12/15/2025
“No, your baby can’t self-soothe at night… and that’s not a bad thing 🤍”
Your baby isn’t giving you a hard time — they’re having a hard time.
Infant brains are brand new. Unlike adult brains, they haven’t yet developed the ability to turn stress off. The parts of the brain responsible for calming, reasoning, and regulation are still under construction. That’s why babies are co-regulators — they rely on you to help their nervous system settle.
When your baby cries at night, their brain is saying:
👉 “I need help.”
👉 “I don’t feel safe yet.”
👉 “I’m learning how the world works.”
This is why responsive support (feeding, rocking, cuddling, soothing) isn’t “creating bad habits.” It’s building the brain. Over time, with repeated safe and calm experiences, your baby learns how to regulate — and eventually self-soothe.
Sleep skills come after safety, connection, and development — not before.
✨ You’re not doing it wrong.
✨ Your baby isn’t broken.
✨ There’s a reason why.
If you’re navigating sleep and want support that’s developmentally appropriate, gentle, and evidence-based, I’m here to help 🤍