04/25/2026
Music can genuinely help people move through trauma and grief. Not in a “fix everything” way, but in a very real, measurable emotional and neurological sense.
When you listen to music, it activates parts of the brain tied to memory, emotion, and even physical regulation. That’s why a song can hit you instantly, sometimes harder than words alone. For someone dealing with grief or trauma, that can be powerful in a few key ways:
🎵It gives emotions somewhere to go:
~ Music can hold feelings that are hard to express, anger, numbness, longing. Sometimes it says what you can’t.
🎵It helps process memories safely:
~ Songs can bring up memories in a more controlled, contained way. That can help you gradually face things instead of being overwhelmed all at once.
🎵It regulates your nervous system:
~Slower, calming music can reduce stress responses (like heart rate and cortisol), while more intense music can help release built-up tension. Like Lord Huron!
🎵It reduces isolation:
Hearing lyrics that reflect your experience can make you feel less alone, like someone else “gets it,” even if you’ve never met them.
🎵It creates structure during chaos:
~In grief, everything can feel unstable. Having certain songs or playlists can become grounding rituals.
My music has helped countless clients during sessions. I can tell when a song hits a client a certain way due to how the muscles react or their breathing. My clients have no idea how much we become “one” during our sessions. It’s so beautiful at times.
It’s ok to let my music let you feel. Let it in.
…..and yes many songs during sessions have made me shed a few tears.
That said, not all music helps in every moment. Sometimes certain songs can intensify sadness or trigger painful memories. It’s okay to be selective, what helps one day might not help the next.
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Contact:
Oasis Massage Therapy, LLC
Courtney Fitzpatrick, NCLMBT #13724
📲 910-386-6229
📧 oasismassagelmbt@gmail.com
📍2709 Market Street
Suite 205D
Wilmington, NC 28403
📜 Certified in: Trauma/Grief, Manual Lymphatic Drainage, Oncology, & Prenatal/Postpartum Massage
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