Clarity Psychological Services, LLC

01/08/2026

“Defense is the first act of war.” — Byron Katie

Defensiveness in marriage often shows up as denying responsibility, counterattacking, or justifying ourselves when our partner expresses hurt. In healthy relationships, noticing our defensiveness and pausing can open space for curiosity, repair, and deeper connection.

But in abusive dynamics or relationships with narcissistic traits, the concept of “defensiveness” is often misused. The abusive partner may raise a complaint or criticism, and when the other person does not argue, justify, or validate them, they are falsely accused of being “defensive” or “stonewalling.” In this context, disengaging is not an attack—it is a boundary and an act of self-preservation. Choosing not to absorb blame, explain, or collapse under distorted accusations protects your reality and emotional safety.

Healthy reflection encourages growth. In abusive dynamics, forced “reflection” enforces compliance and shifts responsibility away from harmful behaviors. Understanding this distinction is key to maintaining boundaries, protecting your wellbeing, and recognizing when a relationship dynamic is unsafe.

12/27/2025

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12/23/2025

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12/18/2025

Shame thrives in silence.

Brené Brown defines shame as the intensely painful belief that “I am bad,” rather than “I did something bad.”
It’s the fear that if others really knew us, we would be unworthy of love or belonging.

Shame is not a motivator for growth.
Research consistently shows it leads to hiding, withdrawal, perfectionism, anger, and disconnection—not change.

The antidote to shame is not self-punishment.
According to Brown’s research, the antidote is:
• Empathy
• Naming shame when it shows up
• Sharing our story with safe, trusted people

When shame is met with empathy, it cannot survive.

Growth happens when we move from “Something is wrong with me” to
“I’m human, and I can respond differently.”

If shame has been driving your behavior, healing starts with compassion—not condemnation.

12/16/2025

We’re excited to announce that we now offer Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) - a specialized treatment that’s transforming how families connect and communicate.

What is PCIT?
Parent-Child Interaction Therapy is a hands-on, coaching-based treatment where the therapist works directly with you and your child together in the same room. Think of it like having a personal coach guiding you in real-time as you interact with your child. You’ll wear a small earpiece (like a Bluetooth device), and the therapist observes from another area, offering you immediate coaching and encouragement as you practice new ways of communicating and setting limits with your child. This isn’t traditional therapy where your child goes back to a room alone. Instead, you’re learning and practicing skills right there in the moment, with your child, while getting expert guidance every step of the way.

Who is PCIT For?
PCIT works best for children ages 2-7 and their parents or caregivers who are experiencing:
* Frequent tantrums, defiance, or aggressive behaviors
* Difficulty following directions or listening
* Intense power struggles at home
* Behavioral challenges at school or daycare
* Anxiety or fearfulness that leads to challenging behaviors
* Strained parent-child relationships that need strengthening

How Effective is It?
The research on PCIT is remarkable. Studies show that 96% of families who complete the program see significant improvements in their child’s behavior. Even better, these improvements last - families report continued positive changes years after completing treatment. PCIT has been proven effective across different cultures, family structures, and backgrounds. Parents often report that they feel more confident, less stressed, and actually enjoy their time with their child again. Children become more cooperative, their behaviors improve at home and school, and the whole family dynamic shifts in a positive direction.
If you’re feeling exhausted from constant battles with your child or wondering if there’s a better way to connect, PCIT might be exactly what your family needs.

12/10/2025

This beautiful painting was a gift to our office, created by Rachel, wife of Jake, one of our therapists here.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ ._._.no_one._._._

12/10/2025

Core wounds don’t just hurt in the moment—they reshape your entire nervous system. When trust is shattered through betrayal, abandonment, or deep relational trauma, your brain literally rewires itself for protection. This is what trauma researchers call “threat detection on overdrive.”
work with couples shows us that these wounds create what she calls “negative sentiment override”—where your brain defaults to interpreting neutral actions as threats because safety was stolen from you. You’re not being dramatic or oversensitive. Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep you from getting hurt again.
But here’s the hope: Just as your brain learned to protect through hypervigilance, it can also learn to heal through safe connection. Breecker emphasizes that healing happens in relationship—with God, with safe people, and often with professional support. Your wound changed your wiring, but it doesn’t have to write your future.
Psalm 147:3 reminds us: “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Healing is possible. Your nervous system can learn safety again. You just need the right environment and the right people to help you get there.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

11/28/2025

11/27/2025

Our mission is to empower individuals through compassionate, evidence-based psychological services, fostering mental and emotional wellness, and personal growth in a supportive, non-judgmental environment. We are dedicated to adding value to each other and the people we serve, helping them thrive and flourish with clarity. We deeply value every individual. New Location! 6400 Brooktree Court, suite 320, Wexford PA 15090 ._._.no_one._._._ .snyder .disorder

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10/30/2025

Teaching and helping my clients talk to themselves with tender and fierce compassion is a major component in our work together. Here’s why this matters so much. If you don’t have self-compassion, you aren’t able to look at your mistakes and failures and sin, because you’ll be too wrapped up in your shame. And when shame takes over, you’ll either deny your problem, lie about it, get defensive, or make it your identity and sink into self-pity.

But here’s the truth. To truly own your problems, to learn and grow and take accountability, you have to have self-compassion. You need to be able to look at yourself with both tenderness and honesty at the same time.

Self-compassion also becomes absolutely essential when you’re dealing with an external stressor or problem. It helps you recognize that you’re not alone in your suffering. It reminds you that you can overcome the situation. It gives you the strength to keep moving forward instead of collapsing under the weight of whatever you’re facing.

This is the kind of compassion Christ showed us, and it’s the kind of compassion He calls us to show ourselves so we can actually change and grow into who He’s created us to be.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ ✔️