05/14/2023
The Good Trauma Fairy - Tara Brach
Excerpt below from Tara’s talk “Facing Fear in a Traumatized World” written by one her clients.
The little girl exclaims “Help, I can’t take it anymore!” Then she opens her eyes and sees a fairy in a haze of blue with a glittering wand. She lets the fairy know how her fathers been beating her and how her mother doesn’t help and how she feels they both wish she was dead. The fairy listens with tears in her eyes then tells her while she can’t make all the pain and fear disappear but she can help her get through this time. She can help her forget. And then remember later when she is able to handle it. With a wave of a wand the Good Fairy said “I’m going to send things into different parts of your body, and they are going to hold them for you until you feel strong enough to let them move freely again.” She explained that she’s going to tighten the little girls pelvis and belly and she’s going constrict her heart and throat to protect her from feeling the raw intensity of the hurt, fear and broken heartedness. She says “You will have trouble feeling and being close to people but it will be your way of surviving. And at those times that the pain erupts you will find you’re own ways to control it. Ways that may not look good to the world, that you may judge yourself for but they will be of temporary comfort. And you my darling will be a fairly functional human being in spite of all this because you have a strong mind and you can hold this all in. And I will be helping you.” The child looking directly into the fairy’s eyes asked “How will you help? Will you come back to see me?” “You will not forget everything. I will leave a voice inside you that will urge you to reconnect with your whole self. It may be a very long process. But in time you will feel an urge and calling to step out of imprisoning beliefs. To unwind your body and release what it’s been holding all of these years. You will learn the art of sacred presence. There will be physical and emotional pain as you open but you will have what you need. The compassion and wisdom. The support of loving others to be a whole person, to be spiritually awake but still the same. This is because your soul has always been there. Just hidden by the scars of this lifetime.” The Good Fairy put her arm around the child’s shoulders and gently led her into bed. She waved her wand and stood by until the girl finally relaxed into deep sleep. She gazed tenderly at the small innocent face and whispered her goodbye. “When you wake up you will forget I was here, you will forget you asked for help, you will forget the sharpness of your daily pain. This is the only way I know to get you through this. You are a beautiful child. I love you and in fact your parents love you even though they are incapable of showing you. You will have to love yourself enough to heal so that when you are older your life will be powerful, full and free. One day you will know who you really are. You will trust your goodness and know your belonging. Until then, and for always, I love you.”
