07/13/2024
Dear Rita J. Goss,
It took me years to comprehend that nearly all of the problems I experienced in my relationships with my NeuroDiverse loved ones could be explained by Empathy Dysfunction (EmD). Once I got it that they were not using empathy to understand the world and the people around them, I was able to navigate the gummed up communications among us.
People on the Autism Spectrum have Zero Degrees of Empathy (EmD-0) so their reality is built from a different set of mapping tools. While we run everything through our understanding of others in relationship to ourselves, they run everything through a fantastic list of “factoids.” How often have you heard your “Asperger” partner tell you that they “heard every word”? Maybe, but did they really process the meaning?
Empathy helps shape the meaning of communication, the meaning of our relationships, the meaning of the choices we NTs make. For an “Aspie” there may be no meaning if the facts don’t add up.
Join me in Video Conference:
Help! My partner says he hears me but doesn’t seem to really understand
Wednesday, July 17, 2024 at 9:00 AM Pacific Time
You can browse upcoming events this month for our community:
This month's Free Teleconference:
How come my "Aspie" won't listen until I yell or am angry?
Thursday, July 18, 2024 at 1:00 PM Pacific Time
FREE to all Members: Ask an Ambassador Your Questions
July 18 - 2024 - 3pm Pacific Time
This event is for you if you if you are a new member of our "Asperger Syndrome: Partners & Family of Adults with ASD" group on MeetUp.
Dr. Kathy's Office Hours - Send me your questions!
This Month's theme is focusing on Why can’t I get a break from this life?
My Office Hours on Facebook Live will be held on
Tuesday, July 30, 2024 at 1:00 PM Pacific Time
If you have any questions you would like me to answer during my office hours, submit them to me and I'll answer them during the call.
See you next week,
Dr. Kathy
Special Webinar for Course Members
In my new course, "ASPERGER SYNDROME" & Relationships, course members can join me for my monthly webinar. The exciting thing is that both NeuroDiverse and NeuroTypical get to mingle at this webinar. It's important to keep learning about how the other person thinks if you are to build successful communication.
The Shock of Discovery --- When Your Parent is on the Spectrum
Wednesday, July 17, 2024, at 4 pm Pacific Time
When I realized that I was raised by a mother on the Autism Spectrum, I was shocked, but also so many pieces of my life fell into place. Many of you are making a similar discovery --- only after you have married and raised children of your own.
Slowly waking up to your own autism or your partner's or your child's is one thing. But realizing that who you are was shaped by an autistic parent --- and in a NeuroDivergent family --- well this can be quite an identity crisis, can't it?
*You must be a course member to access this Course Webinar. You can register by clicking HERE
Need Help?
How to Find (and Join) an Event in the Advanced Community Forum
There is no need to pre-register for an event as a paid member of the Advanced Community Forum. To access a Video Conference or Teleconference, login to your community dashboard. From the Community, click on Events to find the event information. Follow the instructions in the Event description to join.
How to Find (and Join) an Event in Meetup
Find the event calendar here, then click the event you would like to join. Follow the instructions in the event description to join.
What if I Forgot My Password?
If you have forgotten your password, click on the login page and find the "Forgot Password" link underneath the login form. Click that and follow the instructions to reset your password.
What's the difference between a Video Conference and a Teleconference?
A Video Conference is held on Zoom. When there are more than one video conference session for a topic, one of the video conferences is recorded (it will be noted in the event description), and the audio file is added into the recording library in the Advanced Community Forum.
The monthly Teleconference call is a phone call, and you will dial into the call using the instructions found in your Advanced Community Forum Teleconference Event description. The audio recordings of the Teleconference will be uploaded into the Advanced Community Forum recording library.
You should know about:
"ASPERGER SYNDROME" & Relationships: A course for those in NeuroDivergent Relationships.
“I can’t believe it! My partner is watching and really likes your videos.”
You're invited to join me in this empowering course and community where NeuroTypicals and their NeuroDiverse loved ones can mingle with others in NeuroDivergent relationships. This is a chance for you to finally grow your relationship and address how to change the way you communicate to achieve greater harmony.
Sign up for the online course »
Empathy is More than Words: Introducing Ground Breaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships
In my newest book, I introduce three innovative concepts: the Empathy Triad, the 7-Step Interface Protocol, and Radiant Empathy.
The Empathy Triad is the stunning new tool I created to help NeruoDivergent couples communicate effectively. It represents the relationship of Empathy, Context, and Conversation and illustrates why Empathy is more than words.
