01/03/2026
One of my favorite stories unfolded in my brain this morning, as I was finishing a load of whites and folding my hubby's Godzilla sweats.
Picture this: 19-year-old-me, rocking a pixie cut (🙄Girl, we have ALL been there, IYKYK) starting my first serving job.
I had just finished my training and had my first table all on my own. A lovely church-going couple sat down, dressed in their Sunday finest. I announce the usual for a new server, "I'm new at this so please bear with me" and off we go for drinks and a food order. All is going well, ya know, until the food comes. This is no fancy restaurant that puts things on a tray/stand to deliver food. No, we carry plates. Lots of them. I am minding my own beeswax, putting plates on the table and all is well.
That is, until the full rack of ribs needed delivered. The long, oval white plate that held the full rack of ribs, did not have a suitable lip to hold said food. As the plate drew near the table, the ribs, well, they drew near-er. And in fact, drew so near that they flew off of the plate, and right onto the lap of the gentleman at the table.
Who was wearing a white suit.
😩🫣🫠😭🤣
If ever a time to go from shiny, bright, ruby red slippers to shriveling into raisin legs under the house that smushed them, well, that was the time for it to happen.
Good. Golly.
A million apologies were issued.
This gentleman was the epitome of grace. He was surprised for sure, laughed and joked it off (I am sure deeper feelings there), we got him cleaned up, their bill was on the house (as was the dry cleaning tab), he still tipped, and on they went. He could have yelled, he could have totally mortified me, I could have never worked there again. My boss could have fired me on the spot, but, no.
I ended up serving my way through college and it was 1 of the 2 jobs I held simultaneously to pay bills and tuition. (I still often have dreams that menu items were 86'd, or that I forgot a Diet Coke for table 105).
Why is this story relevant today?
✅We are starting a New Year. And with that, for many, includes trying things or starting new habits. Unfamiliar territory, if you will. It can be intimidating being the newbie. You might totally flop on your face on the first time. But go back and try again. Stay patient with yourself.
✅If you see someone fumbling as the newbie, perhaps give some encouragement and lend a hand. How much farther could that carry a person, than ridicule?
✅Let's learn from the gentleman in this New Year. Let's extend grace, kindness, a sense of humor even. We live in such a reactive world; let's surprise it with showing the best of our humanity. This gentleman probably doesn't think of this moment often. But it has stayed with me.
Lastly, and probably most importantly:
✅Let's also vow to never let Dr. Watts return to a pixie cut. It was a phase, for sure. And not one that needs revisiting. 🙃