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Resonance MT, 2347 Silvernail Road, Waukesha, WI (2025)

10/18/2025

One week until H E X I N G T H E P A T R I A R C H Y

Here's what you need to know:
🗓 Saturday, October 25th from 3-6pm
📍 Fox River Park, Picnic Shelter 1, W264 S4500 River Road, Waukesha, WI 53189
💰 Sliding scale registration fees from $10-$50 to ensure everyone can participate; Registration is required

This three hour intensive event will feature:
💀 Building a group ancestor altar
🕯 Learning how to reach out to and request help from the beloved dead
🔥 Guided ritual of crafting personalized hexes against our oppressors

10/11/2025

Hexing the Patriarchy FAQ

🍀 Will doing a hex bring me bad luck?

If you are familiar with Wicca, you have likely heard of the Rule of Three. The idea is that any energy you put into the world comes back to you three times as strong. For this reason, many Wiccans caution strongly against baneful magic like cursing or hexing, but it is important to recognize the root of those beliefs come from white, colonial cultures that have historically been insulated from colonized violence and oppression, while also doing that violence to others. In non-white magical practices, baneful magic is common and accepted. Sometimes the only tools available to oppressed and marginalized groups against their oppressors are baneful magic.

This is not to say that baneful magic does not have consequences. In fact, all magic has consequences; that is why we practice magic in the first place, to create change. When we talk about hexing or cursing systems of oppression, we can view it just like we do any non-magical efforts to bring down systems of oppression. For those of us who hold any privileged identity (whiteness, heteronormativity, wealth, etc.), we must acknowledge that there are aspects of these oppressive systems that serve us and protect us against the violence that is done to others.

If you hex the patriarchy, you might see some fallout in the ways patriarchy supports you, but that is not inherently negative. It is necessary work in order to decolonize yourself and others. Ultimately, it is up to you how you participate in this event. If the idea of hexing a specific person as a figure of the oppression they uphold appeals to you, then do that. If that feels wrong to you for whatever reason, listen to that. You can hex patriarchy, white supremacy, or colonization as institutions or ideas, rather than being representing in specific people. No matter how you work on an individual level, the collective will be here to support you.

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10/10/2025

Hexing the Patriarchy FAQ

☠ What if I accidentally connect to something bad?

We've all seen or heard of the horror movies where an unsuspecting group of people playing with a Ouija board accidentally release a malevolent spirit which leads to their demise. This trope is continually played out in media, and its history goes back at least several hundred years.

Depending on the religious environment you were raised in, you may have received the explicit message that attempting to connect to any mystical or divine force other than a patriarchal god will assure your spiritual destruction. The origins of this belief goes back, at least, to the middle ages in Europe, when the church, both Catholic and Protestant, sought to prosecute heretics in an effort to drive out the old polytheistic religions and folk beliefs rooted in them. This is what directly led to the witch hunts that persecuted and murdered thousands of people over roughly four centuries. The belief in a one true god led to the belief that all other spirits or mystical entities were by default demonic, and anyone trying to connect with those energies was in league with the Devil, himself.

I am not here to challenge or change anyone's spiritual or religious beliefs, but I am here to offer an alternate perspective to the question at hand. We are cautioned from a young age to avoid inviting in any force which may seek to do us harm. We are taught to doubt our intuition and inner knowing at the risk of naively, accidentally plaguing ourselves with some demonic, destructive force. The reality is that we cannot accidentally invite this energies in. Much like with vampires, negative spirits must be invited into our lives. As long as we are discerning and hold our own boundaries about what we put out, we will be met with an appropriate response. You can't accidentally conjure a demon, just like you can't accidentally hex someone. It is your intention that sets the tone for what comes next. If you move with love, openness, and understand, you will be met with the same.

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10/09/2025

Hexing the Patriarchy FAQ

⚰ What if my ancestors don't want to connect with me?

