09/09/2025
As a mental health provider, I often witness a familiar pattern: women come to therapy to work on themselves and their marriages, usually alone, without the support or presence of their husbands. As they begin to find their voice, reclaim their identity, and grow in emotional strength, resistance often follows.
Many times, the men in their lives become uncomfortable with this growth. They may blame therapy, accuse it of “changing” their wives, or even forbid them from continuing. It’s heartbreaking to see, because therapy didn’t change her, it simply helped her remember who she is.
At that point, some women retreat back into the toxic cocoons they were trying to break free from. Others choose to leave the relationship entirely. And yes it gets messy. The wounded pride, the power struggles, the fear of change all of it surfaces.
But in a few powerful cases, something different happens: the men step into the work. They come into the sessions, open themselves up, and look within. When both partners are willing to grow, healing and transformation are absolutely possible. That’s where real connection is born.
So here’s the truth:
Work on your side of the street. Whether you’re the woman, the man, or both. Do the inner work so you won’t spend your life stuck in cycles of disappointment, blame, or victim stories.
Because when a woman is mentally and emotionally strong, she’s not a threat, she’s an asset. To her marriage. To her children. To her community. Empowered women build empowered homes. And healthy relationships can only thrive when both people are doing the work
