03/16/2026
Comfort might mean sitting on the couch all snuggled in re-watching Gilmore Girls for the 27th time.
But that’s not the same thing as happiness.
Because happiness requires you to get uncomfortable. It’s being willing to disappoint another to stay true to yourself. It’s not using Lorelai and Rory to avoid feeling your own feelings.🫣
Not that you can’t unplug with some good tv, by all means go ahead. But if you’re doing that again and again, day after day instead of facing past pain, traumas, misunderstandings, and held emotions you might not even know are there, you aren’t living a happy life.
You’ve traded comfort for happiness.💣
Happiness isn’t avoidance. It isn’t “hitting pause” on your emotions. It’s getting outside your comfort zone. It’s acting like the characters on tv and taking risks to grow.
A lot of people say they want to change their lives, but the minute a feeling comes up that they don’t want to feel, they make it wrong and go right back to avoiding.
That’s how you get suck in the spin.
It’s how you let 20 years go by still b!tching about your ex or obsess over those lasts 15 pounds or try to convince yourself you had a happy childhood (while conveniently forgetting all the ways your parents were too busy for you).😢
And while it may be “comfortable” for you (because it’s what you know), it certainly isn’t happy.
To really get to “I have happy” you have to lean into the discomfort. You have to be willing to do things differently. You have to feel ALL your feelings.
But you don’t have to do any of it alone.👭
Click the link in my bio to sign up for my 90-day online course, Pain Isn’t the End of Your Story.
It offers daily practices, guided meditations, and reflections that you can do in 30 minutes or less from home. In your jammies. 🙌💜
Link in bio. You can do hard things.
