09/08/2025
Expressive Writing
What it is: A simple, private practice where you write for 20 minutes a day for four days about a stressful or painful experience. Write continuously, for yourself only, without worrying about grammar or polish. Think of it as putting feelings into words so your mind can make sense of them.
How to do it:
Pick four consecutive days. Set a 20-minute timer.
Write freely about the most upsetting experience youâre ready to explore. Include thoughts, feelings, memories, and what it means for who youâre becoming.
Keep the pen moving. If you stall, write âIâm not sure what to sayâ until more arrives.
Decide what to do with it after. Keep, tuck away, or discard. The benefit comes from writing, not from saving it.
When to use it: Helpful after losses, transitions, conflict, or when old memories keep intruding. If youâre in acute crisis, newly traumatized, or feel overwhelmed, wait until you have more support. Stop any session that spikes distress and ground yourself (breath, walk, cold water, call a support).
Why it helps: Carrying unspoken stress can keep the body on alert. Turning swirling emotion into language creates a steadier narrative, which often lowers mental load and makes room for clarity.
What to expect:
Expect some emotional âafterglowâ for an hour or so; plan gentle care afterward.
Write honestly, not perfectly. The benefit is in the process, not the prose.
Notice language shifts over the daysâfrom raw detail toward meaning-making.