04/22/2025
Maybe you're here because someone is dead. I'm here because someone is dead. Maybe you've come because life has irrevocably changed — through accident or illness, through violent crime or act of nature.
How random and fragile life can be.
If you've found yourself here, in this life you didn't ask for, in this life you didn't see coming, I'm sorry. I can't tell you it will all work out in the end. I can't tell you things will be just fine.
You are not "OK." You might not ever be "OK."
This place is not about fixing you, or fixing your grief. Our work is not about making you "better" or getting you back to "normal." This is about how you live inside your loss. How you carry what cannot be fixed. How you survive.
And even though that thought—that you CAN survive something as horrifying as this—is unsettling and horrifying in its own right, the truth is, you will most likely survive.
Your survival in this life post-loss won't follow steps or stages, or align with anyone else's vision of what life might be for you. Survival won't be found, can't be found, in easy answers or in putting your lost life behind you, pretending you didn't really want it anyway.
In order to survive, to find that life that feels authentic and true to you, we have to start telling the truth. This really is as bad as you think. Everything really is as wrong, and as bizarre, as you know it to be. When we start there, we can begin to talk about living with grief, living inside the love that remains.
I am so sorry you have need of this place, and I'm so glad you're here.