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01/25/2025

Donald Trump enjoyed inauguration day with very little pushback.

01/11/2025

01/01/2025

Trump Trump was spying on you! The DOJ Inspector General reveals shocking details about illegal spying on Congress under Trump’s DOJ. Bill Barr, Adam Schiff,...

01/01/2025

There always obstacles. They’re there to help you grow. Savor the lesson!

01/01/2025

Interesting

"The Body Keeps the Score" has become the definitive text of the post-Covid era, selling more than 3 million copies and spending more than six total years on the New York Times bestseller list.

But there's plenty that this cult classic book about trauma gets wrong. As Emi Nietfeld writes, "The Body Keeps the Score" stigmatizes survivors, blames victims, and depoliticizes violence. While masquerading as care for survivors, it creates a hierarchy in which marginalized victims are even more marginalized.

And it may be giving people inaccurate information about the impact of trauma.

Nietfeld spoke with several scientists whose work appears in the book. They claim that it's author, Bessel van der Kolk, mischaracterized their research and steers survivors away from treatments that might help them.

Jennie Noll, a University of Rochester professor of psychology whose research on the impact of sexual abuse van der Kolk cites extensively, says that by treating post-traumatic stress disorder as a lifelong condition, the book sets the stage for “victims and survivors to feel that there is no way out.”

You can read Nietfeld's full story at the link below: https://tinyurl.com/2acs6bzd
📸: Andrea Levy

01/01/2025

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Amid of flurry of reflections on former U.S. President Jimmy Carter following his death at age 100, his daughter Amy Carter thanked one writer for highlighting her father's historic support for Palestinian rights and criticism of Israeli apartheid.

12/21/2024

Empower yourself with quantum physics principles to promote your body’s natural healing response like you have never seen before.

12/08/2024

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12/05/2024

"The thing is, your dog knows when you’re sad, even when you try to hide it. They sense it in the way you move, in the quiet moments when your energy shifts. You don’t have to say a word; they pick up on it like it’s second nature. And when they know, they don’t ask questions, don’t push you to explain. They just come closer, sit beside you, and offer their presence.

It’s not about fixing anything—they know they can’t. It’s about letting you know you’re not alone, that in their simple, unwavering way, they’re there for you. Whether it’s resting their head on your lap or just sitting in the same room, your dog is tuned in to the things you think you’re keeping to yourself. They know, and they stay, without expecting anything in return. It’s their way of loving you when you don’t have the words."
R.M. Drake - Dog People

Artist: Andrea Kowch

Pairing by Whispers from the Heart

12/05/2024

INSTEAD OF DEPRESSION

try calling it hibernation.
Imagine the darkness is a cave
in which you will be nurtured
by doing absolutely nothing.
Hibernating animals don't even dream.
It's okay if you can't imagine
spring. Sleep through the alarm
of the world. Name your hopelessness
a quiet hollow, a place you go
to heal, a den you dug,
Sweetheart, instead
of a grave.

~ Andrea Gibson
www.linktr.ee/andreagibson

Art by Lucy Campbell
www.linktr.ee/lupi_art

12/04/2024

December 2-8 is National Grief Awareness Week. Take this time to learn about the impacts of grief and how to best support family, friends, and loved ones. samhsa.gov/newsroom/observances/national-grief-awareness-week

12/04/2024

How many times have you been, ahem, encouraged to "move on" from your loss? Countless times, if you're like most people. I hate that phrase. It is such utter garbage.⁣
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As though life can "move on." As though you'd want it to. Moving on into a future without the one you love is not something many of us are interested in.⁣
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Years ago, back when I packed up the last of Matt's and my belongings and moved out west, I heard my share of "I'm so happy you're moving on." How much I hated that phrase, then and now. ⁣
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Now that I've been here for years, this place is home. I came out here for community, and I've found it. I'm happy here, in my no-longer-new city. Life feels full of goodness and promise. ⁣
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That happiness is often disconcerting. Does this mean I'm "over" Matt's death? Have I moved on, in spite of myself?⁣
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Those are not helpful questions.⁣
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The truth is, all of us, each one of us, has to find a way to live here. As long as we are alive, we have needs - for community, for home, for some semblance of peace and order. Even if all of that runs alongside a heart broken in ways that can't be fixed. Even if I will never "move on" from my love for Matt, or ever be finished missing him.⁣
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Wherever you are in your grief, please know that no matter what ANYONE else says, you do not have to "move on." It's an inane concept. You will continue to live, because you continue to live.

Your grief, and the love that fuels it, will shift and change of its own will. You will change and grow and experience - even when you don't want to. But that love remains. You no more need to move on from it than it needs to move on from you. Love is.⁣
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I know my love for Matt will move right along with me, into the life I've built and continue to grow, into all the days of my life, whatever is to come.⁣
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Love is. It doesn't "move on." It won't leave you behind.⁣
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What about you? How does all this "moving on" stuff find you?⁣ Let us know in the comments.
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