06/18/2025
Helicopter parenting says you can’t handle this and disables a child’s belief in their ability to tolerate and figure things out and also begin to learn about themselves.
Being present and available and supportive while your child figures it out if they need it, tells them you believe they can handle and grow and learn and you have their back and will pick them up if they need it
When kids act out, push back, or fall apart, it’s not defiance. It’s a signal.
A signal that something feels too big, too hard, or too overwhelming.
Instead of jumping straight to consequences, try this:
💬 “That was a big reaction — are you okay?”
💬 “Looks like something’s feeling tricky right now.”
This doesn’t mean we excuse the behaviour.
It means we meet the need behind it — and guide them from there.
Because connection is what builds cooperation. 💛
📘 Find more tools like this in my book Guidance from The Therapist Parent — available at www.thetherapistparent.com or via the link in bio.
