06/24/2025
š²ā°ļø A little lake time in the Rockies ā just me, the water, the trees, and my own company (oh, and the frogs - listen to the video, #5)
As a therapist, I spend so much time encouraging others to tune into themselves. But the truth is: even therapists need reminders that āme timeā isnāt selfish ā itās how we deepen our relationship with ourselves.
š What do I mean by ārelationship with yourselfā?
Think of it like this: Youāre the only person youāre guaranteed to spend your whole life with. Learning to like your own company, notice what brings you joy, and trust your inner yesās and noās helps you show up for others with more honesty and less resentment.
Being self-assured doesnāt mean ignoring other peopleās needs or becoming rigid. It means you check in with yourself first, so you know what you can give, what youāre willing to bend on, and where your personal line is.
š§ How does this help?
ā¢ You make decisions more easily.
ā¢ You feel less guilt when saying no.
ā¢ You become clearer about your needs in relationships.
ā¢ Youāre more resilient to external pressures.
āØ How can you start practicing this?
1. Try spending a small window of time alone doing something just for you (a walk, a coffee date with yourself, journaling, a hobby).
2. When making a choice, pause and ask: āWhat do I want here?ā
3. Notice where you feel resentful ā resentment often shows us where weāre saying āyesā when we mean āno.
4. Practice giving yourself permission to disappoint others sometimes ā itās not cruel, itās honest.
I share this because I know firsthand: prioritizing enjoyable time with yourself can feel indulgent or even scary, but itās one of the kindest gifts you can give the people you love ā and the version of you they get to love in return.
āØ Hereās to tiny pockets of solo joy ā and the courage to build trust in ourselves.
