Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

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Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

I give tips on how high-achieving women can overcome perfectionism
📍Woodland Hills, CA (psy26351)

Perfectionism University - A place where you can unlearn Perfectionism and start your journey of embracing imperfections and owning your enoughness.

10/27/2025

Perfectionism thrives in silence. When you hide your struggles, you reinforce the belief that you’re “the only one” who feels this way. But you’re not. 🌿

Everyone battles with doubt, shame, or fear of failure. You are not alone. And when you speak it out loud, you take away perfectionism’s power.

This is your reminder:
➡️ Vulnerability creates connection.
➡️ Sharing your truth inspires healing.
➡️ You don’t have to carry this by yourself.

💬 Comment: What’s one thing you’re ready to stop hiding?

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10/25/2025

Perfectionism says that only when you are perfect are you worthy of love. It says, "if people really know who you are, they won't love you, so be better, do more." It is in this vicious cycle that we learn to hide away our insecurities and flaws, thinking they make us unlovable.

You don’t need to be perfect to be loved. 💜 Because we are all imperfect beings, and the more we open and let those imperfections be seen, we feel more love.

Read that again.

Perfectionism says, “If I show the real me, I won’t be enough.” But connection happens when we let people see us—flaws, fears, and all.

✨ This weekend, practice showing up as yourself, not your “perfect” version.

💬 What’s one part of you that you’re learning to embrace?

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10/22/2025

Have you ever noticed how perfectionism always moves the finish line? 🏁

You achieve one goal, and instead of celebrating, your brain whispers, “Not enough. Do more.” It says, "Next time, can you do it faster?" As if the pace at which you do things says something about your competence or intelligence. This endless cycle of chasing “better” or "more" robs you of joy in the present moment.

Here’s the reminder you need today:
🌿 You are allowed to celebrate progress.
🌿 You are allowed to rest at the milestone.
🌿 You are allowed to feel proud, even if things aren’t perfect.

Because the truth is—you don’t need to earn your worth. You already have it. 💜

💬 What’s one small win you can celebrate right now?

10/21/2025

Being “perfect” doesn’t connect us. It only isolates us.

Here is why..When trying to be perfect, we abandon and hide away parts of ourselves that are imperfect and struggling. This leaves other people thinking that they are the only ones with any struggles, insecurities, and weaknesses. They look at you and wonder, "Wow, how does she do it?" Wondering what's wrong with them for struggling with anxiety, self-esteem, and indecision.

But in actuality, we are all imperfect beings. We all question ourselves, deal with negative thinking, and wonder if we are doing enough.

So the more we share our imperfections and show up as our authentic selves, the more connection we will experience and foster. 🌿💜

💬 Comment below: What helps you embrace your humanness?

10/20/2025

Perfectionism whispers: “You can’t mess up. You can’t let them see the real you.” These stories we tell ourselves feed into our perfecitonism, creating a loop we can't get out of. We feel stuck. We worry that these lies we tell ourselves may be the truth. We become afraid to test them out!

But here’s the truth: vulnerability is not weakness—it’s courage in action. 💪💜

When you share your story, your fears, or your heart, you create a connection. Because Shame loves keeping secrets, and the more you open up, the more you inspire others. You set yourself free.

💬 Who needs this reminder today? Tag them below 👇

10/18/2025

✨ Perfectionism tells us that we need to “earn” rest or that we haven't done "enough" to get rest, or "rest can wait." These beliefs are very dominant in the mind of a perfecitonist because if one were to rest, then they fear they will fall behind, lose their motivation, or fall below standards.

But here’s the truth: rest is a human need, not a reward. 🌙💤

When you finally give yourself permission to slow down, you realize how much of life you’ve been missing while rushing from one thing to the next.
This week, what if you chose one night to rest without guilt? Just breathe. Just be.

💬 Tell me: What does rest look like for you?

10/17/2025

We live in a culture that glorifies being busy. But busy isn’t the same as fulfilled. 🌀

Perfectionism convinces us that if we’re not overworking, overachieving, or overfunctioning… then we’re “falling behind.” But in reality, overworking often disconnects us from what matters most: joy, relationships, and our own well-being.

This week, I want to challenge you to rewrite the story. 💜
➡️ You don’t have to do it all to be enough.
➡️ You don’t have to prove your worth through exhaustion.
➡️ You don’t have to chase perfection to feel loved.
✨ Flip through this carousel for gentle reminders that slowing down is not failure—it’s freedom.

💬 What’s one way you’re choosing to slow down this week?

10/16/2025

Meet Perfectionism — the overachiever in disguise. 🧐
It loves control, order, and high standards…
but struggles with rest, uncertainty, and self-compassion.

Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect — it’s about feeling safe.
When control becomes comfort, rest feels risky.
Noticing these patterns is the first step toward freedom. 💭
Recognize anyone familiar? 👀

10/15/2025

Let’s be real: perfectionism can feel like wearing a mask every single day. 🎭️

On the outside, you appear confident, capable, maybe even “perfect.” You seem to have it all put together so effortlessly, without a flaw or a hiccup. People can rely on you to plan ten steps ahead and consistently offer assistance.

On the inside? You’re battling doubt, fear of failure, and the constant feeling of not measuring up. You feel depleted, exhausted, and overwhelmed. You question every decision you make. Wonder if you upset anyone. Wonder if you missed a step that will cause a catastrophe.

I see you. I’ve been there too.

💞 Healing isn’t about ripping off the mask overnight—it’s about gently loosening it, piece by piece, until you remember what it feels like to breathe freely.

💫You are not your perfectionism. You are the human underneath, and she is enough.

Tell me in the comments: What’s one mask you’re ready to set down?

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10/14/2025

The biggest challenge I see when it comes to letting go of perfectionism is the confusion as to how you would set goals, follow your dreams, and find motivation during the hard times.

Because reality is that your perfectionism served a purpose once—it kept you safe, helped you succeed, made you feel in control.

But now? It’s exhausting you. It only leads to burnout, anger, agitation, and depletion. No wonder you feel insecure and behind.

Here’s the truth: you don’t have to let go of ambition, you just need to let go of the fear driving it.

💫Today, remind yourself: “I can strive without self-shame.”

💬Share this if you’re learning to lead with compassion instead of criticism.

🔥 Struggling with perfectionism and the pressure to always "measure up"?�Comment "I am ready" and I’ll send you my free 6-step email course:�Overcoming Perfectionism—for good.�Let’s quiet the noise and start showing up for your version of success.

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10/13/2025

We live in a culture that praises overachieving, overworking, and overfunctioning. This is not the same thing as celebrating when something wonderufl happens like getting a promotion or acceptance to a college. I am talking about the toxic culture that expects you to always do more, make every minute meaningul and productive.

This leaves very little room for resting! What about being instead of always doing?

Perfectionism convinces us that slowing down equals failure.

But I want to remind you: slowing down is often the bravest choice. It’s in the pause that healing happens. It’s in the quiet that you reconnect with yourself.

🍁 iWhat if this week you chose one moment—just one—to pause without guilt? To breathe. To rest. To notice your heart beating without rushing to the next task.
Because you are already worthy… even in the stillness.

💬 Comment below: What helps you slow down when perfectionism wants you to speed up?

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10/10/2025

Vulnerability is the antidote to Perfectionism! 💫

In a world that expects you to always be composed, productive, and doing it all — dare to be messy, authentic, and imperfect.

Because vulnerability isn’t a weakness…
✨ It’s courage in action.
💬 It’s the bridge to connection.
💖 It’s what sets you free.

When you let go of perfection, you make room for truth, growth, and genuine connection. That’s where real strength lives. 🌿

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