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02/03/2026

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01/30/2026

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01/03/2026

Motherhood is life changing!!

She Proved Women’s Brains Change During Motherhood, Permanently.
They told her motherhood was instinct.
Hormones.
Emotion.

Something soft. Temporary. Something you went back from once the baby slept through the night.

Then she put mothers in an MRI machine—and proved something far more radical.

Motherhood doesn’t just change your life.
It rewires your brain.

Permanently.

Her name is Pilyoung Kim, and her work changed how science understands motherhood—not as a phase, but as a neurological transformation on par with adolescence.

For most of modern medical history, the maternal brain was treated as an afterthought. Pregnancy research focused on the fetus. Postpartum research focused on pathology—depression, anxiety, breakdown. Motherhood itself was framed as something women handled, not something their brains actively adapted to.

Pilyoung Kim suspected that assumption was wrong.

She noticed a contradiction that wouldn’t let go.

Mothers routinely perform feats of attention, endurance, emotional regulation, threat detection, and multitasking that would overwhelm most people. They read micro-expressions. They wake instantly to subtle sounds. They anticipate needs before they’re expressed.

Yet culturally, motherhood was described as cognitive decline. “Mom brain.” Fog. Forgetfulness. Loss.

Kim asked a different question.

What if the maternal brain isn’t deteriorating—
what if it’s specializing?

Using high-resolution neuroimaging, she began studying women before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and after childbirth. What she found stunned even seasoned neuroscientists.

The brain didn’t just change.

It reorganized.

Regions associated with emotional processing, empathy, motivation, threat detection, and executive function showed measurable structural and functional shifts. Gray matter volume changed. Neural networks strengthened. Sensitivity to social cues increased.

This wasn’t damage.

It was adaptation.

Just as adolescent brains rewire for independence, maternal brains rewire for caregiving. The changes weren’t random. They were targeted. Purposeful. Evolutionary.

Most striking of all?

These changes persisted.

Years later, mothers’ brains still showed patterns distinct from women who had never given birth. The maternal brain did not “snap back.” There was no reset button.

Motherhood left a lasting neurological signature.

This explained something millions of women had felt but couldn’t articulate.

Why they sensed danger before it appeared.
Why they could hold an entire household’s emotional state in mind.
Why they felt both more vulnerable and more powerful than ever before.

It also explained why early motherhood feels so overwhelming.

A brain undergoing structural reorganization is not broken—it’s busy.

Imagine learning a new language while running a marathon while never sleeping fully while being responsible for another human’s survival.

That’s not weakness.

That’s neuroplasticity under pressure.

Kim’s research reframed postpartum struggle in a way many women had never been offered.

You are not failing to cope.
Your brain is actively remodeling itself for care.

The awe in this discovery is quiet but profound.

Motherhood is one of the few experiences that alters the adult brain at a structural level. Not temporarily. Not symbolically.

Physically.

And yet society treats it as invisible labor. Expected. Unremarkable. Something women should endure gracefully without recognition.

Science now tells a different story.

The maternal brain is more attuned, not less.
More responsive, not diminished.
More complex, not compromised.

That doesn’t mean motherhood is easy.
It means it is serious.

It deserves respect—not platitudes.

Dr. Pilyoung Kim didn’t romanticize motherhood. She measured it. And what she found replaced shame with pride.

The fog? A side effect of reorganization.
The intensity? A recalibrated threat system.
The emotional depth? Expanded neural connectivity.

Nothing about this is accidental.

Motherhood leaves a mark because it matters.

And once you see it that way, something shifts.

Exhaustion becomes evidence of work being done.
Sensitivity becomes skill.
Change becomes achievement.

The maternal brain is not a loss of self.

It is an expansion.

One that science finally learned to recognize.

If you value this work and would like to support the time, research, and care it takes to preserve and share women’s history, you can Buy Me a Coffee. Every contribution helps keep these stories alive and accessible, told with respect and truth.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you for remembering.
And thank you for honoring the women who came before us—and the legacy they continue to build.

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07/12/2025

07/10/2025

Tell all your pregnant friends!! There are some really great raffle prizes to be given away and great information! We’d love to see you there!

06/20/2025

06/10/2025

I often talk about physiological birth being an endangered activity. By the estimation of midwives I’ve spoken to in Australia, physiological births that unfold without intervention in our hospitals make up between 1 and 5% of all hospital births. (While births in settings where you would expect physiological birth would be occurring, such as at home, in a birth centre, or ‘born before arrivals – think the back seat of the car – only make up around 3% of all births.)

But it’s not just Australia where the statistics are concerning for anyone hoping for physiological birth. Caesarean births, for example, are rising worldwide. In England, 42% of all births are now by caesarean section compared with 29% five years ago.

High caesarean rates in other countries (based on 2021 figures reported in 2024) include Turkey (58.4%), Brazil (56.4%), South Korea (53.8%), Mexico (52.6%), Ireland (35.5%), Vietnam (34.4%), Italy (32.3%), US (32%), Germany (30.7%), Canada (29.8%), Aotearoa New Zealand (29.6%).

Locally, the most recent Australia’s Mothers and Babies report (as well as reporting an increase in our caesarean rate) included a new field of data. The ‘selected women’ cohort are between 20 to 24 years of age, birthed at term and had a single baby, with ‘head down’. They are a ‘cohort of mothers who are expected to have reduced labour complications and better birth outcomes’. Comparisons between these ‘selected’ groups of women ‘allows for an indication of standard practice’.

Just looking at this cohort (for first babies born in 2004 compared to 2022), rates of induction have increased from 25.9% to 43.0%, caesareans have increased from 24.5% to 34.5%, and non-instrumental vaginal birth have decreased from 53% to 42.5%.

Research suggests that the majority of women want a physiological birth — a ‘natural birth’. The stats show us just how rare this is, not just in Australia but in so many settings around the world.

In my books I talk about the complex causes behind these stats, and the emotional and relationship dynamics readers need to be aware of that will affect their labour and birth in these care settings. But the key message I always have for my readers is not to see those statistics and think there is something wrong with our birthing bodies. What makes physiological birth so hard isn’t usually the birth process itself. It’s how we have come to support it (or not).

Read those stats as evidence that the care you need for physiological birth is not standard practice. Read those stats as a warning of what you are up against.

Really take in those stats as a first step. The next steps are those choices required to claim the birth you want.

04/25/2025

If you are a doula or L & D nurse then this online summit is for you.

Real Talk on Patient Advocacy in Labor and Delivery - a FREE Online Event

12/05/2024

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10/08/2024

The Aurora was out in all its glory last night 💕. Night mode iPhone photos 10 second exposure