01/05/2026
I am absolutely a “rub some dirt on it” , “walk it off” parent. But 20+ years in the school and raising three daughters absolutely taught me the value of “taking a day” or a half day- or a morning - Teaching young adults that it’s ok to slow down so that you can keep going is not just important - it’s CRITICAL.
Maybe the most valuable lesson we can teach our kids is - they don’t have to sprint through life. Life is a marathon- an endurance race- We have to know when to let up a little and how that gives us the ability to keep going in healthy ways.
We all need to learn the balance between hit the ground running each day and kicking behind- and forming a bum spot in the couch. But it’s a process. Help our kids figure it out. And model it too!
There are probably mixed feelings about this, but I’m a big believer in personal days for kids.
I know attendance is super important, and I never want to make things more difficult on their teachers, also I don’t know about your kids, but mine have been collecting viruses like Pokémon cards this year. (Fun times).
We don’t do it often, but we do it when it’s necessary.
One of my kids just ran out of gas last night. They snapped at me about something, but I knew it wasn’t about me. I could see it in their eyes and in their shoulders. I could hear it in their voice as they talked through all the things they have on their plate. “I’m just so tired.” They said.
And so I told them to take the day tomorrow, and in the morning I called it into the school. They’re taking a personal day.
Sometimes I just think my kids need to rest because it’s a lot. It’s the pressure to keep up in the classroom and whatever sports or activities they’re in, it’s also the emotional load of friend dynamics and that teacher that they don’t think likes them very much. It’s the pushing themselves to do hard things like tests and speaking in front of the class.
Emotional health is as important as physical health. We all need to tap out sometimes whether we’re seven or 40, and I’m all for it.
Love,
Jess