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Jake White Healing LLC

Jake White Healing offers individual and personalized energetic healing sessions. Jake White Healing also offers guided meditation groups in Winchester Va.

These sessions include addressing our patterns that keep us from living full and healthy lives. to establish community support for those interested in meditation practice.

10/28/2025

A pillow can be such a great resource when we feel overwhelmed. A lot of times what creates panic and anxiety is a feeling of being overexposed. We feel so connected to threat that we have no resource to provide protection and containment. We lose a barrier between us and the perceived threat. This causes our body to be flooded by stress hormones that elevate our heart rate, contracts our muscles, and creates a completely overwhelming experience for our nervous system.

A pillow can create a barrier between us and the external environment. We can place a pillow on our chest, hold onto the pillow tightly, and collapse into a self hug. This is like giving ourselves a cocoon to hold and protect us.

We can then lift up in our posture and reorient to our environment. Keeping the pillow with us and feeling the sensation of warmth and pressure on our body.

This process helps connect the activated part of the nervous to a feeling of safety and protection. It helps to slow down the nervous system and settles the production of stress hormones.

Grab a pillow when you feel overwhelmed and give yourself a protective barrier. In every experience of anxiety there is often a deeper need to be held and protected.

10/27/2025

Kind eyes is an exercise that we use in DARe. DARe is a modality that works on repairing attachment wounds and Re patterning secure attachment.

The secure attachment system is a movement of the nervous system toward social engagement. When this is reciprocated it reinforces an emotional pattern of safety within our physical body.

We can help to develop a secure attachment pattern through visualization of kind eyes. We can then observe how we would reciprocate this connection through our own eyes and expression. Then we can observe the felt sense of our body. Noticing any experience of warmth, settling, tears, or grounding within the felt sense of the nervous system.

Try this exercise out and let us know how it goes in the comments.

10/23/2025

Attachment is the expansion of love in relationships. When a child is held through sadness and fear by their parents they are regulated by the presence of love and connection. The nervous system regulates and releases stress when we feel loved.

Attachment styles are adaptations when love is not present, consistent, and available. The repair of attachment comes from consistent connection that is present and available.

Read these attachment sentences and become curious about which one describes your attachment. Also try to visualize how a secure attachment would engage with you. As you visualize your secure attachment then notice how your body responds. You may feel lighter, emotional, settled, or grounded. By visualizing our secure attachment we help to open up to the presence of love and connection.

10/21/2025

Often times we are needing a hug and embrace. We are needing a source of stability, warmth, and connection through our periods of activation and dysregulation.

So many of our traumas are linked to implicit emotional memories of being alone and abandoned. When we move toward a self hug we are reinforcing connection. We are pulling our posture inward, holding ourselves with our arms and hands, holding onto a pillow, and collapsing into our own embrace.

We may follow a deep breath, the warmth of our body, or the softness of our physicality. Instead of spiraling into rumination or hypervigilance we are slowing down and embracing ourselves.

We are holding ourselves in ways that would have allowed us to release our stress rather than suppress or push away our feelings.

Try this practice to reduce feelings of isolation, abandonment, and anxiety. A self hug can become a resource for safety and regulation of the nervous system.

10/17/2025

When we are present with another person we are holding a relational space. We are actually creating a space for the other person to safely express into. Emotions, sensations, feelings of shame, and our voice are searching for a space to be shared. This space allows us to feel held, to feel supported, and to move out of the patterns of restriction and suppression.

So many of us have been waiting our whole lives to receive a safe supportive space to express our needs. When another person jumps in to fix us it restricts this relational space. Instead of receiving we are forced to change to attune to the person fixing. We have to take care of the person’s discomfort with emotions and vulnerable feelings.

The person sharing needs to feel held and support while they express themselves. To be reassured that their feelings are justified, that their experience matters, and that their feelings can be met with warmth and compassion.

The relational space meets our deepest needs to be seen, held, loved, and supported. It allows our tension, burden, and emotional wounds to release and soften. It brings us back to our body where we can feel settled and regulated.

A relational space helps us feel embodied, whole, and a deeper pattern of belonging in our somatic experience.

10/16/2025

When we are working with the nervous system we are actually working with trust. The nervous system reacts with survival responses of fight, flight, and freeze because of past traumatic events. The nervous system may not trust that a man is safe, that life is safe, or that people will not leave or abandonment us. The nervous system does not trust life so it pulls away, tightens, shakes, looks away, and becomes aggressive to protect us.

Healing the nervous system is a slow and patient process of reforming trust. Noticing that we can patiently observe our emotions and trust our body, noticing a therapists calm presence and feeling safe to allow support, and opening our eyes and trusting that life is safe to engage with.

Trauma forces us to pull away from connection and to lose faith and trust. Healing brings us back to connection where we reform a sense of safety with ourselves and with life.

10/15/2025

Trauma is a complete experience of threat. The patterns of fight, flight, and freeze completely take over as we are bombarded by stress physiology. When we experience stress in the present we will be taken back to the old memories of trauma that still live in our body.

Every somatic experiencing practitioner will guide you toward a practice of finding and edge or distance away for the activated sensations of the body. They do this to help you find an edge to your stress response. To find other experiences in the body that may lead to more regulation, more connection with yourself, and a safe experience of your sensations and nervous system.

