CCFI Counseling, LLC

04/10/2026

Great graphic illustrating grief and how it ebbs and flows

03/27/2026

Interesting information about Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly known as multiple personality disorder)
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1LbjaKah95/

03/20/2026

03/10/2026

Tissue warning: This sweet baby girl has an amazing message about grief. Warning: There's a high likelihood you will cry.

277.2K likes, 11.3K comments. “On what would have been James Van Der Beek’s 49th birthday, his widow Kimberly is sharing a touching message from their daughter Emilia, who wanted to pass on advice about coping with loss. ❤️‍🩹 She says, “The number one thing for somebody’s passing is...

03/08/2026

Happy International Women's Day!

03/04/2026

Here I discuss EMDR

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2YnPf5lm28VawG8Z9veAr9?si=n-mZayONQ--1W-H0PdD01g&context=spotify%3Ashow

Auntie Mel Mel Life Unfiltered · Episode

03/03/2026

You’re trying to say something important, and it comes out wrong. Or someone responds in a way that shows they heard you through their own lens, not yours. Maybe they assume your intention. Maybe they jump to advice. Maybe they correct you. Maybe they dismiss it.

And suddenly, your body tightens and your mind goes blank.

You might think:

“It’s not worth it.”
“They’re not going to get it anyway.”
“If I explain, I’ll sound needy or dramatic.”
“I’m tired of defending myself.”

That moment is a clue about what is happening. It usually isn’t about the sentence you just said. It’s about what your system learned about being heard and what your system just processed as happening.

In IFS, the part that feels unheard is often an exile or is closely connected to one. It carries the older wound of:
• not being taken seriously
• not being believed
• having to justify your feelings
• being dismissed, talked over, corrected, or minimized
• learning that your needs were inconvenient

And when it’s activated, it can feel young. Not childish, just younger than your adult self. That’s why the reaction can feel bigger than the moment. Once that unheard part gets activated, other parts jump in to keep it from feeling exposed. This can be being defensive, shutting down, getting snappy, and over-explaining.

02/28/2026

Very good point. It's about feeling safe, not making yourself small.

01/23/2026

A long read, but excellent descriptions of some terms used to describe abusers.

12/23/2025

12/20/2025

Why you marry your mother (or father!)

12/18/2025