Quilted Hearts Family Therapy, PLLC

09/07/2025

The way you speak to yourself matters. Let it be with the same kindness you offer to those you care about. 💙

09/07/2025

Self care matters because YOU matter! I'll never be able to say this enough.

08/05/2025

04/06/2025

There have been a few things on my mind recently and as usual, most come from conversations with clients.

1. People often try to move away from having uncomfortable or difficult feelings because, well, they're uncomfortable. However, in order to overcome it, we have to learn that being uncomfortable isn't the worst. It isn't the enemy. Discomfort leads to change. We need to learn to sit with the thoughts and feelings. Respect them as having a purpose and place in your life. They are there for a reason. The sad, the disappointed, the grief, the confusion, the exhaustion (mental, physical, emotional), the fear.....they are yours. You need them to learn and grow. We can't process them unless we sit with them, listen to them, give them their time, acknowledge them, and then let them go. Anger is a 2ndary emotion and it will poison every relationship you have if you ignore the feelings that it's masking. Pushing through and pushing down your emotions doesn't make them go away. It makes you a ticking time bomb and it makes you hard and cold and see negative everywhere you look because it's filled your heart and psyche. However!! Listen close to this part: THERE ARE NO BAD FEELINGS! THERE ARE ONLY NEGATIVE EXPRESSIONS OF THOSE FEELINGS!

2. CHANGE occurs because of discomfort. We've all heard the term "comfortable zone". This is a situation or relationship where we would rather deal with the devil we know because doing something different is terrifying. We fear the unknown, so we stay where we are. However, if we become uncomfortable with what we're are doing or feeling or being, we are motivated and forced to change.

If you, like many others, struggle to name what you're feeling, look at the feelings chart below. Start in the middle. Take the large, general emotion and then look at the breakdown of that emotion. See which of those fits and then follow the outside wheel to further grasp the truth of what is really going on. What does that look like to you? How does it affect you? What does it make you do? Do you like it? If not, what do you want to feel? What would you be doing if you felt the way you want? What's the first change needed to begin to move toward the desired emotion?

If you struggle with sitting with your thoughts and feelings or just don't know what to do to move towards the goal, call me today. Let me help illuminate the path you're searching for. I can't wait for you to see all of your life's possibilities!

03/19/2025

Did you know?

03/16/2025

Silly, but true!! I especially recommend not taking yourself so seriously. However, I've been in meetings that I kind of wish I HAD plugged my ears and sang "I can't hear you!" Probably would have been frowned upon, but I'd have liked it! 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

02/25/2025

October may be domestic violence "awareness" month, but this is something we should be talking about all the time. This topic hits home a little harder for me today. I found out yesterday that a woman I grew up with was murdered by her abusive husband 2 days ago. They'd been together for around 30 years and she endured the abuse. Everyone knew, but you can't make someone leave even to save themselves.
I and my mother have both dealt with DV in our pasts, but we were fortunate enough to survive to leave. Not everyone is and even when some do leave, they don't survive.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence of any kind, please, please know there is always a way out. Love is NOT pain, hurt, terror, force. Abuse is blind to color, gender, sexuality, and age. Be the safe place for someone that needs an escape. Be watchful of those around you that may be going through DV and be prepared to give them the information on where to go and how to seek help. Be safe and know you deserve so much more.

https://www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/

02/11/2025

Update! 🗣📣

Quilted Hearts' new days of operation will be Wednesdays through Fridays. Hours are still a work in progress and Wednesdays may be longer hours of operation in the coming furture.

Also, due to some currently developing health issues, there may be some odd days of closures scheduled. Let me apologize in advance for any scheduling issues. As always, in an effort to remain transparent, I will keep everyone that does schedule informed as soon as possible of any necessary need to cancel or reschedule.

If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to contact me!