Rita Henry

08/02/2025

08/01/2025

7 reasons my relationship is successful (and what you can do so yours is too)

1. I don’t expect him to be my answer. If I want or need something that he doesn’t want to give me, I don’t get mad at him or make him wrong. He doesn’t have to want what I want and I don’t have to like what he likes and vice versa.

2. I stay in my own lane. I don’t try to change Karl. I accept him exactly as he is because I’m more interested in living in reality than some made-up fantasy.

3. I’m not afraid of being uncomfortable (so I’ll name things as inspired). I live a guided life, grounded in Love and Truth. There is no conversation that’s too uncomfortable, no Truth I’m willing to shove under the rug.

4. I take full responsibility for my feelings. I don’t blame Karl for how I feel. Even when I elevate, get angry, sad, or frustrated, I do my work to heal the held emotions, traumas, and misunderstandings inside me causing the triggers.

5. I have an intimate relationship with myself. I’m so connected with myself, I can let my feelings flow through me, name the triggers without blame, and give myself what I want and need without making Karl wrong.

6. I know how I deserve to be treated and I won’t settle for less. When Karl elevates or red-lines (which he’s been known to do because even though his hair has turned grey, he’s still my fiery red-head), I meet him toe-to-toe. I stay present and tell him I don’t deserve his anger without shutting down or unconsciously attacking him. (When necessary, I even use fiery words so he can hear me too. 😂😂😂)

7. I want what’s best for him (and he wants the same for me). We Love each other deeply. Love is the core of our relationship. We’re honestly curious about each other and we’re willing to try things on that the other enjoys (like living on a sailboat from time to time, which is Karl’s dream and something I’m trying on ⛵️).

07/31/2025

This is your Divine life. It’s what your Soul came here to experience.

No matter what’s going on in the world around you, it’s exactly what you need to evolve. Why? Because you don’t know what anyone’s Soul came here to learn, not even your own. This is a world of insanity, and you learn through contrast. 💗🙏

07/31/2025

Eckhart Tolle says, “Relationships do not cause us pain and unhappiness, they bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you.”

In other words, every relationship you have is a reflection of your relationship with yourself. 🪞

So if you’re not happy, it’s NOT because the other person needs to change. But that’s good news. Because, it means you already have everything you need to make a change.

To get started, ask yourself these questions:

✨ Would you want to be in a relationship with yourself?
✨ How are you showing up in your relationships (including the relationship you have with yourself)?
✨ What do you need to start treating yourself better?

Intimacy with yourself is how you open up to intimacy with others. It changes your relationships for the better (forever). And, you don’t have to wait around for anyone else to change first. What a relief. 💗

Want more? Click the link in the comments to join my email list, so you can dig into whatever's kicking your b***y.

07/30/2025

In our communities, we're focusing on the theme 10/10 people die, how many of us actually live?

The breakthrough Erin made during a session this week is mind blowing! 🤯

Here's what she had to say:
"I thought playing the victim kept me safe when, in Truth, being a victim kept me stuck." ❤️🙏

In Truth, your divine life is playing out. Fighting reality or feeling like something *shouldn't* be happening is a recipe for getting your b***y kicked. Acceptance and surrender for the win. 🎉💜

07/30/2025

How are you holding yourself back from the things you *say* you want?

If you like what you’re doing, keep doing it. If not, don’t let your fears get in the way of making a change.

07/29/2025

Next time you are feeling triggered (or taking s**t personally) pay attention to where you feel that in your body.

Is it your chest?
Your stomach?
Your neck and shoulders?
Somewhere else?

Feel into that part of your body and say out loud “Thank you for keeping me safe.”

Report back on how it goes. I’m cheering you on! ❤️🎉

07/29/2025

Hanging with clients in my studio today and sending YOU ALL the Love!!! We’re all stronger together. 😘❤️🥰

07/29/2025

The most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.

🫶If you aren’t treating yourself well, how can anyone else know how to treat you?
🫶If you’re throwing yourself under the bus on the daily, how are they supposed to help?

In other words, you are your own best friend. It’s time you start treating yourself that way.

What’s one thing you can do for yourself today that’s loving and kind?

07/28/2025

Need help learning to say no?

Try out one of these:
💥 No thanks.
💥 That doesn’t work for me.
💥 Thanks for asking, no.
💥 I appreciate the offer, but it doesn’t work this time.
💥 No fu**ing way.
💥 I’m not taking on anything else right now.
💥 That isn’t the right fit for me.
💥 I’m sorry, but I can’t.
💥 That doesn’t sound like something I would enjoy.
💥 Another time would work better for me.
💥 I already have plans that day.

Saying no, having healthy boundaries, and learning to trust yourself is a muscle you can learn to build. 💪 But it takes time and practice.
(And sometimes the kindest thing is to not trust yourself for a while as you unpack what you *really* want and need. That’s ok too! It’s all a part of being human.)

What are some creative ways you’ve learned to say no? 🥰

07/28/2025

Your feelings aren’t wrong.

And if you want freedom, you have to be willing to feel ALL of them.

When my 9-day-old daughter Amy died, I got my b***y kicked thinking she shouldn’t have died. It wasn’t until I accepted reality and faced the grief, pain, and devastation that I could finally open up space to heal.

Doing my work meant I had to face the pain from my past, feel ALL my feelings, and release the held emotions, traumas, misunderstandings, patterns, and stories I didn’t even know were there.

But doing my work gave me MY life.

And doing your work can give you yours too.

My upcoming book, Because of Amy: How My Daughter’s Death Gave Me Life (And How Your Pain Can Free You Too), will show you how I did it. I’ll share my story of facing my deepest core pain so you can see yourself through me. Stay tuned for more info about when it’s coming out. 💗🙏📚