12/07/2025
There is so much pressure on parents today to have the perfect birth.
The right mindset.
The right environment.
The right choices.
The right support team.
The right blend of calm, strength, intuition, and control.
And when birth doesn’t unfold the way they hoped or imagined, many parents quietly wonder:
“Did I do something wrong?”
“Should I have prepared more?”
“Was I not strong enough?”
“Did my body fail me?”
It's hard to see how many people carry these questions in silence.
Here’s the truth:
There is no perfect birth.
There is only the birth you had—
the one that was shaped by countless factors
far beyond your personality, your planning, or your worth.
You didn’t fail.
Your body didn’t fail.
Your preparation didn’t fail.
Birth simply unfolded in the only way it could in that moment,
with the information, support, and circumstances you had.
Your birth doesn’t need to be perfect to be meaningful.
It doesn’t need to be blissful to be valid.
It doesn’t need to be uncomplicated to be worthy of honour.
Sometimes the gentlest healing comes from allowing yourself to say:
✨ “I did the best I could.”
✨ “I made the best decisions I could with what I knew.”
✨ “I am still worthy, still whole, still enough.”
And if there are parts of your birth that still tug on your heart—
the disappointment, the confusion, the “I wish it had been different”—
please know this:
You are allowed to feel that.
You are allowed to seek understanding.
You are allowed to grieve the birth you didn’t get
while still loving the child you have.
Your story matters so much more than the outcome.
And you deserve a space where all of it—
the light, the shadow, the complexity—
can be held with tenderness and without judgement.
You were never meant to carry this alone. 🌿DM for support in processing your birth experience.
