07/03/2022
It is gaslighting when someone deliberately marginalizes your logic for the sake of maintaining a pecking order in a relationship. It is gaslighting when a friend consistently does what they can to poke holes in your thought process so they can remain on their throne. It is gaslighting when regardless of how nice you are to someone, they need to mock you, put you down, devalue you, and imply either directly or indirectly, you are not good enough.β β β β β β β β β ββββββββ
Gaslighting is a deliberate attempt to cause someone else to lack confidence in their thought process. Gaslighting is a tool used to ensure that others continue to lack confidence in their inner realities. Gaslighting ensures dependencies, adoration, and a sense of dominance.β β β β β β β β β ββββββββ
If we want to be free, we have to find the holes in the wall in our own ship so we can sail off into calmer waters. I mean, isn't that the entire point anyway?β β β β β β β β β ββββββββ
The next time someone tries to poke a hole in your mind, see it for what it is.β β β β β β β β β ββββββββ
Remember, friends listen, friends seek to care, they hear you, rather than tell you who you are, what you think, what you need, and what you believe.β β β β β β β β β ββββββββ
Someone who gaslights will tell you what to think, what you think, what to believe, and demand they know what you believe.ββββββββ
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