The Lighthouse Bulb LLC

10/21/2025

Zenda-Lee Williams
Reminder Survivor 💜

10/20/2025

10/20/2025

10/20/2025

IT’S NO COINCIDENCE THAT EVERYONE BUT THE NARCISSIST ENDS UP IN THERAPY. They are the masters of emotional chaos, turning every conversation into a minefield and every interaction into a test of your sanity. They twist the truth, rewrite history, and make you question your own perceptions until you’re exhausted just trying to hold onto reality. The people around them carry the emotional fallout—friends, partners, children, colleagues—spending months or years untangling the guilt, confusion, and anxiety the narcissist leaves behind.

You replay conversations in your mind, dissecting every word and gesture, wondering what you did wrong, why you weren’t enough, and how someone could be so charming one moment and cruel the next. You begin to doubt yourself, your instincts, and even your own memories, because the narcissist is always telling a different story, always spinning the narrative to keep the spotlight on themselves.

Meanwhile, the narcissist moves through life untouched, unexamined, and often oblivious—or deliberately indifferent—to the damage they’ve caused. They are experts at avoiding accountability, projecting their flaws onto others, and convincing the world that they are the victim. Everyone else bears the burden: the sleepless nights, the therapy bills, the self-doubt, and the painstaking work of reclaiming boundaries and rebuilding trust in themselves.

Therapy becomes the necessary sanctuary, a place to make sense of the chaos, to repair the parts of yourself that were eroded by manipulation, and to learn to see the truth clearly again. It’s no coincidence—it’s the inevitable consequence of being close to someone who thrives on control, deception, and emotional domination.

10/20/2025

Here's where the stigma gets started so let's take it a step further. It isn't "potential" that most victims of dv stayed too long for..... Abusers know when to follow through on CERTAIN aspirations, goals, or promises to keep you at the edge of your seat. Most victims aren't gazing at false potential. They're being manipulated in ways so diabolical that the victims sound like their making excuses or telling lies when the truth comes out. It's done this way by design. They isolate you. They PROVE that they are who they said they were. They start to become someone else right before your eyes. They go back and forth between the two around the abuse cycle. Abusers aren't dumb and neither are their victims. One is usually vulnerable and doing their best to find a flow, while the other is plotting. See it for what it is. Stop the stigma.

You saw potential. Don't be hard on yourself if they didn't choose that path.

10/19/2025

"Family courts’ failure to tackle domestic abuse laid out in damning new report"

Dismissiveness towards victims, ignorance around abuse and pervasive pro-contact culture found to be putting children at risk

📰 https://bit.ly/3WBclxd

10/19/2025

💜DV Awareness Month 💜

Even if I help ONE victim blamer wrap their head around these 2 FACTS this month, I'll be satisfied:

1. In most cases, victims/survivors/thrivers of any age are being abused by more than one person at any given chapter of their lives (parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, other relatives, "friends", intimate partners, authority figures outside of their personal lives) with a combination of physical, sexual, psychological, emotional, verbal, spiritual, or financial abuse.

2. They've come across PLENTY of people who chose NOT to abuse their kindness, empathy, or vulnerability, but the abusers chose to be abusive.

When you've always been surrounded by abuse you'll subconsciously resonate with love bombing, false promises, and the cycle of abuse AUTOMATICALLY until you show yourself true love & fulfilled promises. Many have no idea how to show themselves because they've only ever known the opposite.

STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM. Abusers will always choose to abuse as long as the people around them help them justify their actions with stigma.

You do better AAAAFTERRRRR you know better....not before. Stop expecting victims to do this in the wrong order.