03/12/2025
Before we correct our children, we need to connect with them.
In the heat of a difficult moment, it’s natural to want to stop unwanted behavior right away. But when we rush to correct without first understanding what’s beneath the surface, we miss an opportunity to truly guide our children.
Connection doesn’t mean ignoring misbehavior — it means recognizing the emotions driving it. A child acting out is often a child feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, or disconnected. By pausing to offer empathy, a gentle touch, or words of understanding, we reassure them that our love is unwavering, even when their actions fall short.
When we connect first, correction becomes an act of teaching rather than punishment. It shifts the dynamic from control to collaboration. Instead of, “Why did you do that?” we can ask, “What’s going on for you right now?” This simple shift invites honesty and reflection, paving the way for meaningful growth.
Our children don’t need us to be perfect. They need us to show up, to listen, and to remind them through our presence that they are safe and loved — even when they stumble. And from that foundation of connection, they’ll learn not just what to do, but why it matters.
Let’s be the calm in their storm, the anchor in their chaos, and the reminder that love always comes before correction.
