12/23/2025
🌬️ Expectations… they’re like invisible rules we set for ourselves and others. Sometimes they lift us up, sometimes they quietly crush us.
The truth is: expectations are powerful. When they’re realistic and flexible, they give us direction, motivation, and a sense of purpose.
But when they’re rigid, unspoken, or sky-high (especially about ourselves, relationships, or life in general), they can quietly chip away at our peace.
Ever catch yourself thinking:
- “I *should* be further along by now…”
- “They *should* know what I need without me saying it…”
- “Things *should* be easier than this…”
Those “shoulds” are often expectations in disguise — and when reality doesn’t match them, we feel disappointed, resentful, anxious, or even worthless.
The good news? We can loosen their grip.
Try this gentle shift:
- Notice the expectation (“I expected X to happen”)
- Ask: Is this fair? Is it realistic? Does it serve me?
- Replace it with something kinder: “I hope for X, but I’ll be okay if it looks different.”
Lowering unrealistic expectations doesn’t mean giving up on dreams — it means giving yourself room to breathe, grow, and feel joy even when life doesn’t go exactly as planned.
What’s one expectation you’ve been holding onto that’s been weighing you down lately? Or one you’ve let go of and felt lighter because of it? I’d love to hear below. 💛