Healing the Erotic Self

Healing the Erotic Self You will be able to register for the healing track that applies to you. For more information about the HTES program, visit HealingtheEroticSelf.com.

Healing the Erotic Self Life Coaching Program offers a self-study Erotic Liberation EcoSystem including a erotic intelligence workbook, AASECT CE eligible masterclasses, personal healing and professional learning intensives centering Black erotic healing. Transform Your Erotic Intelligence

When was the last time you felt connected to…

+ Your Desire

+ Your Pleasure

+Your Intuition

+Your Ability to Set or Reclaim Your Boundaries

+Your Erotic Embodiment

+Your Mind, Body, Spirit, & Breath

Founded by Clinical Somatic Sex Therapist Mx. Queen, LCSW, Healing the Erotic Self (HTES) is an erospiritual coaching program that guides you with erosomatic embodiment practices & offers a personal healing track and a professional development track for therapists, educators, counselors, coaches, medical and healing professionals. HTES offers multi-week live and self-paced coaching groups, Sexuality & Somatics and Authentic Consent Professional Development Learning Intensives with queer-inclusive, pleasure-affirming somatic and erotic group coaching, guided meditation audios, erotic liberation books wellness and erotic care practices and guidance. This erotic liberation program includes:

Multi-week erotic coaching program (live and self-paced)
Complimentary access to monthly Erotic Intelligence Masterclass
Post coaching program support with LIVE monthly group healing sessions including HTES Erosomatic Healing Sessions and SHIFT Somatic Healing Circles
Somatic and erotic guide meditation audios
HTES workbook (digital),
Erotic Affirmations Journal (digital)
HTES Erotic Care Practices Library
Erotic Breathwork Sessions
Erotic Liberation Retreats
Professional CE opportunities
Sexuality & Somatics Peer Supervision for Professionals
Virtual Office Hours with Queen
Private Virtual Community

There are 3 membership tiers including a professional development tier for helping and healing professionals like therapists, counselors, educators, and life coaches. To register for HTES offerings, visit the HTES community hub- Erospirituality.com.

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04/09/2026

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From Liberated Living to Erotic Living.In 2021, I wrote about the erotic awakening that began my current lovership. I ca...
04/06/2026

From Liberated Living to Erotic Living.

In 2021, I wrote about the erotic awakening that began my current lovership. I called it "Loc'd In Love: What My Locs Showed Me About My Healing."

That article was my first public exploration of erotic expansion—of learning to love myself s*xually, spiritually, and somatically.

Now, I'm inviting you into that same journey.

Erotic Living is the intentional integration of erotic intelligence into your daily life. It's how we move from surviving to thriving by cultivating erotic presence, intuitive embodiment, and spiritual aliveness.

It's sipping tea with reverence.
Breathing into your hips between meetings.
Journaling your desires unapologetically.
Choosing softness over shame.
Practicing lovership with yourself.

In just 7 days, you'll experience:
✨ A sacred space for your erotic healing
✨ Reconnection with your erotic energy
✨ Awakening of your erotic and spiritual power
✨ Integration of erotic mindfulness and authentic consent
✨ Activation of your erotic intelligence for WHOLE-self healing

This self-study course is rooted in decolonial erotic healing, somatic practices, and the wisdom of Black q***r traditions.

It's for those ready to move from crisis to liberation.

Ready to choose yourself?

Enroll in Erotic Living today.

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The Erotic Helps Us Come HomeWhat Brandy’s disclosure names — and what I have witnessed across twenty years of clinical,...
04/04/2026

The Erotic Helps Us Come Home

What Brandy’s disclosure names — and what I have witnessed across twenty years of clinical, coaching, and educational work — is that the path back from coerced consent is not primarily cognitive. You cannot simply understand your way back to your erotic self. The wound is erotically embodied. The healing must be too.

Erotic Alchemy is the name I give to this work: the compassionate transformation of emotional wounds, somatic imprints, and inherited violations into embodied safety, intuitive wisdom, and erotic self-trust. It moves through breath, restorative movement, energy medicine, and the fierce, patient work of erotic awareness. It is not “eat, pray, love.” It is choose, practice, and surrender — often in that order, often repeatedly.

