Center for Effective Psychological Services

06/12/2023

Great article that addresses the issue of tricky conversations with our family members that struggle to see and understand the value of psychotherapy.

Therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli, LGPC, NCC, explains why we should normalize therapy, with seven strategies to help you talk to skeptical family members.

05/14/2023

If today is hard for you, we’re holding you in mind.

There are so many kinds of mother. The mothers you cherish and celebrate. The mothers who were never really there. The mothers who broke you. Who built you. The mothers who cheered you on. Who chipped away at you until you were dust. The mothers who reveled in your astonishing intelligence and grace and power. Who saw only their own light. The mothers who died painfully young. The mothers who lived so long you felt yourself disintegrating with them. Petal by wilted petal. The mothers who shined. Who dimmed. Who did their best. Who disappointed. Who redeemed themselves. Who accepted your redemption. Who zigged and zagged. The mothers who were a beacon. The mothers you never knew. The mothers who sewed themselves into the quilt you became. The mothers who couldn’t bear to tell the truth. The mothers who were brave. The mothers who didn’t know who they were without you. Who never saw you no matter how wildly you waved. The mothers who grieved you. Who believed in you. The mothers you call. The mothers you no longer speak to. The mothers you take for granted. Or treasure. The dead mothers. The mothers you have to search for and carry. The mothers you find in people who are not your mother. The mothers like a limb. The mothers like a mirror. The mothers like a flame. The mothers you wish. The mothers you love. The mothers you ache. The mothers you echo. The mothers you aren’t. The mothers you wanted to be. The mothers you became. I am thinking of you. I am holding you all.

- Cheryl Strayed

04/10/2023

La importancia del apego y la necesidad de vínculos afectivos para los seres humanos es innegable. El apego es la base del amor de pareja y una vinculación emocional segura proporciona seguridad, confianza y validación emocional.

La dependencia emocional no es algo patológico o inmaduro, sino que es una fortaleza.

Cuando sentimos confianza y seguridad emocional con nuestra pareja, es mas fácil compartir vulnerabilidades emocionales, sabiendo que el otro estará disponible para acompañarnos desde el cariño.

Sin cuestionamientos, burlas, y sin minimizar nuestros sentimientos.

Cuando el vínculo de pareja no es fuerte, se crean postura defensivas como la protesta o repliegue, lo que es un intento de mantener el vínculo, pero frecuentemente muy inefectivo.

Los invitamos a leer mas acerca del tema del apego en la relación de pareja en este blog.

Descubre por qué la necesidad de vínculos afectivos es tan importante como la alimentación y el refugio. Aprende a diferenciar entre apego y dependencia emocional y cómo el vínculo es la base del amor de pareja. Descubre cómo un apego seguro puede proporcionar seguridad emocional, confianza y ...

12/28/2022

Te has enterado que tu pareja te ha sido infiel. Pasado el shock, ahora te encuentras lidiando con una montaña rusa de emociones. Han sido tantos años juntos y nunca pensaste que esto te fuera a pasar a ti. Aunque inicialmente la primera solución al dolor que se te ocurrió fue terminar la relación, ahora estando un lugar mas tranquilo, te preguntas si es posible reconstruir la confianza y la relación, pero no sabes por donde empezar.

En este blog, nuestra terapeuta de pareja, Katherine Maestre, LPC aborda el tema con un énfasis en que se puede esperar de un acompañamiento terapéutico para trabajar en el perdón (el de verdad), y la reconstrucción de la confianza y el vinculo.

https://www.centerforeffectivetherapy.com/el-amor-despues-del-amor-la-reconexion-post-infidelidad/

Por Katherine Maestre, LPC Terapeuta de Parejas EFT, CEPS En los años en que he sido terapeuta de pareja, han pasado por mi consulta parejas de diversas edades, pero con un mismo reto en común: Como superar la infidelidad y continuar en una vinculación sin temor y dolor emocional. Hoy en día las...

12/23/2022

Sabemos lo complicado y confuso que puede ser el proceso de usar los beneficios de su seguro de Salud para servicios de salud mental. Al comenzar un nuevo año es posible que usted tenga un seguro de salud diferente o sus beneficios hayan cambiado. Su deducible empieza de 0. Hemos creado un video informativo para ayudarlo a entender estos beneficios mejor. Tambien hemos incluido una guía de como encontrar servicios gratuitos o de bajo costo en el area de DMV.

https://youtu.be/xoM7xaumQG8

Este es un video informativo que te ayudara a entender como usar los beneficios de out-of-network para acceder a servicios de Salud Mental. Tambien hay una g...

12/23/2022

We know how confusing it can be to understand your out-of-network insurance benefits to help you afford mental health treatment. As the new year begins, and deductibles start all over, we hope this instructional video can make this process a little easier for 2023.

https://youtu.be/g2VDq1SGqX4

Most people have very little information or clarity about how to use their full benefits of their health insurance plans. This instructional video will help ...

12/23/2022

This quote reminds us of the importance of acknowledging that “this” feeling, thought, or sensation, I may be experiencing right here, right now, also belongs to the realm of being human and being alive. Relaxing in its presence, bringing curiosity, and compassion towards that experience, increases our capacity for emotional tolerance. Our brain gets the message: “it’s safe for me to feel sad/angry/happy/connected.”

12/22/2022

Si dentro de sus intenciones para el 2023 esta "por fin ir a terapia", los invitamos a nuestro webinar acerca de como financiar su terapia usando sus beneficios out-of-network de su seguro. Si no tiene seguro, daremos una guía de como identificar servicios de bajo costo o pro-bono.

Gratis. Registrados obtienen una grabación después de que termine el webinar.

Viernes, Dec 22, 1 pm (EST)
Registrate aqui.
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12/22/2022

Affording Therapy with your Out-of-Network Health Insurance Benefits 101:

Finances are one of the barriers to seeking mental health care services. Many people feel overwhelmed when trying to understand what's covered within their out-of-network benefits.
If therapy is in your Holiday gifts list, don't miss this opportunity to learn about the way in which your health insurance plan can help you afford your psychotherapy services. We will also provide some guidance on how to identify low-fee or pro-bono services.

Free webinar, register to obtain a recording.
Friday Dec 22nd, 12:00 pm (EST)

Register in advance for this webinar:
https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_bt5D3lxJTEGpoyQUAyKfAA

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.

12/22/2022

At CEPS we believe in the importance of educating and supporting our community's psychological literacy through high-standard psychoeducational events.

12/21/2022

PSA: 20% of my clients this week were blamed by their partners for their emotional pain. Coincidentally, these partners were having a significant amount of pain related to their occupational situations, loss of employment and fear of losing it, being unhappy at work, and transitioning into retirement. None of these partners are in their own therapy.
We all have done it! We have lashed out onto our loved ones when we are under significant distress. But a lot of men tend to dismiss their need for psychological support during hard times, including work-related stressors.

I can't help but wonder, Is "Finally" Going to Therapy in your Holiday Gift list?

12/20/2022

"How many of you, when something goes wrong..." or when something inside feels uncomfortable, "finds someone or something to blame it on?"

This funny video by Brene Brown talks about "Blaming" as a way to discharge emotional pain. In therapy, I refer this strategy as getting rid of the "hot potato."

Once the painful, uncomfortable feeling is transferred to others, partners are particularly good targets for this, I no longer have to take a look at what's happening inside me. The "other one" is doing all the thinking and feeling on my behalf.

Although it's a very effective defense mechanism (pain relief), it is also quite destructive for relationships. Being aware of our own internal struggles and taking the ownership to address them is fundamental for the health of ourselves and our relationships.

You are probably a bit of a blamer - most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker ...