Therapy With Serena

03/12/2025

“Loud” kids!

02/07/2025

Embrace the crazy!

01/04/2025

Step 1 of parenting is always to regulate yourself first

08/25/2024

Great tools for dealing with parental preference!

06/24/2024

Another good one!

When our children are losing their noodles it can be hard to hold onto ours.

We can easily get caught in a toxic whirlpool of shame, panic, and pressure. Which leads us to join their emotional dysregulation and react with control tactics.

Threats. Bribes. Stonewalling. Yelling. Indulging. Etc.

This is why it is incredibly important that we anticipate and even expect our children and teens to need our support when they are flooded with feelings and the immature behavior that accompanies those feelings.

We can’t control how our children feel or act, but we can work to develop the skills we need to respond maturely to how our kids feel and act.

Here are two tricks I use to help keep me calm:

1. I imagine my family recounting the event when all my kids are adults and I try to channel the response I want them to remember me having.

2. I imagine the emotions to be waves and I remind myself that all waves go up and go down. I focus on helping my child surf the wave knowing they aren’t alone in the water instead of trying to stop the wave and ending up underneath it.

Love on.

06/15/2024

Kindness starts with being kind to yourself ❤️

06/13/2024

So important to remember!

06/13/2024

Steps for Peaceful Parenting

05/02/2024

Connection not punishment

03/15/2024

This is a great perspective

12/14/2023

This is a good one

❤️

10/19/2023

This is what unconditional love looks like!