The erotic does not just help survivors recover from what was done. It helps them become architects of their own inner life for the first time. Dr. Gilbert’s foundational claim — that the erotic self exists solely according to the self-definition of the individual — is both a scholarly argument and a liberatory one. It means that no matter what was done to your erotic self, it was never fully taken. It was suppressed, colonized, borrowed, violated. But it was never fully taken.

This is S*xual Assault Awareness Month.

And I want to name clearly:
Survivors deserve more than a hashtag.

They deserve embodied, culturally conscious, trauma-informed healing that begins where the wound actually lives — in the body, in the erotic self, in the place where their yes and their no have always been waiting to be given back to them.

What if everything you thought you knew about s*xuality was wrong?What if erotic intelligence isn't about s*xual perform...
04/03/2026

What if everything you thought you knew about s*xuality was wrong?

What if erotic intelligence isn't about s*xual performance, but about LITERACY?

The ability to attune to desire. Regulate your nervous system. Engage relationally with consent and power. Integrate s*xuality as a core dimension of your WHOLE-self wellness.

This is The Other EQ.

Based on the masterclass, introducing The Other EQ: Erotic Intelligence Course.

Based on The Other EQ: Erotic Intelligence Masterclass, you will learn how to move from erotic disconnection to erotic confidence through the decolonial approach of integrative somatic s*xology education, energy medicine as spirituality, and neuroplasticity for sxual healing.

In this course, you'll:
✨ Define erotic intelligence and distinguish it from s*xual behavior, performance, or pathology

✨ Identify the five elements of Erotic Intelligence and their relevance to s*xual health and ethical professional practice

✨ Understand how neuroplasticity and Polyvagal Theory inform s*xual healing and consent capacity

✨ Develop an erotic presence practice (your lovership)

✨ Integrate embodied intelligence principles that support s*xual healing and trauma-informed care

This course is for you if you're:
✨ Ready to decolonize your understanding of s*xuality and somatics
✨ A QTBIPOC healer, therapist, coach, or educator craving to deepen your practices
✨ Curious about integrative somatic s*xology

The course is recorded and immediately available after purchase. You'll receive bonuses including guided practices and resources.

Ready to reclaim your erotic power and integrate The Other EQ into your life and work?

Enroll today. Link in comments.

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In Spite Of.That's the practice.When I was in crisis, I learned slowness, stillness, and surrender. But those practices ...
04/02/2026

In Spite Of.

That's the practice.

When I was in crisis, I learned slowness, stillness, and surrender. But those practices alone weren't just survival—they were liberation-embodied liberation.

Sincere healing came when I gave myself permission to experience pleasure. Not as a reward. As a PRACTICE-every damn day (lovingly).

This is when erotic curiosity turned into erotic bravery.

The 5 Keys to Erotic Intelligence bring your emotional and somatic intelligence together so you can reconnect to ancestral knowing. To your wholeness.

Pleasure in spite of chaos? That's not escapism. That's embodied resistance. That's reclaiming your life force.

"I have a right to my emotions and a responsibility to my reactions."

This radical accountability strategy allows you to be both accountable AND self-compassionate.

How will YOU experience pleasure in spite of?

Start with the Erotic Living Course—7 days of healing your erotic energy.

Visit EroticLiving.co💜

HEALING THE EROTIC SELF: 6-Week Embodied Healing IntensiveMay 10 - June 18, 2026Reclaim Your Lovership.This liberation-c...
03/22/2026

HEALING THE EROTIC SELF: 6-Week Embodied Healing Intensive
May 10 - June 18, 2026

Reclaim Your Lovership.

This liberation-centered healing intensive empowers you to reconnect with your erotic self, heal s*xual energy, and embrace the pleasure and power of desire.

Guided by Integrative Somatic S*xologist Mx. Lena Queen, you'll explore s*xuality, spirituality, and somatics through a decolonial, trauma-informed, consent-based lens.