When you are guided to the edge you may notice more ease, more presence, and more space to be with your feelings.

When you notice activation or overwhelm in your life try to find the border or edge of your stress response. Stay with this edge and notice what happens in your body.

Remember that trauma has no border or edge because it is a complete state of overwhelm. Regulation gives us a border where a sense of safety can coexist with stress.

Let us know in the comments what your experience is with this practice notice. See if you can find a border to your stress response.

10/14/2025

Ruptures in relationships create a strong sympathetic reaction within the nervous system. In a sympathetic reaction, we often spiral into being hyper-vigilant and alert to our environment. We focus on the other person, wonder what we may have done wrong, or our thoughts keep returning to the situation as we replay the event.
Our sympathetic nervous system is alerting us to danger and mobilizing energy to protect us.

There are four things I like to do to help myself through emotional triggers:

First, I try to locate where I feel the emotional impact in my body. I may notice my chest or throat as the place where I experience the emotional reaction of hurt or sadness.

Second, I let go of external focus. I try to reduce the amount of time I spend replaying the situation in my mind. External focus keeps my nervous system in a sympathetic state and leaves my body feeling stuck in threat and danger.

Third, I give myself space to process. I don’t force myself to “get over it” or distract myself to feel better. I remind myself that I have time to feel my reaction, and that there’s no timetable for how long I should feel emotional or reactive.

Fourth, I focus on myself. I try to see myself as a source of stability and comfort when I feel triggered—by bringing attention to my heart, holding my feelings with my hands, or being present with my emotions.

So much of our attention goes outward when we’re triggered. We may feel judged for being upset, feel pressure to hold it together for others, or let shame create a narrative that everyone is rejecting us. Turning attention inward helps us return to a sense of emotional and nervous system stability.
Consider these four ways of managing an emotional trigger, and see if there’s one you’d like to practice in your life.

Let us know which one you choose and how you think it will help. The next time you feel an emotional trigger, you can come out the other side feeling more whole and regulated.

10/10/2025

Create a space in your body to bring yourself in for connection. Your heart is the space that can offer openness, warmth, and love. Shame restricts this space and pushes yourself away.

By softening your hands, opening your chest, and settling your abdomen you are creating a space for connection. You can then visualize bringing yourself in and feel your hands moving outward to connect. You can then visualize bringing yourself in toward your heart.

This helps to settle a pattern of shame and to follow the response of regulation within the body.

As you feel more settled your shame naturally releases and settles. The opposite of shame is belonging and pride. The space of the heart can provide for this need to belong.

10/09/2025

Beliefs can feel so big, scary, and destructive. They feel like such a negative force in our life. We spend a lot of energy trying to change our thoughts or fix ourselves in order to change our beliefs.

The truth is that our beliefs are not as big as we think they are. They are actually implicit emotional and physical responses to stress. When triggered the activated energy of our body triggers negative thoughts and perceptions.

Beliefs are connected to emotional patterns that need to be held, loved, and supported. When we feel seen, met, and attuned to our body softens. Through this softening we feel less judgement and tension through our body.

Instead of treating shame or beliefs as big scary monsters, see them as a physical reaction to stress. Let your dysregulation be present in your body. Find ways to ground yourself and support your emotions through a moment of shame or overwhelm.

When our body feels more settled, grounded, and open our thoughts will reflect this reality. Regulating the nervous system and gaining more capacity to regulate stress is the solution to our negative thoughts and perceptions.

10/08/2025

Beliefs help us survive difficult situations that do not support our well-being. They help us adapt in order to keep ourselves safe. When the environment is unpredictable, my beliefs can help me find a fragile sense of order and control.

Since beliefs—such as the belief in wrongness—were formed around trauma, they always connect us back to traumatic situations. They keep us stuck in the past, recreating the same old emotions, sensations, thoughts, and perceptions. Beliefs become the identity we create and hold onto from past trauma.

Beliefs also help us move into protective responses, such as bracing through the chest, pulling our posture inward, or tensing the jaw and throat—an old protective response that may have once kept me safe from harm. Beliefs help suppress vulnerability, too. I may naturally suppress vulnerable feelings when they arise. I hold a belief that they are wrong, and this helps me protect those feelings from being seen by others.

I may also make myself wrong in order to protect my attachment. I can be wrong instead of my parent—someone I needed for survival.

My beliefs can also give me a fragile sense of control. I can change myself when life feels chaotic and overwhelming.

When we see the role beliefs have played in keeping us safe, it opens the door to compassion. Beliefs protected us when we had very few resources, limited awareness, and little capacity to cope with life’s circumstances. Beliefs can begin to heal when we understand them—and eventually set them free.

10/07/2025

Our thoughts can create the reality that our body is reacting to. We can observe the reality that our thoughts are creating. Noticing the vigilance, bracing, and abrasiveness that our thoughts create.

As I observe my bodies response I like to give myself more stability. Feeling my feet on the ground, slowing myself down, or giving myself permission to feel my emotions.

Overtime I have realized that my thoughts and emotions need safety and connection. I need to slow down and ground myself to feel safe and stable. My thoughts can reinforce insecurity and avoidance of feelings. Returning to the body over and over again has helped me to live less in my head and more in the present.

Observe what your thoughts are creating in the physical body and move toward your sensations to regulate your stress response. For me this has been a life changing practice.

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