie Cochran, MFT Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Offering in-person and online therapy to my Hawaii Ohana. Online-only therapy to Colorado and Florida residents.

I help men and women online with relationships, anxiety, depression, trauma, and more.

Sometimes subtle betrayals point to rather destructive patterns.Sometimes subtle betrayls can occur when basic relations...
01/05/2026

Sometimes subtle betrayals point to rather destructive patterns.

Sometimes subtle betrayls can occur when basic relationship maintenance is overdue. However, hey can also be the result of deeper, and older patterns.

Attachment Wounds
Sustained Patterns of Conflict and Negativity
PTSD
In my experience, partners who also engage individual therapists find benefit in having that support to develop self understanding in preparation for couples sessions.
If you think individual therapy could support you, it may be the most caring step you can take — for yourself and for your relationship.

If you’re feeling stuck and want help navigating these conversations with clarity and compassion, working with a therapist can help slow things down and create a path forward.
https://carriecochranmft.com/packages/

When in the height of emotion, so many can confuse the need for validation with the need for agreement. Which in turn ca...
12/30/2025

When in the height of emotion, so many can confuse the need for validation with the need for agreement. Which in turn can lead to a power struggle instead of moment of connection.

Agreement = I feel the same way.
Validation = I can understand why you feel the way you do.

And feeling understood is one of the key ingredients for trust to repair.
If you’d like support addressing these patterns, I invite you to schedule a session through my website. https://carriecochranmft.com/packages/

One of the most painful betrayals is when we abandon ourselves by not accepting our true feelings and doubting the reali...
12/22/2025

One of the most painful betrayals is when we abandon ourselves by not accepting our true feelings and doubting the reality of our experiences.
Body:
When we tell ourselves:
“Maybe I’m overreacting.”
“It wasn’t that big of a deal.”
“They didn’t mean it.”
We may be dismissing the very signs we need to protect us.

Listening sooner we can listen, the sooner we can respond and prevent deeper disconnection from occuring.
If this resonates, you might simply notice where you’ve been dismissing your own experience
https://carriecochranmft.com/relationship-coaching/

When something registers emotionally, your body is offering information.A small signal meant to guide you toward what ne...
12/18/2025

When something registers emotionally, your body is offering information.
A small signal meant to guide you toward what needs attention.
When those signals go unacknowledged, we often adapt.
Not because we’re weak — but because we’re trying to avoid hurt.
You may start choosing your words carefully.
Holding parts of yourself back.
Assessing whether it’s safe to speak.
This isn’t fragility.
It’s self-protection.
Close (reframed, calm):
Listening to these signals sooner can help prevent the quiet ruptures that slowly erode trust.

I’ve written more about this — and how subtle betrayals can be repaired — in a longer article on my website.
https://carriecochranmft.com/the-subtle-betrayals-that-break-trust-and-how-to-heal-them/




Thank you to every individual and couple who has chosen to show up for healing, whether you were navigating the aftermat...
11/27/2025

Thank you to every individual and couple who has chosen to show up for healing, whether you were navigating the aftermath of betrayal, trauma, or the everyday stress that strains relationships. Your willingness to break old patterns and cultivate compassion makes our work meaningful. Together we draw on EMDR and the Gottman Method to transform anxiety, loneliness and conflict into deeper understanding and connection. If you feel called to rebuild trust or reconnect with yourself or your partner, take this as a sign to schedule your complimentary consultation.

https://www.carriecochranmft.com/

Sometimes the smallest shift in perspective becomes the beginning of an entirely new chapter.This week’s reminder is sim...
11/25/2025

Sometimes the smallest shift in perspective becomes the beginning of an entirely new chapter.
This week’s reminder is simple… but deeply powerful.
We don’t always get to choose our circumstances — but we can choose how we meet them.
When you change the way you think, the way you feel, respond, and show up in your life begins to shift too.
And little by little… everything around you starts to change.
Whether you’re navigating grief, anxiety, transitions, or a season of uncertainty — give yourself permission to soften your thoughts, question old beliefs, and invite in a new inner narrative.
Real transformation begins in the mind… and grows outward.
One gentle thought at a time.

Before communication can thrive, safety has to come first.You can’t express yourself honestly if you’re bracing for judg...
11/17/2025

Before communication can thrive, safety has to come first.
You can’t express yourself honestly if you’re bracing for judgment, shutdown, or defensiveness.

Emotional safety means:
✔ feeling free to share your inner world
✔ being listened to instead of corrected
✔ knowing your feelings won’t be minimized

It’s the soil where trust grows.
Without the right nutrients, even the best intentions can’t flourish.

💬 Struggling to rebuild safety after disconnection or betrayal?
📞 Book a 20-minute virtual consult → carriecochranmft.com/contact

Connection grows when both partners feel seen and valued. My ‘Working on Us’ sessions guide you toward greater intimacy ...
10/13/2025

Connection grows when both partners feel seen and valued. My ‘Working on Us’ sessions guide you toward greater intimacy and shared goals. Reach out today.
carriecochranmft.com/working-on-us

Strengthening your relationship starts with open communication and curiosity. Relationship coaching helps you and your p...
10/09/2025

Strengthening your relationship starts with open communication and curiosity. Relationship coaching helps you and your partner build deeper understanding and connection. Book a session today.
carriecochranmft.com

Trauma and anxiety don't have to define you. EMDR and trauma-focused therapy can help you reprocess painful memories and...
10/02/2025

Trauma and anxiety don't have to define you. EMDR and trauma-focused therapy can help you reprocess painful memories and move forward with hope. Schedule a session.
carriecochranmft.com

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