Buy the book on Amazon »
Dear Rita J. Goss,
It took me years to comprehend that nearly all of the problems I experienced in my relationships with my NeuroDiverse loved ones could be explained by Empathy Dysfunction (EmD). Once I got it that they were not using empathy to understand the world and the people around them, I was able to navigate the gummed up communications among us.
People on the Autism Spectrum have Zero Degrees of Empathy (EmD-0) so their reality is built from a different set of mapping tools. While we run everything through our understanding of others in relationship to ourselves, they run everything through a fantastic list of “factoids.” How often have you heard your “Asperger” partner tell you that they “heard every word”? Maybe, but did they really process the meaning?
Empathy helps shape the meaning of communication, the meaning of our relationships, the meaning of the choices we NTs make. For an “Aspie” there may be no meaning if the facts don’t add up.
Join me in Video Conference:
Help! My partner says he hears me but doesn’t seem to really understand
Wednesday, July 17, 2024 at 9:00 AM Pacific Time
You can browse upcoming events this month for our community:
This month's Free Teleconference:
How come my "Aspie" won't listen until I yell or am angry?
Thursday, July 18, 2024 at 1:00 PM Pacific Time
FREE to all Members: Ask an Ambassador Your Questions
July 18 - 2024 - 3pm Pacific Time
This event is for you if you if you are a new member of our "Asperger Syndrome: Partners & Family of Adults with ASD" group on MeetUp.
Dr. Kathy's Office Hours - Send me your questions!
This Month's theme is focusing on Why can’t I get a break from this life?
My Office Hours on Facebook Live will be held on
Tuesday, July 30, 2024 at 1:00 PM Pacific Time
If you have any questions you would like me to answer during my office hours, submit them to me and I'll answer them during the call.
See you next week,
Dr. Kathy
Special Webinar for Course Members
In my new course, "ASPERGER SYNDROME" & Relationships, course members can join me for my monthly webinar. The exciting thing is that both NeuroDiverse and NeuroTypical get to mingle at this webinar. It's important to keep learning about how the other person thinks if you are to build successful communication.
The Shock of Discovery --- When Your Parent is on the Spectrum
Wednesday, July 17, 2024, at 4 pm Pacific Time
When I realized that I was raised by a mother on the Autism Spectrum, I was shocked, but also so many pieces of my life fell into place. Many of you are making a similar discovery --- only after you have married and raised children of your own.
Slowly waking up to your own autism or your partner's or your child's is one thing. But realizing that who you are was shaped by an autistic parent --- and in a NeuroDivergent family --- well this can be quite an identity crisis, can't it?
*You must be a course member to access this Course Webinar. You can register by clicking HERE
Need Help?
How to Find (and Join) an Event in the Advanced Community Forum
There is no need to pre-register for an event as a paid member of the Advanced Community Forum. To access a Video Conference or Teleconference, login to your community dashboard. From the Community, click on Events to find the event information. Follow the instructions in the Event description to join.
How to Find (and Join) an Event in Meetup
Find the event calendar here, then click the event you would like to join. Follow the instructions in the event description to join.
What if I Forgot My Password?
If you have forgotten your password, click on the login page and find the "Forgot Password" link underneath the login form. Click that and follow the instructions to reset your password.
What's the difference between a Video Conference and a Teleconference?
A Video Conference is held on Zoom. When there are more than one video conference session for a topic, one of the video conferences is recorded (it will be noted in the event description), and the audio file is added into the recording library in the Advanced Community Forum.
The monthly Teleconference call is a phone call, and you will dial into the call using the instructions found in your Advanced Community Forum Teleconference Event description. The audio recordings of the Teleconference will be uploaded into the Advanced Community Forum recording library.
You should know about:
"ASPERGER SYNDROME" & Relationships: A course for those in NeuroDivergent Relationships.
“I can’t believe it! My partner is watching and really likes your videos.”
You're invited to join me in this empowering course and community where NeuroTypicals and their NeuroDiverse loved ones can mingle with others in NeuroDivergent relationships. This is a chance for you to finally grow your relationship and address how to change the way you communicate to achieve greater harmony.
Sign up for the online course »
Empathy is More than Words: Introducing Ground Breaking Tools for NeuroDivergent Relationships
In my newest book, I introduce three innovative concepts: the Empathy Triad, the 7-Step Interface Protocol, and Radiant Empathy.
The Empathy Triad is the stunning new tool I created to help NeruoDivergent couples communicate effectively. It represents the relationship of Empathy, Context, and Conversation and illustrates why Empathy is more than words.
Buy the book on Amazon »
