Amber Deutsch, LPC

01/07/2026

01/05/2026

There will come a random Sunday evening, an ordinary conversation, or a moment so small you almost miss it, when you’re simply too exhausted to keep performing or accepting less than you deserve.

You might catch yourself about to force a laugh at a joke you don’t find funny, nod along with an opinion that makes your skin crawl, or shrink yourself into something more digestible. And right there, in that raw, unguarded moment, you realize you’ve been holding onto a relationship that no longer aligns with the truth of who you are.

When you stop the act and retire your people-pleasing tendencies, those who benefited from the mask will feel uncomfortable, even threatened. They’ll call you “different,” “changed,” “too much,” as if you’ve regressed. What they really mean is that you’ve stopped being convenient or easy to shape. They can no longer take from you like they used to.

Authenticity often means outgrowing approval, artificial harmony, and relationships sustained by performance. It will hurt. But you must let it. The ache is part of the return to heart.

Naturally, you will feel some guilt and grief. But remember this: how can people see you for who you are if you’re performing who you’re not? How can anyone love what they’ve never actually met? Real relationships and deep connections require you to be the most authentic version of yourself.

It’s time to stop translating yourself for people who refuse to learn your language. You’re out here explaining your boundaries, feelings, and existence like you’re asking for permission to take up space. You’re not. You don’t need to footnote your complexity or apologize for your contradictions. You’re allowed to be evolving, messy, sensitive, fierce, uncertain, and still worthy of love and respect.

The right people won’t need a manual to appreciate you. They won’t require you to dim or distort or diminish. They’ll meet you in your wholeness and call it sacred.

Please note that this post shouldn’t be used to excuse harmful patterns or remove personal responsibility.

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All. Of. This. I watched this interview and was so disappointed

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In light of recent oral arguments at the Supreme Court in the Chiles v. Salazar case, ACA reaffirms that conversion therapy is a harmful practice. We also reaffirm our commitment to supporting policies that protect clients, uphold professional standards and advance the integrity of the counseling profession. As part of a coalition of mental health organizations, we have signed on to a friend of the court brief reiterating:

• Conversion therapy is a dangerous and discredited practice
• Psychotherapy is more than simply ‘talking’ — it is a medical treatment and therefore can be regulated by states
• Conversion therapy can fuel stigma and discrimination toward the LGBTQ+ community

Learn more about our efforts: https://bit.ly/3JYgo3G