Trade Winds Therapy & Relationship Coaching

02/13/2026

Here's a little snippet of my book to send you into Valentine's weekend. (Maybe use the prompts below to connect with your partner!):

"By recounting your love story together with your partner, you can remember where you came from so you can plan where you want to go."

I love asking my couple clients to do this exercise with each other. Helping them retell their origin story reignites fondness, admiration, and appreciation for each other. It can be difficult to see the forest for the trees sometimes when you're in the trenches of raising children together. All couples who become parents evolve from who they were when they first got together. It's not uncommon for many couples to feel some grief about how much they have changed along the way. However, allowing space for storytelling shows them how far they've come and what obstacles, challenges, and victories they have encountered throughout their journey.

Some of the questions I ask in this exercise are:

How did you meet?

Why did you decide to get together?

Why did you decide to stay together?

What was your first date like?

A majority of couples really enjoy telling their story. I encourage them to include any humorous moments, funny plot points, and playful interactions as their story progresses.

What about you? What's your story?

02/10/2026

After being a bit derailed by sickness recently, I'm back on track! Exciting things are happening with my book and it's nearly ready for pre-order on both Kindle and Amazon!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

I also want to let you know something truly fantastic...

𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙛𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙢𝙖𝙯𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙜𝙞𝙛𝙩𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝘼𝙇𝙇 𝙥𝙧𝙚-𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨.

🎁 𝑮𝒊𝒇𝒕 #1: 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑺𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝑪𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝑷𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓
Thoughtfully guiding you through physical, nutritional, emotional, relational, and parental self-care concepts (plus more!) to support your well-being during the transition to parenthood and beyond.

🎁 𝑮𝒊𝒇𝒕 #2: 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑹𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑-𝑪𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝑷𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓
This planner helps nurture connections with your partner as you raise your child together. It blends strategic concepts like date night planning and a repair readiness checklist with daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly pages to support intentional, ongoing Partnerhood growth.

🎁 𝑮𝒊𝒇𝒕 #3: 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑷𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒎 𝑷𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓
Designed to support new parent couples through the fourth trimester with practical help and guidance for a smoother transition to parenthood. Thoughtfully organized, it includes essential sections for crafting a support team, meal planning, postpartum intimacy, and more.

🎁 𝑮𝒊𝒇𝒕 #4: 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑯𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒕𝒉𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝑷𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓
This planner helps new parent couples stay organized by tracking their baby's healthcare needs during the crucial first few months. Designed to support families navigating the transition to parenthood, this planner offers a clear and simple way to monitor appointments, vaccinations, even diaper, feeding, and sleeping records.

Bundled together with the Partnerhood Workbook, this entire package is an essential resource for new parent couples wanting to set their relationship and family up for success.

Be sure to get on my email list to access these amazing bonuses! (Link in the comments below.)

11/08/2025

05/11/2025

Happy Mother's Day! To all mothers... those with children in their arms, those with children in their hearts, and those who long to be mothers... today is for you. Your love, resilience, and grace inspire us all.

04/27/2025

I've taken longer than I wanted getting this done, but sometimes life is like that. Be on the lookout for the pre-order link coming in May!

It's been a while, but I'm back. The workbook's second edition is coming soon. Be on the lookout for the pre-order link in May.

12/19/2023

Relationship gridlock is not a fun place to be stuck in for anyone. Recognize when you're in gridlock, take a breath, and start a conversation to understand your partner's point of view and values in that moment.

Ultimately, you may not get to an immediate resolution, but you will at least gain a better appreciation for what's important to your partner and why. In so doing, you'll build more empathy and connection overall, even if you don't agree.

12/12/2023

This is a really good (but difficult) perspective on crying. Just last night, I was thinking to myself that it would be nice to have one day without having to manage my child crying. She literally cries every day, usually multiple times a day, and it's exhausting for me. Mostly because it's not just sad tears (which I could handle), but it's also screaming, fighting, pleading, and sometimes even physical attacks. I'm currently nursing a gash on my hand from an incident with her on Sunday because she wanted corn on the cob instead of the canned corn that was served for dinner. Thankfully, we were able to repair after that.

If I look at that situation (and many MANY others) from this perspective, it gives me a little hope that I'm providing a safe space for her at home to let out her frustrations and disappointments and she'll grow into an emotionally mature person. Maybe someday I'll see the fruit from this difficult labor.

Credit to and these slides on their IG page.

10/07/2023

When your kids are babies, you don't need to do much "parenting" per se, but as you approach the toddler years, you'll find your parenting styles start to emerge. It's important to note that you may not have a similar parenting style to your partner and this can actually cause conflict between you.

To avoid/manage conflict better when you don't have the same approach, I encourage you to do the following:

1) Even with a different approach, get on the same page about your end goal. For example, if your child wants candy before dinner, but you both believe it's not an appropriate time for candy, hold your boundaries and tell your child the expectations. Communicate an alternative, say no, whatever, but make sure you're sending the same message.

2) Do NOT, I repeat DO NOT, put down your partner's style in front of your child. If you have an issue with their approach, address it with them (gently!) in private at a later time. When you undermine your partner in front of your child, you will definitely create disconnection between you and conflict may occur.

3) Lastly, I suggest if you or your partner needs help with your parenting style and you clash more than you want, please seek out counseling and/or self-help resources. It's ok to not know what you're doing and want to learn how to do it better.

Stay tuned for my next post that will point you in the direction of some invaluable resources!

09/20/2023

Repair is crucial for a healthy relationship, especially as a parent.

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09/14/2023

I read this recently and thought it was brilliant! It takes nothing but a small amount of positive energy and time to give out encouragement and you can never run out. So spend your encouragements without abandon!

09/14/2023

When you are in conflict with your partner, I want you to focus on these three things:

1) Talk to each other like you actually love each other

2) Do everything to preserve the relationship

3) Accept love in all different forms

When you focus on these three things, your mindset will shift more easily from a place of frustration and negativity to a place of cooperation and compassion.

09/12/2023

Quick tip:

When you use too many words and either over-explain or make your request too complicated, it sounds a bit like this. If you want to be heard more clearly, use fewer words and keep the K.I.S.S. approach in mind: Keep It Simple (and) Specific.

Remember that less is more in many cases.