Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

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Menije Boduryan, Psy.D.

I give tips on how high-achieving women can overcome perfectionism
📍Woodland Hills, CA (psy26351)

Perfectionism University - A place where you can unlearn Perfectionism and start your journey of embracing imperfections and owning your enoughness.

12/10/2025

If I wasn’t worried about hurting your feelings, here’s what I’d tell you as a psychologist — and you probably need to hear it:

1️⃣ Perfectionism isn’t a strength. It’s an anxiety-driven coping skill that keeps you overworking and under-living.
2️⃣ Your worth isn’t measured by performance. If doing everything “right” is the only way you feel valuable, that’s not confidence — that’s fear.
3️⃣ Mistakes are data. They teach you what skill, boundary, or support you need next. They don’t define you.
4️⃣ Trying to keep everyone happy isn’t kindness. It’s people-pleasing rooted in insecurity and guilt. Real kindness includes yourself.
5️⃣ Perfectionism is costing you your life. Memories, joy, freedom, spontaneity — all paused until things are “just right.”

💥I’m not saying this to call you out — I’m saying it to call you back to yourself.

You don’t need to be perfect to be respected, loved, or successful.

💫Less pressure. More living. More you.

12/07/2025

5 Things People Forget About Self-Care 💛 (Especially for the Perfectionists)
Self-care often gets tangled up in perfectionism—because when you’re used to doing everything “right,” it’s easy to forget that care doesn’t need to be earned or executed flawlessly.

✨ You get to make it your own. Perfectionism pushes people to look outward for the “correct” way, but self-care only works when it reflects you.
✨ It can be five minutes or a full day. Perfectionists often feel it has to be a big production to count—when really, consistency matters more than scale.
✨ You don’t need anyone’s approval. The pressure to please or perform can make simple rest feel like something you need permission for.
✨ It can be fun and fast-paced or slow and intimate. Perfectionism tricks you into believing there’s a “proper” vibe for self-care. There isn’t.
✨ It’s a must-have, not an afterthought. When you’re busy meeting every expectation, your needs end up last on the list—yet they’re the foundation for everything else.

Perfectionists don’t forget self-care because they don’t care—they forget because they’re trying so hard everywhere else. Time to bring yourself back to the center. 💛

11/20/2025

Perfectionism often disguises itself as “motivation.”

But underneath the drive to do more, be more, achieve more… is usually fear.
Fear of failure.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of not being enough.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of change.
Fear of not being enough.
Fear of being imperfect.

Here’s the shift:
🌸 Real motivation is rooted in love, not fear.
🌸 Growth is fueled by compassion, not criticism.
🌸 Rest, joy, and connection matter as much as achievement.

Heading into the weekend, ask yourself: Am I moving from fear or from love? 🌿💜

💬 Share below: What’s one loving motivation you’re carrying forward today?

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11/19/2025

Signs perfectionism might be running the show 👇
⚡ You feel guilty resting.
⚡ You avoid trying new things unless you’re sure you’ll succeed.
⚡ You replay “mistakes” in your head long after they’re over.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. 🌿

This carousel will walk you through each sign—because Perfectionism has multiple parts!

Sometimes perfectionism manifests as replaying mistakes you've made, finding them unacceptable, and struggling to let go.

At other times, perfectionism manifests as a fear of trying new things, taking risks, and leaving your comfort zone because you are afraid the outcomes won't be perfect.

And last but not least, perfectionism prevents you from resting, relaxing, and prioritizing self-care. It makes you feel guilty to slow down, say no, and put your needs first.

💬 Which sign resonates most with you right now?

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11/18/2025

Perfectionism often says: “Don’t celebrate—you could’ve done better.” As if celebrating less than perfect results would make you less motivated or mediocre.

But here’s the truth: every step forward matters. 🌱 You deserve to celebrate showing up and trying your best! Every effort matters!

If you only measure success by perfection, you’ll always feel like you’re falling short. But when you measure by progress, you start to see how far you’ve come.

This is just a gentle reminder to honor your growth—even if it’s imperfect. Because progress is worth celebrating. 🎉

💬 What’s one small win you can honor this week?

11/17/2025

There is a vicious cycle to perfectionism ⬇️
1️⃣ Set impossibly high standards
2️⃣ Work tirelessly to meet them
3️⃣ Feel anxious or ashamed when it’s not “enough”
4️⃣ Repeat

Sound familiar? 🌪️

You think Perfectionism gets you closer to your goals, when in actuality, you find yourself going round and round, trying to please your unrealistically high expectations, only to find yourself never getting close to the finish line. The only thing that happens is your anxiety gets higher, and your self-esteem gets lower.

The good news: cycles can be broken.

Healing starts with awareness, compassion, and small shifts in how you speak to yourself. 🌿

💬 Which part of this cycle feels most real for you?

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11/16/2025

🌟 Imperfection makes you relatable.

Perfection creates distance.

💬 Comment 💜 if you’re learning to embrace the messy middle.

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11/15/2025

Hey High Functioning Perfectionist! Here is your reminder for the weekend:
Rest is not a reward for finishing your to-do list. 🌙
It’s a necessity for your mind, body, and soul.

Perfectionism will whisper, “You haven’t done enough yet" or "rest can wait."

The truth is, you have done enough and rest is not something worthy of delaying! It is something you need to prioritize. Because you are a better version of you when you get the rest you need!

💬 This weekend, what’s one way you can rest without guilt?

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