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When you're in a rough patch, the mountain seems so high and the emotional cost so great that it is easy to lose faith that things could ever change for the better. Sometimes the best way to tackle a difficult question is to break it down into other smaller ones, which is what a new blog post from Andrew G. Marshall helps with. In a future post, we'll also share the 7 positive signs to focus on when things are rough.

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Seven Questions to Ask.

When you're in a rough patch, the mountain seems so high and the emotional cost so great that it is easy to lose faith that things could ever change for the better. Sometimes the best way to tackle a difficult question is to break it down into other smaller ones, which is what a new blog post from Andrew G. Marshall helps with. In a future post, we'll also share the 7 positive signs to focus on when things are rough. #gottman #gottmanrelationshipblog #gottmanmethod #relationships #relationshipscience

Remember this during the holiday season.

Happy Independence Day!

Remember that.

Today marks the 244th anniversary of the Declaration of Independence. How do you celebrate/honor/acknowledge this historical event? What do you hope for?

What Is Juneteenth?

Juneteenth: https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-meaning-behind-juneteenth-11592413234

What Is Juneteenth? The annual holiday observes the end of slavery in the U.S. and marks the day (June 19, 1865) when news of emancipation reached people in the deepest parts of the former Confederacy in Galveston, Texas.

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We will stay open as long as we can. Social distancing is important to slow down the spread of this disease. We agree to do the following:

-We will continue to sanitize all highly touched surfaces in between sessions.
-We will deep clean daily.
-We will wash our hands frequently.
-We will stay home if we are even the slightest bit sick.

We ask that you help as well:

-Please only come in if you are healthy. Take care of your mind, body and spirit.
-If you are the slightest bit sick, please stay home.
-If you have traveled to any “hot spots” that have been infected please stay home for the next few weeks.
-Wash hands or sanitize when you arrive and leave the space.
-Cough or sneeze into your tissue.
-Have patience while we clean the space between sessions.

According to the many sources it is important for us all to remain in our own bubbles. To help you with keeping your appointments, while you stay in your bubble, we will provide an individualized face-to-face video session.

The outbreak of coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19), may be stressful for people and communities. Please use this as a guide in helping you and your loved ones:

Visit https://emergency.cdc.gov/coping/selfcare.asp for more information.

NC Gov. Cooper: North Carolina Recommends New Steps to Protect Against COVID-19

It can be hard to know what to do and how to respond, please use these credible places of information to guide you in your decision making process for Covid-19. We are in this together!

Governor's Most Recent Press Release: https://governor.nc.gov/news/north-carolina-recommends-new-steps-protect-against-covid-19

DHHS Resources: https://www.ncdhhs.gov/divisions/public-health/coronavirus-disease-2019-covid-19-response-north-carolina

Attorney General Stein's Most Recent Press Release: https://ncdoj.gov/attorney-general-josh-stein-to-event-organizers-do-the-right-thing-for-north-carolinians-safety/

NC Gov. Cooper: North Carolina Recommends New Steps to Protect Against COVID-19 Governor Roy Cooper today announced that North Carolina is taking proactive steps to protect the health and wellbeing of our state in the face of growing cases of the coronavirus COVID-19 around the nation and here in North Carolina.

This is grief.

Poem By Callista Buchen
Artwork by Jeanette Chan

Sean Parnell

It occurred to Pooh and Piglet that they hadn't heard from Eeyore for several days, so they put on their hats and coats and trotted across the Hundred Acre Wood to Eeyore's stick house. Inside the house was Eeyore.

"Hello Eeyore," said Pooh.

"Hello Pooh. Hello Piglet," said Eeyore, in a Glum Sounding Voice.

"We just thought we'd check in on you," said Piglet, "because we hadn't heard from you, and so we wanted to know if you were okay."

Eeyore was silent for a moment. "Am I okay?" he asked, eventually. "Well, I don't know, to be honest. Are any of us really okay? That's what I ask myself. All I can tell you, Pooh and Piglet, is that right now I feel really rather Sad, and Alone, and Not Much Fun To Be Around At All. Which is why I haven't bothered you. Because you wouldn't want to waste your time hanging out with someone who is Sad, and Alone, and Not Much Fun To Be Around At All, would you now."

Pooh looked at Piglet, and Piglet looked at Pooh, and they both sat down, one on either side of Eeyore in his stick house.

Eeyore looked at them in surprise. "What are you doing?"

"We're sitting here with you," said Pooh, "because we are your friends. And true friends don't care if someone is feeling Sad, or Alone, or Not Much Fun To Be Around At All. True friends are there for you anyway. And so here we are."

"Oh," said Eeyore. "Oh." And the three of them sat there in silence, and while Pooh and Piglet said nothing at all; somehow, almost imperceptibly, Eeyore started to feel a very tiny little bit better.

Because Pooh and Piglet were There.

No more; no less.

(A.A. Milne, E.H. Shepard)

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It should be noted that Winnie the Pooh was written by Milne to explain war (he was a WWI & WWII veteran) and its effects to his son, Christopher, and perhaps himself (this scene relating to PTSD).

"The demons of war followed Milne throughout his life. It was noted that when Christopher was little, Alan terrified him when he confused a swarm of buzzing bees with whizzing bullets. The popping of balloons sent him ducking for cover. Milne knew of only one way to explain to his son what was happening — through his writing. A.A. Milne started writing a collection of short stories entitled Winnie-the-Pooh.

It's been theorized by Dr. Sarah Shea that Milne wrote into each character of Winnie-the-Pooh a different psychological disorder. While only A. A. Milne could tell us for certain, Dr. Shea's theory seems pointed in the right direction, but may be a little too impersonal. After all, the book was written specifically for one child, by name, and features the stuffed animals that the boy loved.

It's more likely, in my opinion, that the stories were a way for Milne to explain his own post-traumatic stress to his six-year-old son. Every stuffed friend in the Hundred Acre Woods is a child-friendly representation of a characteristic of post-traumatic stress. Piglet is paranoia, Eeyore is depression, Tigger is impulsive behaviors, Rabbit is perfectionism-caused aggression, Owl is memory loss, and Kanga & Roo represent over-protection. This leaves Winnie, who Alan wrote in for himself as Christopher Robin's guide through the Hundred Acre Woods — his father's mind."

Description of Winnie the Pooh is shared from We Are The Mighty.

Tag your six second kiss!

Hurricane Dorian continues to make its way to the Wilmington area. Please make necessary preparations, leave if you can, have a “go bag” in case of evacuations. Follow your instincts! Stay safe.

The Gottman Institute

"I want to talk about loving and investing in friendship with the same fervor many of us have been taught to treat romantic relationships only."

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Francis Collins pledged to decline to speak at conferences that do not include enough women in prominent speaking roles.

Marriage Minute | The Gottman Institute

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Happy Easter! Enjoy your spring break. Our office will be closed 4/15-4/22.

In their new book, "Eight Dates," the Gottmans have great ideas for conversation starters. This chapter, "Lean On Me," talks about knowing that you cherish each other because:

Happy New Year!

Happy Holidays!

Some great ideas for the upcoming new year!

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Today is a day of Thankfulness, take time to create and strengthen your family traditions. Here are some ideas! Happy Thanksgiving!

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Thank a veteran in your life!

A little reminder. 💜