Buchanan Family Foundation

03/17/2022

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Sending L O V E your way! The inspiration behind these elastic bracelets is to LV.LVD (live loved). Because Jesus loves you, you’re life ought to look and be uniquely different ❤️

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03/16/2022

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03/15/2022

04/19/2021

• MARRIAGE MONDAY •
The health of our marriage is not based on how often we fight, but rather how often and how quickly we do the repair work when there is a fight.

This echoes what we know to be true about our relationship with God. When we have purposed in our hearts to surrender our lives to Christ as LORD and follow after Him, we are made right with God.

Despite having this relationship status with God, we fall short and daily miss the mark to live up to who we are because of our relationship with Him.

And yet, this is what we know to be true, if we do the repair work with God, we have fellowship with Him, which is intimacy (1 John 1:5-10; 1 John 1:19).

Intimacy requires us to be accesible, responsive and engaged. We are more accesible, responsive and engaged with our spouse when we are this way with God, which builds a marriage that will last.

We’re Nic+Ilese, Marriage and Family Therapists, and you need to know that you are created for relationships because you are made in the image of a Relational God.

Our relationships are built upon emotional experiences and interactions that create connection or break it down.

Behavioral change does not restore connection, emotional change does. If you need relationship support or help to rightly restore connection in your marriage, check out our link in our bio .for.relationships and follow for more!

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04/17/2021

SINGLE SATURDAY • Emotional connection is essential to life because we are not meant to be alone.

Eternity is written on man’s heart...this need to belong and connect with another is not just a need from the cradle to the grave.

It is a forever need and Jesus Christ restores this connection for us with one another and God.

We are made for relationships because we are made in the image of a Relational God. Our relationships are built upon emotional experiences and interactions that will strengthen or weaken our connection.

Behavioral change does not restore connection, emotional change does! If you need relationship support or help to rightly restore connection in your relationships, check our link in our bio .for.relationships and follow for more.

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04/15/2021

We know exactly who needs to hear this—YOU DO— you need to hear this:

You are made for relationships because you bear the image of a Relational God. Therefore, the need to connect is essential to live.

Our connection to others is built upon emotional experiences and interactions that cause us to inherit messages about needs and how to have them met.

We’re Nic+Ilese, Marriage and Family Therapists, and hope you hold it in your heart and mind that it is safe and okay to have and show your feelings and emotions. They communicate our needs and secure our connection to others.

Behavioral change does not restore connection, emotional change does. If you need relationship support or help rightly restoring connection in your relationships, check our link in our bio.

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04/14/2021

Which is what? We should and need to feel guilt when we wrong one another, it gives us a path to make things right and hope to restore what has been broken.

We experience false guilt when we or others assign responsibility to ourselves for something wrong of which we are not accountable.

This entraps us with no way out because we cannot take on the responsibility of someone else’s actions.

If you feel badly after admitting guilt it could be one of two things: false guilt or grief.

If it’s false guilt remember this truth:

“But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.” 1 John‬ ‭1:9‬ ‭

Sometimes, if not often, forgiveness is a process and even though we may have admitted guilt, the offended person may be working through offering forgiveness.

In this case, it feels terrible and that bad feeling could be grief/loss rather than guilt because a relationship has not been restored.

We don’t need forgiveness from the person wronged in order to feel guilt free.

When we are guilty of wrong doing, the first person offended is God. This is because we are made in His image, so any offense to each other is first an offense to God.

Take note of King David’s prayer to God after committing adultery and murder:

“Against you, and you alone, have I sinned; I have done what is evil in your sight. You will be proved right in what you say, and your judgment against me is just.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭51:4‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Guilt and Grief are appropriate to feel when we have wronged someone or have a relationship that has not had connection restored.

We are made for relationships because we bear the image of a Relational God. Our relationships are built on emotional experiences.

Behavioral change does not restore connection, emotional change does. If you need relationship support or help to rightly restore connection in your relationships check out our link in our bio.

04/14/2021

EMOTIONAL WISDOM WEDNESDAY •
Denial entraps us. If we admit guilt, it gives us a clear path forward.

If you have done this and still feel entrapped by guilt, it may be FALSE GUILT.

behavioral change does not restore connection emotional change does. We are made for relationships and our relationships are built on emotional experiences because we are made in the image of a Relational God.

If you need relationship support or help to rightly restore connection and your relationships, check our link in our bio.

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04/12/2021

MARRIAGE MONDAY • Is there a better image to bear than that of Christ, when it comes to love?

In all our years of experience as Marriage and Family Therapists, there has been no theory or practical strategy that supports a secure attachment like the model of relationship and connection God gives us.

We cannot live without an emotional attachment and we cannot thrive without that attachment being secure.

If you need relationship support that gets to the heart of things and want to help to rightly restore connection, check our link in our bio!

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04/10/2021

SINGLE SATURDAY • His name is Jesus

You are made for relationships because you bear the image of a Relational God.

We’re Nic+Ilese, Marriage and Family Therapists and founders of BFFCRC.

If you need relationship support or help to rightly restore connection in your relationships, check our link in our bio.

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04/07/2021

EMOTIONAL WISDOM WEDNESDAY •
Let’s encourage one another to be sensible in all areas of life and especially relationally - Titus 2

We all bear the image of a Relational God, which means we are created for relationships.

If you need relationship support or help rightly restoring connection in your relationships, check our link in our bio!

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04/05/2021

We are addressing the post about: never stop dating your spouse.

Is this a trustworthy saying?

Christian couples and likely couples in general, once married are told, yes; however, there is a saying that is much more powerful to live by to keep the friendship and romance and marriage alive.