05/13/2026
Amen.
Cutting someone off doesn't feel the way the internet makes it sound.
Online, it's framed as a clean ending. A bold move you walk away from. In real life, it's a long, quiet grief that arrives in waves. The phantom thought to call them. The reflex to text when something good happens. The split second your eyes scan a crowd before you remember. If you've cut someone off and you're still grieving, your grief is real and your decision is also right. Both can be true at the same time. 🫂
The grief is for the version of them you were still hoping might show up someday. The one you kept making space for. That version was never coming. That's the actual loss. You're allowed to mourn a relationship that was hurting you. Holding the line and feeling the loss can both be honest at the same time.
Tonight, if there's an ache you've been pushing down, let it have ten minutes. Whatever lets the feeling exist for a while without judgment. The grief gets smaller when you stop fighting it. ❤️🩹
