04/02/2025
10 Things I’ve learned being a low-middle class Equestrian and later Entrepreneur:
1.) Where there is a Will there is a way:
I didn’t grow up having access to much of a riding school, which is fine! It helped me get gritty because, I had to fight tooth and nail to even be considered an “Equestrian”. So believe me when I say, no matter your circumstances if you want it bad enough you’ll get there in your way.
2.) (I hate this phrasing but..) There’s more than one way to skin a cat:
You don’t have to always follow the same methods as Mr. Fancy-pants-McGee… Just because their successful doesn’t mean you can’t become successful being yourself and doing it your own way!
3.) Nothing about horses is ever “Textbook”:
I’ve seen a lot of weird things and I still haven’t seen it all, but from what I have seen… I don’t think one bit has ever been normal. Horses have a unique way of keeping you guessing constantly, and it is ever humbling.
4.) It’s okay to part ways with a horse that isn’t the right fit:
I struggled for a while feeling like I was a failure for selling a horse, that we maybe got a handful of good rides together in almost 5 years. But ultimately I wasn’t her person, no matter how much I wanted to force it, it wasn’t meant to be. Some people stay in toxic relationships, and some stay in toxic horse ownership in fear of shame from other equestrians or themselves. I’m here to be your advocate to get out of that situationship, it’ll be okay!
5.) People that knew you before, likely will never see you as you are now:
This maybe be a tough one to relate to if your not an entrepreneur but I’ll give it go. I’ve learned that people that knew me when I was a wee little baby trying to barter chores for ride times, when my heels were flanking the horses and my hands were up by my chest… Those people will never see past my baby stage, they will never see the years of growth, improvement, knowledge and sweat that I’ve put in to be who I am now. And I’ve heard the same type of story from other entrepreneurs and even respected veterinarians encountering this phenomenon.
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6.) It’s okay to struggle and plateau, it’s literally the psychology of learning:
Okay maybe saying it’s literally the psychology of learning was a bit out of term, but you’ll get what I mean. Struggling is apart of learning and the more competent you become the more you’ll raise the bar for yourself and sometimes it just an appearance of plateau! But either way it’s all very much apart of the process. Perhaps Google the “Dunning-Kruger effect”. It’s quite a little rabbit hole but which may bring some closure.
7.) Imposter syndrome is real. And real weird to navigate:
Imposter syndrome is, put simply, a huge problem with self doubt and feeling of fear. Causing massive anxiety of your own intelligence and abilities, even while being more than capable or qualified. I don’t really have much advice on how to battle this but just know you’re not alone and you are absolutely capable!
8.) Some people will never have the patience to teach, those aren’t the people worth learning from anyways.
I’ve run into more than my fair share of people meeting me with the “you’ll never be a rider” stigma. And even if they had been right, that doesn’t mean I didn’t deserve the opportunity to be taught and to learn. And I’m glad the spite I had for them pushed me to be better. Those people changed my life for the better in way they never deserve credit for. And looking back with what I know now, I wouldn’t want to learn from them anyways, they’ve never amounted to anything or their methods are archaic. And I don’t ride as well as some of my peers, I’m always a step behind but I’ve also still come further than I ever thought possible before. I eventually found “my people”, my way and ultimately my niche in this community. And no it’s not as a rider, but I’m still every bit a qualified and competent “Equestrian”.
9.) Taking breaks are necessary:
This a hard one for us Equestrians, of every type. And I know it’s a hard pill to swallow but, yes you do in fact need to take care of yourself. And sometimes a break is absolutely the right answer. Breathe.
10.) My favorite: Don’t sell your saddle:
Taking a break can mean taking 20 minutes for lunch and sitting down rather than shoveling your food down while you’re cleaning stalls. Or sometimes we need longer breaks maybe a year to sort through your true self’s ambitions, or maybe 5 or 10 or 20 years to raise your family. But regardless of what your break entails, don’t sell your saddle. Horses are in your blood, you will always find your way back. 💙