12/01/2021
Good starting tips for new baby! Of course, there are a lot of variations of “normal”, so if your instincts are telling you something isnt right, get baby checked out. Each of my 4 seemed to be completely different!!
👣 Newborn notes, specially for new moms..
1. The hiccups are normal.
2. The sneezing is normal. It’s not allergies.
3. The b***y is going to get red (baby's, not yours). This is from the constant wiping and moisture. If ulcers start to form, be more gentle with the wiping or even run that t***y under some warm water in the sink rather than wiping, and apply a barrier cream with each diaper change. Air dry b***y often.
4. No amount of lotion will help that peeling, flakey skin in the first few weeks. They shed that first layer after they're born.
5. No need for lotion, unless your pediatrician tells you so.
6. After they lay down for awhile, they often sound congested. This is usually because of reflux, which all infants experience at some point or another.
7. If you’ve chosen to breastfeed - congratulations on a great way to feed and nourish your child!
8. If you’ve chosen to formula feed - congratulations on a great way to feed and nourish your child!
9. Spitting up is normal now and then. Sometimes it comes out of the nose, yes. That’s okay.
10. Putting the baby on a schedule is hard at first. They really need to eat as much as their brains are telling them to - and that often seems sporadic and chaotic, but it needs to happen. You can start some simple sleep training steps from day one, though. Start waking your baby at the same time every morning. And put her in the living room during the day for the first month - make sure there’s lots of light and noise in the area. Even if she’s sleeping through it, this will start to “set” the circadian rhythms - which tell her when to be awake and when to sleep. At the same time each night, turn lights low and put baby in a quiet room.
11. During the day, feed your baby at least every 3 hours. They’ll want to eat more often than that sometimes, and that’s okay. But if it’s been 3 hours, go ahead and wake her up. We want to get as many “daytime calories” in them as possible!
12. There is a very common, very gassy/grumpy phase they start around week 3. It is called the Period of PURPLE Crying. Often, during a certain part of the day (i.e., evening), they will cry, grunt, and generally look uncomfortable.
13. Some babies p**p with every feed. Some babies p**p once a week. Both are normal.
14. It’s common for the hands and feet to be purple sometimes, especially if their leg is squeezed or they’re cold. This is called acrocyanosis and goes away with time. Always call us or an ambulance if you’re noticing any difficulty breathing, or if the tongue or gums look dusky or purple - this is different.
15. You don't have to clip the finger and toenails. You can peel or file them down.
16. Belly buttons are weird. Umbilical cords are weird. They ooze a little now and then and sometimes there’s a spot of blood on the diaper as they’re drying up and falling off. Let your pedi know if the skin around the cord is red and if that redness is spreading. Or if you feel like yellow goo oozing from it is excessive or soaks into clothes.
I know you feel alone, but know that you're not alone in your isolation these days, and there are still ways to connect. Create a safe "pod" of help and support and if you're my patient, know that I am in it with you.
It's okay to feel weird, and "off" those first few weeks or months - I did.
It's okay if you don't feel connected to your baby at first - I didn't. It was like a loud elephant was suddenly in the room.
If your feelings overwhelm you or worry you, PLEASE ask for help.
Book smarts are nothing compared to experience, my friends. You will know more every minute, hour, and day.
Take care.