WHAT YOU'LL GET:
✨ 6 weeks of live erotic intelligence coaching
✨ Somatic and erosomatic exercises
✨ Supportive healing container
✨ 18 AASECT CE credits (eligible professionals)
✨ Digital bonuses: HTES Workbook, SHIFT Wellness Plan, Erotic Living 7-Day Course, and more

TWO COHORTS:
1) Inclusive Queer-Affirming Cohort
2) African-Descent Cohort

Limited to 12 students per cohort. Limited need-based scholarships available.

Your investment: $597

This is for you if you're healing from trauma, self-neglect, or erotic disconnection, and ready to reclaim your wholeness.

Reserve your spot today. Link in comments.

Healing the Erotic Self (HTES) is a 6-week, trauma-informed erotic healing intensive for healers, helpers, and spiritual...
03/18/2026

Healing the Erotic Self (HTES) is a 6-week, trauma-informed erotic healing intensive for healers, helpers, and spiritual entrepreneurs who are ready to become radically responsible for their own care & who want their service to be resourced—so their work isn’t built on self-neglect.

Who is this for?
HTES supports trauma-survivors who are also healers and spiritual entrepreneurs to make real time for themselves without guilt, anchor into embodied safety, and awaken erotic mindfulness—so your service is resourced, your boundaries are authentic, and your pleasure isn’t an afterthought.

To maintain the integrity of a therapeutic space, each cohort intensive is limited to 12 self-liberators.

Register for the Spring 2026 Cohort at HealingtheEroticSelf.com

Black History Month is a remembering.A return to what our ancestors protected with prayer, rhythm, boundary, and breath:...
02/28/2026

Black History Month is a remembering.

A return to what our ancestors protected with prayer, rhythm, boundary, and breath: our right to feel. Our right to pleasure. Our right to be whole.

As Black History Month closes, I’m offering a final invitation into Erotic Living at beta pricing — before the price increases on 3/1.

Get $100 off today (2/28)

The Erotic Living Course is moving from $97 → $197 as the beta season ends.

Today and tomorrow are your last days to enter at the founding rate.

Erotic Living BHM Offer:

Erotic Living is the intentional integration of erotic intelligence—your Other EQ—into daily life. It’s how we move from surviving to thriving by cultivating erotic presence, intuitive embodiment, and spiritual aliveness. It’s sipping tea with reverence, breathing into your hips between meet...

The 6 Erotic Needs of The Erotic Self 🌿You are already WHOLE. But you might be disconnected from your erotic wholeness.T...
02/10/2026

The 6 Erotic Needs of The Erotic Self 🌿

You are already WHOLE. But you might be disconnected from your erotic wholeness.

The Erotic Self is built on 6 foundational needs. When these are met, you activate erotic presence, authentic consent, and radical self-permission.

1. EMBODIED SAFETY - Attune to your physical & emotional responses to create safety from within.

2. EROTIC PRESENCE - Stay in the moment by activating embodied safety & erotic mindfulness.

3. RADICAL SELF-PERMISSION - Ask for what you desire without shame, guilt, or emotional labor.

4. EROTIC EXPRESSION - Safely express your erotic self through movement, voice, play, art, or stillness.

5. INTIMATE CONNECTIONS - Connect with yourself & others erotically—energetically, spiritually, s*xually.

6. EROTIC EXPANSION - Grow & transform in having, sustaining, & evolving your erotic needs.

This is the framework we use in Authentic Consent Certification, SHIFT Intensive, & Erotic Intelligence Coaching.

Which one resonates most for you right now?

Learn more at Erospirituality.com

Circle in. Sacred learning is blooming.What if healing could feel like home? What if your next step nourished both body ...
01/30/2026

Circle in. Sacred learning is blooming.

What if healing could feel like home? What if your next step nourished both body and calling?

Upcoming masterclasses and retreats are opening soon. Each is a living invitation to reclaim erotic wisdom, honor lineage, and gather in community.

Ready to join us in the sacred circle? RSVP for a free consult or explore our offerings. 💜

01/29/2026

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