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Wholehearted Healing Collective is a private group of mental health and wellness practitioners that provide an array of healing services ranging from traditional counseling to community-based support serviceswellness events, and creative expression wor

01/14/2026

People with avoidant attachment styles are often misunderstood as cold, uninterested, or emotionally unavailable 🧊

But in the early stages of connection, something very different can happen 👀✨

Those with avoidant attachment may put new people on a pedestal — idealizing them, admiring them from a distance, and feeling drawn to the idea of connection without yet risking true emotional exposure 🏛️💭

Why?

Because idealization can feel safer than intimacy 🛡️

When someone is new, there are fewer expectations, fewer needs, and less pressure to be fully known. Admiring from afar allows closeness without vulnerability — connection without dependence 🤍🚪
It’s a way of keeping emotional control while still experiencing excitement, attraction, or hope ✨

Over time, though, as real intimacy starts to form — needs emerge, imperfections show up, emotional reciprocity increases — the pedestal often becomes uncomfortable ⚖️
The same person who once felt “so different” or “so refreshing” may suddenly feel overwhelming, disappointing, or threatening to autonomy 😮‍💨

This isn’t manipulation 🚫
It isn’t intentional 🚫
And it isn’t a character flaw ❌

It’s a nervous system strategy that developed in response to early experiences where closeness felt unreliable, unsafe, or conditional 🧠💔

For those who recognize themselves in this:
Awareness is powerful 💡
Noticing when admiration turns into distance can be the first step toward building safer, more grounded connection — one that allows people to be human, not idealized or pushed away 🌱

And for those loving someone with avoidant attachment:
Understanding this pattern can help shift the story from “they don’t care” to “closeness feels complicated here” 🤝💛

Healing doesn’t mean forcing intimacy 🚫❤️‍🔥
It means learning that connection and autonomy can coexist — without pedestals, and without walls 🧱➡️🌿

01/13/2026

If you’re having a little déjà vu — you’re not wrong 😅

This post is back because the first time around we accidentally introduced a brand new therapeutic concept: Circles of Circle lol.

Thank you to the sharp-eyed folks who caught it (we genuinely appreciate you). We fixed the typo, had a laugh at ourselves, and decided to repost because… therapists are human too.

So here it is again — Circles of Control, typo-free this time ✨

(And still just as relevant.)

01/12/2026

SHRED. IT. 🗑️✂️

Not every thought deserves your attention.
Not every inner comment deserves to be believed.
And not every critical voice deserves a seat at the table 🪑🚫

Negative self-talk often sounds convincing — like “I should be better by now,” “I always mess this up,” or “Everyone else has it figured out.” But familiar doesn’t mean factual 🧠❌

You’re allowed to pause, question the thought, and decide whether it’s helpful, kind, or even true 🤍
And when it’s not?

Shred it.

This isn’t about pretending everything is positive or silencing emotions 🌧️
It’s about choosing not to rehearse stories that keep you stuck, small, or ashamed 🌱

You can acknowledge the thought… and still let it go.
You can feel discomfort… without turning it into self-criticism.
You can be human… without being cruel to yourself 💛

Some thoughts are meant to be processed.
Others are meant to be shredded.

01/11/2026

Catching up with extended family or relatives can sometimes mean being asked about the very person you’d least want to talk about — often casually, without awareness of the history behind the question.

You’re allowed to protect your privacy without explaining, justifying, or softening the truth for someone else’s comfort. Sometimes the kindest boundary is a simple, neutral sentence that lets the conversation move on.

If this resonates, consider saving this post for later — for family gatherings, reunions, or moments when having words ready can make things feel a little easier 🤍

01/10/2026

Doomscrolling isn’t a moral failing. It’s a nervous system strategy.

Our brains are wired to scan for threat, seek certainty, and stay “in the know” when the world feels unpredictable. When anxiety is high, scrolling can feel like control — even as it quietly increases stress, helplessness, and fatigue.

Noticing the pattern matters more than judging it.

If you catch yourself stuck in the scroll, a few gentle check-ins can help:
🤔 What am I hoping this will give me right now?
🌊 Is my body feeling calmer or more activated?
💛 What would actually support me in this moment?

Sometimes the answer is stepping away.
Sometimes it’s setting a boundary.
And sometimes it’s offering yourself compassion before making any change at all.

