Wildflower Doula Services

12/16/2022

Couldn’t have written it better myself….💕

Walk into a room while I am supporting a birth and you might think that I am just sitting there doing nothing. I won’t be talking. I won’t be touching the client. I won’t be using anything in my bag.

So what am I doing exactly?

🪑 Watching mom’s breathing and sometimes breathing loudly alongside her to remind her to slow down her breath

🪑 Scanning mom’s body during the contraction to make sure that she isn’t holding any tension

🪑 Monitoring the temperature and lighting to create the peaceful environment that she desires

🪑 Calculating how long it has been since she emptied her bladder

🪑 Thinking about how long she has been in her current position and thinking about the next position that she might try

🪑 Timing contractions to see if they are longer, stronger and closer together

🪑 Thinking about when mom and her partner last had a snack

🪑 Reviewing her preferences to make sure that everything is going according to her plan

🪑 Giving the couple space to connect on an intimate level (allowing for oxytocin) and/or guiding the partner to be the lead support

🪑 Updating notes and capturing labor flow

Sometimes just being fully present is enough. Sometimes just knowing I am there in close proximity is all mom needs to be able to relax and focus on what she needs to do. Sometimes just holding space for them in an unbiased manner allows for a noticeable shift in the energy of the room.

And the list goes on….

Source

09/15/2022

Delayed cord clamping impacts neurodevelopment, the risk of anemia, and more. Here are the top research-backed benefits.

08/03/2022

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World Breastfeeding Week aims to bring awareness and education to the miracle that is breastfeeding. Below are some benefits that you may not have known about.

-Helps to establish a strong bond between mother and baby.

-Leads to a more rapid and complete physical and emotional recovery for the mother after childbirth.

-Reduces the risk of certain diseases and conditions for both the mother and baby, including obesity, diabetes, colic, respiratory infections and ear infections.

-Helps the baby to develop a healthy immune system.

-May result in a higher IQ for the baby.
-Is more economical than formula feeding.

-Is more convenient than formula feeding, it does not require preparation or cleanup.

- It contains antibodies that protect the baby from illness.

-Breastfeeding can reduce the mother's risk for ovarian cancer, breast cancer, type II diabetes, and high blood pressure.

06/16/2022

Parenting can bring challenges as well as joy and immense love.

Self compassion is such a helpful tool to have when navigating parenthood.

How does self forgiveness and compassion show up for you?

06/10/2022

Quickest way to:
-regulate newborn breathing
-regulate heart rate
-regulate temperature
-calm a fussy baby
-improve breastfeeding success rate
-increase oxygen saturations

Take off those clothes and give them to their mama. 🪄

06/10/2022

06/09/2022

So. Much. This.

"Training"⠀
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Night waking is biologically normal. Night weaning does not ensure no wake ups. Sleep training does NOT ensure a good sleeper.⠀
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Sleep is a biological function, it cannot be forced. Just as if someone sat you on the toilet and demanded you p*e right then.⠀
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"Just give him rice cereal before bed. He's almost 3 month's, he'll be fine."⠀
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"Put them in bed, close the door, don't go back in until morning."⠀
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"If they are so upset they throw up, go in and change the sheets. Don't make eye contact or speak to them."⠀
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"She's getting too used to being comforted every time she wakes."⠀
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"Get out of the house when you put him in his crib, this way you won't hear his cries."⠀
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"Let them cry, they're just manipulating you."⠀
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Complete. And. Utter. BS.⠀
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Not to mention, DANGEROUS.⠀
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And many women believe that their baby, that only wakes a few times a night for nourishment and/or comfort, has a problem that needs to be solved.⠀
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Waking frequently is a protective measure against SIDS, and also helps to maintain breastfeeding. ⠀
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It's expected that they need feeds throughout the night. (Have you ever doubled your weight within a few months before? Or had rapid brain development and growth, so much so that you can't even rest?)⠀
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It's unrealistic to expect babies to sleep BETTER than adults. ⠀
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Why do we need studies, and facts, and statistics to show how it is or is not damaging. How it is or is not ok to hold your baby to sleep, nurse your baby to sleep, rock your baby to sleep.⠀
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What happened to following our instincts? What happened to parenting from and following what you feel is right and good in your heart?⠀
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If you need to p*e, do you wake? If you need to adjust the covers, do you wake? Do you wake when you're thirsty, had a bad dream, need to roll over?⠀
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Let's normalize normal behaviors.⠀
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Babies and children don't have sleep problems.⠀
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Society has expectation problems.⠀
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Needing comfort isn't a problem that needs to be fixed. It's part of being human.

06/08/2022

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04/22/2022

Cool idea! 😍

04/16/2022

🎯🎯🎯 Spot on!!! For my clients, I always recommend declining cervical checks based on every word written here. Even if your provider says that checking at xx weeks is their standard protocol - you can absolutely say no! It is not required. Trust your body and be patient. 💫

04/15/2022

You are amazing. Stop telling yourself otherwise.