02/12/2020
Determination, strength, and teamwork.
A brand new mama birthed in this beautiful birth center this week. She and her partner prepared with Birth Boot Camp, choosing compassionate care providers ( ), hiring me as their doula, walking every day, and eating well.
Her hard work paid off. She trusted her body throughout her labor. When one of us would offer a suggestion or affirmation (yes you can!, relax your belly, you are so strong...), she took it! You could see her body relax into the unknown-ness of labor.
Her strength was incredible. When she thought she was pushing as hard as she could, she would then push even harder. When a contraction would begin to over take her, she would instead choose to move and sway her body with the sensation.
And this team. This was a dream team in my opinion. Her partner was along side her with every single step of her preparation. He was vulnerable and real during labor. Saying the best words he knew in the moment, asking when he didn’t understand, and kissing this beautiful mama when he was so in awe of her. The midwives held such amazing space for this mama to labor in her own way. In her own time. They didn’t leave her stranded, though. The moment she needed support they stepped right in (check out my stories for proof of that!). I’m pretty much the worst at tooting my own horn, but having doula support completed this team. I got to get to know them in class for 10 weeks and also at our own meeting, so we had a connection. I knew them and what they wanted and I helped them get there. I drew a bath, brought cold compresses, gave drinks of water, massaged, offered encouragement. But most of all, I was a steady presence of confidence and unconditional acceptance.
This birth (which the whole story is not mine to tell 😉) did not take place by accident. They didn’t just get lucky. They had an amazing birth because they prepared for it. Body, mind, and soul. Nothing went perfectly, but they set themselves up for a really positive, wonderful start to parenting. They made this happen. And you can too!