Selah Trauma Counseling Center

02/03/2026

Grandparents, aunties, & uncles we know you’re tired from holding it all together for the kids. Permanent kinship placement is complex. We can support you!

•Post adoption parenting doesn’t have as many supports and everything was supposed to be fine once it was official anyway?!

•Maybe it’s been years, maybe it’s still fresh?!

•Or maybe it’s lonely when trying to parent when love meets trauma?

Come create community, learn, and process so you can have space to catch the glimmers as they happen!

Feb 16th (Mondays) at 1230 we’re holding a free group for post adopt/permanency/kinship carers/parents. Online if you can’t get away for an hour! In person, snacks and refreshments available.
Call/Text 940.536.0588 or email selah@selahtraumacc.com to let us know you’re interested!

02/02/2026

02/01/2026

What signs do you recognize in yourself first? Are you operating from an old pattern?

When behaviour escalates, it’s rarely about defiance.

It’s about capacity.

Under stress, children don’t lose motivation —
they lose access to skills.

The thinking brain goes offline.

The survival brain takes over.

And compliance becomes impossible until safety returns.

This is why consequences, lectures, and “you know better” don’t work in heated moments.

Before we ask more of a child, we need to ask:

Can their nervous system cope right now?

Capacity always comes before compliance.

Save this for the next hard moment 💛
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01/28/2026

In partnership with Heart Gallery of NW Texas, we are excited to announce our first 2 trauma informed group offerings. Starting Monday Feb 16th! Please share and spread the word!

For post-adoption and permanency caregivers, our group offers space for you to learn about the nervous system, attachment, and post traumatic growth.

In supporting the family, we also wanted to offer a group for siblings in the home to learn and process worries and behaviors that arise from changes in the home.

You can use the QR code to sign up and I'll put the link in the comments as well. We look forward to supporting you!

01/27/2026

Trauma, Memory, & What We Inherit
Candles flickered at dawn this morning in Berlin. A beautiful city that wears it's scars out loud: the old honored right beside the newer construction of buildings. It was an interesting city to walk around seeing this mix.

On days like today, many of us notice a familiar pull toward simplifying the world.
Good vs. evil. Us vs. them.
A flat image that keeps the pain at a distance.

Trauma does this.

As Thomas Hübl names it: seeing people as two-dimensional, as posters on a wall rather than complex humans, is a protective strategy. When the inner world and outer world don’t feel aligned, our neurobiology and protective systems can create distance. Feeling less becomes safer and distance has a cost.

When we stop feeling, we also stop relating. When we stop relating, harm becomes easier. People are not inherently cruel but because disconnection anesthetizes empathy, especially online, there seems to be an increase in dehumanization.

From a trauma and epigenetics lens, this matters deeply. Trauma doesn’t only live in stories or history books. It lives in bodies, stress responses, relational patterns, sometimes passed down through generations. What was once survival can quietly become reenactment.

Holocaust Remembrance Day invites us to do something countercultural and regulating at the same time: to remember without flattening, to feel without being overwhelmed, to stay connected without collapsing into blame or avoidance.

Healing, personal and collective, begins when we allow complexity back into the room and tend to the places where our inner and outer worlds fell out of sync.

Invitation: Pause. Inhale. Long exhale.Notice where your body protects by distancing and where it might be safe enough, just for a moment, to soften.

Remembrance is not only about the past. It’s about how we care for the nervous systems shaping the future right now.

01/25/2026

If you have an appointment tomorrow, please be on the look out for a message from your provider to confirm if they will be in office, switching to telehealth, or rescheduling.

*WFISD has already canceled school & the base will make a decision this afternoon.

01/22/2026

In all seriousness though, your provider may be reaching out to you to reschedule Friday and possibly Monday, depending on outages, etc.

A few budget friendly tips: heat reflective emergency blankets or cardboard against windows. Reflective side in and tacks and painters tape to keep up. Or shrink wrap window film. Or hang blankets.

*safety reminder* Please be sure your house has proper air ventilation before sealing off windows/doors. Especially if you are using a fireplace.

Drive safely and may we all stay warm and not lose power.

Huge storm system moving in….
Here’s what we know so far… 

01/21/2026

Happy National Cheese Lover's Day! 🧀

After very little research and great fun, I've concluded that we all love cheese at Selah. Some of the current favorites include spicy whipped feta, queso fresco, Munster and cheddar, Boursin garlic & herb, dill havarti and so many more it was difficult to choose!

Even the lactose intolerant can enjoy a hard, aged cheese like cheddar and of course, listen to your body and do your research. Did you also know there are approximately 2,000 different kinds of cheese and it's the world's most stolen food?

Invitation: Share your favorite cheese in the comments below, we'd love to hear (and try!)

01/19/2026

In observance of Martin Luther King Jr day, highlighting the importance of community in your healing journey seems apropos. As a species, we survive through communities and our differences support our ability to thrive. The impact of trauma on the individual level is lessened with community and that requires a level of presence and safety that isn't always available. It can be co-created though, slowly and intentionally (especially for those impacted by relational trauma).

The 3rd Monday of January is also dubbed Blue Monday or the most depressing day of the year. The post-holiday stress has caught up: reduced daylight, gray skies or little sunlight, tense family interactions or build up, and the prolonged disruption of sleep and routine. Or maybe you simply read the news lately. Your body feels it all.

A disrupted sense of belonging is under a lot of core wounds in developmental and complex trauma.

Invitation: Notice your body's experience at the mention of community. Do you feel tension or fatigue? Do you resonate more with the post holiday drop?

You don’t need to fix your mood or your body. You can simply tune in to your experience with curiosity and care. Did you know that physiological synchrony occurs during musical activities? Maybe today you turn on a live concert view of your favorite band or notice the connection as you join in during community singing or service activities. You may consider simply exploring your mood bundled up on a short daylight walk or taking purposeful rest without judgement of yourself for needing it as another intentional alternative for today.

01/16/2026

January can be a tough month for many, especially now that we are in the heart of it. The days are colder, more cloudy, or in today’s case, very windy. The landscape brown upon brown; is it any wonder that Blue Monday exists I ponder?

Then I exhale and I stretch all that tightened, moving into cat-cow as a fit of giggles emerges. I watched a reel with 2 men attempting Yoga with Adrienne and 1 described cat-cow as a cat puking pose, then a cow mooing. As I finish stretching, I look out my window again. The sunlight has shifted and I think maybe it’s not brown upon brown. As the pinks and oranges stretch out, right in this moment, there’s glistening golds and rich greens tucked in between the beautiful shades of brown.

Life shifts in a moment. If you find yourself holding your breath, there’s an invitation to extend that exhale. Intentionally lengthen that pause. Stretch what you are able and know the roots in nature are stretching too, preparing for Spring’s growth.

Life flows in and out. The wind is still blowing and it all feels a little easier when I remember to pause, exhale, and stretch or move. Some days require intentionality, some days flow. May you remember to pause either way.

If you’re in need of more support, we have a few openings. Call/text 940.536.0588 or go to the website (selahtraumacc.com) and check out the therapist bios to see who you might fit best with!

Jen

01/15/2026