Lillian Lai, LCSW

09/24/2025

09/15/2025

A simple question “How’s your day?” can be overwhelming and confusing to kids. And us the parents tend not to be satisfied with the answer “Good.”
Let’s try to ask in different ways and see which one is more engaging.

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💬 Tired of hearing “fine” when you ask how school was? Try these after-school questions that actually get your kids talking. 🚌💙 From storytelling to problem-solving to gentle statements that show you care, these prompts invite connection without pressure—because some kids don’t want to be interviewed right after a long day!

Whether your child had a tough day, a great one, or something in between, these conversation starters help them open up in a way that feels safe and supported.

09/08/2025

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😮 “They’re just being naughty.”
🤔 “They’re doing it for attention.”
🙅 “They should know better by now.”

When a child comes home from school and falls apart, it’s easy for these myths to creep in. But the reality? After-school restraint collapse is a release of everything they’ve been holding inside all day.

It’s not misbehaviour — it’s communication.

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07/15/2023

Parents and caregivers can be a big part of treatment. Here are some ways you can be supportive in your child's mental health.

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Here are some ways we manage it.

01/24/2023

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Younger children are often overlooked in this discourse, but these 10 signs can help you spot mental health issues in your child early on.

01/11/2023

Yes, it's raining out there. BUT it doesn't mean that we have to stop having fun with our little ones!

Great activities to do when you're stuck indoors!

https://teaching2and3yearolds.com/easy-toddler-indoor-activities/

11/28/2022

It's ok to set boundaries.
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11/15/2022

Most kids might be looking forward to the holiday seasons. But holiday seasons can be stressful to some of them. Why and how can we do to help?

https://www.understood.org/en/articles/8-difficult-holiday-situations-for-kids-with-anxiety

Holidays can challenging for kids who already struggle with anxiety. Here are 8 holiday situations that can contribute to anxiety, and how to help.

10/19/2022

10/12/2022

Yea... I have heard some of these from my clients. You might feel that your kids and teens don't care about or need you much. They might have even said it out loud. But do they really mean it?

09/28/2022

It’s not about teaching our children NOT to be mad. It’s about teaching them HOW to be mad. 😡

Feeling mad is an important human emotion. When it is suppressed, our kids grow into adults who don’t know how to feel, are scared to feel, suppress, or explode. When we teach skills for all emotional states, especially those unpleasant ones, our children grow into adults who feel and regulate.

So, rather than teaching our children to bottle their emotions, we can empower them to move through them in healthy ways.

This is a pretty tricky thing for those of us who were never taught safe emotional expression and regulation.

The process of wiring feelings and regulation circuits is a daily lived experience, not a one-time checklist or perfect script. But we do have some tools. Here’s 5.

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08/18/2022

Do you think you can do these for you kids?

Six simple ways to help kids manage emotions! ❤