The inverse of yesterday's question asks us what to do if it is our ancestors that rebuff us? Why might we get a message of rejection from an ancestor? Does that rejection point to something wrong in me?

As you approach your ancestors for their help, it is important to know that they might turn you down. Especially if you know of a specific ancestor you are trying to connect with for any reason. Just as we might ask a friend for a favor and be turned down, it is important here to respect the answer and not try to push or manipulate them into a different response.

You may try to connect with an ancestor that seems like their mission would be in line with yours, and they might still decline to help. Why? That answer is unique to each situation, but often it will have something to do with the damage or trauma their spirit still carries. If you are a person of mixed ethnicities (which most of us are to some extent) you likely carry the lineage of both the oppressed and their oppressors. You likely have relations that were colonizers, and also relations that were the victims of the violence of colonization, and while you desire to connect with an ancestor who was at the receiving end of that violence in their life, they may only be able to see the colonizer in you.

That does not mean that you are fundamentally flawed in some way. Some ancestors carry so much grief that they cannot ever work with you, and that is something we need to respect. We all carry the legacy of colonization, and making the changes to our world we desire requires us to continually decolonize our minds. Sometimes, we may reach a point where those ancestors change their minds after seeing the work we have done on ourselves, but sometimes they won't. In either case, be sure to show gratitude for any response you get and respect what they ask of you.

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10/08/2025

Hexing the Patriarchy FAQ

🕯 What if I don't want to connect with my ancestors?

For some of us, the idea of connecting to our ancestral lineage holds no appeal. There could be any number of reasons for this, and many of them are rooted in intergenerational trauma, especially for those of us who come from families rife with generations of addiction, mental illness, or abuse. Especially for q***r folx or those of us practicing different religions/beliefs/ethics than our elders, we may feel unwelcome around our ancestors.

Any reason you hold for not wanting to engage your lineage is valid, and you can still do ancestor work without them. How can that be? "Ancestor" is a broad term. We often think of ancestors as the distant relatives in our family tree, but ancestors can refer more broadly to all those who came before us. Anybody who shared similar beliefs or identities can be considered an ancestor. For q***r folx, that might mean connecting to q***r figures in history that represent something similar in your identity or the oppression you may have faced. If you are intentionally disconnected from your family of origin due to a history of abuse, you might seek to connect with elders who were courageous enough to do the same.

Whatever reason you may have for not wanting to connect with your direct ancestral line, there are so many other unrelated ancestors that would be more than willing to embrace you and your mission.

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10/07/2025

Hexing the Patriarchy FAQ

🌼 What is I live on different land than my ancestors?

The idea of ancestral homelands is an important concept to many people. We love to talk about what cultural and ethnic heritage we carry, but the vast majority of us don't even live on the same continent as our ancestors. Most residents on Turtle Island are the descendants immigrants or enslaved peoples. Even indigenous folx often live far from their spiritual homes as a result of their ancestors being forcibly removed to reservations.

The homelands of our ancestors are inextricably linked to their cultural practices, and it shows up in the food they grow, holidays they observe, rituals they practice, and so much more. Being geographically located far from the ancestors may feel like it creates an impossible-to-bridge gap, so how can we attempt to connect to them?

Bringing them offerings of traditional foods they might have enjoyed, wearing clothing or jewelry that either belonged to them, or is reflective of what they may have worn, or listening to their music are just some of ways we can connect to our beloved dead. Showing the ancestors our effort to understand them makes it that much more likely that they will reciprocate that energy and devotion.

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10/07/2025

✉️ Our next community offering is next Tuesday, October 14th from 6-8pm. Rather than sending postcards and energy out to politicians who clearly don't care, we are keeping that precious, powerful energy right in our community with a collage night!

✂ We have all the materials needed! Just bring your wonderful self. We have the opportunity of creating individual pieces as well as a group collage that embodies all the relationships and supports we want to build in our community!

📍 726 N East Ave, Suite H, Waukesha, WI 53186

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