You don’t have to quit cold turkey to be kinder to your nervous system. 🫶🏼

01/09/2026

Someone who listens without judgment, notices what they can’t yet put into words, and creates a safe space for them to feel seen and understood.

This kind of connection is more than comforting, it’s protective, validating, and foundational for their emotional wellbeing.

Whether it’s a parent, teacher, mentor, or therapist, being that adult can change the trajectory of a child’s life. 🌱

01/08/2026

Getting kids outside isn’t always easy anymore 📱
Screens offer instant stimulation — but connection still matters more 🌱

While they’re young and seeking closeness, join them outside.
Play with them. Move with them. Be present with them ⚽🌳
Those moments build connection, regulation, and memories that last 🤍

01/08/2026

Teaching kids they’re allowed to say no isn’t about creating defiance — it’s about building trust, boundaries, and self-respect. 💛

When children know their “no” will be heard (even when it’s inconvenient), they learn:
• their voice matters
• consent applies in everyday moments
• boundaries don’t end with authority figures

And yes — that includes parents too.
Especially parents.

We can hold limits and honor autonomy at the same time. Both can be true. 🌱

01/07/2026

Let’s clear something up: “Being an anxious person” isn’t actually a thing. 🧠💭
Anxiety is not an identity. It’s a state, a response, a pattern your nervous system learned — but it is not who you are. 🌿

Many people start to talk about anxiety as if it’s a personality trait (“I’m just an anxious person”), and it makes sense. When you’ve lived with chronic worry, overthinking, or uncertainty for a long time, it can feel like it’s woven into your identity. But here’s the truth:

✨ Anxiety is a biological + psychological response, not a character description.
Your brain and body are firing signals meant to keep you safe — not define you.

✨ Anxiety is fluid.
It rises with stress, softens with support, and shifts with coping skills and healing. Identities don’t behave that way — symptoms do.

✨ Anxiety comes from somewhere.
Your history, environment, trauma, genetics, nervous system sensitivity, and current stress load all play a role — none of which say anything about your worth or identity.

✨ Treating anxiety like an identity can limit growth.
It can make you feel stuck or destined to always “be this way.”

Here’s the reframe:
You are not an anxious person. You are a whole, complex human who sometimes experiences anxiety.
And with the right tools, support, and understanding, those experiences can shift. 🤍

Your anxiety doesn’t get to name you. You do. ✨

01/06/2026

Many people mix up OCD and OCPD, especially when it comes to morality or the fear of “being a good person.”
But even though they can look similar on the surface, the inner experience is very different.

✨ OCD often shows up as intrusive, unwanted thoughts that create anxiety, guilt, or self-doubt.
✨ OCPD is rooted in rigid rules, perfectionism, and a strong belief that there is a “right” way to do things.

Both can involve high moral sensitivity, fear of mistakes, and a sense of over-responsibility — but the emotional drivers are not the same.

Understanding the difference can help people get the right support, reduce shame, and recognize what’s actually going on beneath the surface.

If you see yourself in either of these experiences, you’re not alone — and both are treatable with the right kind of care. 🤎

01/05/2026

Kids are already hearing about AI — online, at school, from friends 🤖📱
Pretending it isn’t there, banning it outright, or throwing our hands up in defeat usually leaves them figuring it out alone.

The goal isn’t to scare kids or to pretend AI is harmless. It’s to stay in conversation — thoughtfully, developmentally, and with emotional safety in mind. 🧠💬

Healthy conversations about AI sound like:
• “What have you heard about it so far?”
• “What do you think it does well — and what worries you?”
• “When do you think it’s helpful, and when does it cross a line?”
• “How would you want adults to handle something this new?”

This means allowing kids to form opinions — even when those opinions don’t fully match our own. It means offering guidance instead of just rules, and boundaries instead of fear or helplessness. 🌱

When we lead with calm curiosity, kids learn that uncertainty doesn’t have to equal danger — and that they can come to us to think critically and navigate a changing world with support. 💛

👉 What’s one question you’ve asked (or want to ask) your child about AI? Share below — your words might help another parent start the conversation.

01/04/2026

Body anxiety can feel loud, convincing, and all-consuming, but it’s not the truth of who you are. You deserve a relationship with your body that feels spacious, flexible, and connected — not one built on fear. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone, and support is available. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to navigate it by yourself.

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